Wild raging Tantrum | ADHD Information

is he getting any intervention or help for the autism? It would seem to me that that would be more likely causing the raging than ADHD, and meds can't fix autism, although antipsychotics often help, but not stims or antidepressants! Is he seeing an autism specialist?

Hi Happyrock - just wanted to say I hope things go better for you today. It can be so difficult when we try the best we can and our kids just don't understand all the love in the world we have for them and how much we want them to understand and succeed (and keep our sanity) This board is great knowing others have been in the same situation and REALLY DO UNDERSTAND and feel for you.

What an afternoon!!!

Our 13 year old son went on an absolute blinding rage and scared me to the point that I hid in the bathroom.  He was angry because I wanted him to do some work.  I've been homeschooling him (distance education program) for about 5 weeks.  He wastes so much time and was getting stressed because he was tired.  All in all he had about 1 hour of work all day but had drawn it out between playing on his computer.  So I took the computer, PSP and camera away.  Then any other toy he would play with because he had to finish his work.  I was calm but he just lost it!!!!!  I could hear something being thrown and didn't know until I came out of the room (I rang my husband to come home for reinforcement).  He had taken all his trophies and a beautiful 3D sphere bird jig saw puzzle and thrown them on the grown.  He then brown the puzzle up and snapped the pieces.  I was furious.  He was so weird. Jumping around a just baiting me - Maybe he didn't have his lunch ritalin but I did give it to him.  My husband thought he was like a caged frightened animal!!!!  He's now had everything taken away and will have to buy another puzzle.  He even got a photo from holidays and scribbled out his face in marker!!!!  He kept saying the work was too hard and I wouldn't help - (I sit beside him most days but today was around and helped him at each little step.)

I was so angry at him - he didn't want to do the work and when the pressure was applied he thought if he was distructive we'd leave him alone!!! Like a red flag to a bull!!!!! After he had calmed down abit I made him finish his work.  Then my husband sat down with him and I went to Curves - gee did I have that equipment red hot!!!!! He's off to the bank to get money out to buyanother puzzle.   Everything electronic has been taken out of his room.  I was so proud of myself - I stayed calm even though I wanted to strangle him!!! Consequences are something he finds hard to deal with!!! I know he's suffering from depression and stress (he left school 5 weeks ago) but he just can't treat his things, our things and us like that.

He just doesn't get it - do the work and then its over - only about 3 hours a day!!!!  But he draws it out!!!!!  I hate defiance!!!!!  He's only tiny - only about 30kg (about 70ish lb).  How do you cope when they get bigger and go on a rage?

 

Happyrock... I know you love your son.  My concern is for your well being at this point.  Homeschooling seems like something  that is not in your best interest or your son's at the moment.  Have you considered other avenues?  Goodluck in finding just the right way to handle your son and his special needs.  Take care of yourself along the way.

Has he had a reevaluation recently? To me it sounds like too much to be simply ADHD. Yes. We have a diagnosis of high functioning autism.  Any previous rages have been associated with a bad reaction to meds.  He's been on ritalin and zoloft for ages.  It was just so calculating - If I throw things then I won't have to do any work.  I don't believe he is bipolar because the rages can be associated with rebounding of meds.  It's 11:30 and he is still up - can't settle!  He's been in and out of bed for 2 hours.  This is not different from normal but after trying to get him to work all day and then the raging episode I am really over him!!!!!!

I live in a small city of 25,000 people about 7 hours from our state capital.  We have very little choice in schooling.  We have sent our 15 year old to boarding school to give her a wider opportunity.  He was having a total break down being at school and it was on the urgent advice of the psychiatrist and pediatrican that we home school him.  We are following distance education which means that he has modules to cover and talks on the phone in group lessons each day.  Being a teacher is hard because I know what he should be doing!!!! I've set up systems for reward etc.  One specialist has suggested we find someone to tutor him during the day - I am very apprehensive about this besides it would cost a fortune!!!! We'll survive but I am concerned when he gets bigger -  we accept bad treatment we'll get bad treatment.   It's just so frustrating and their seems to be no alternatives with schools here.  None of them understand or see the need for accomodations and implementing IEP's!!!! Autism is something they just don't want to know about. 

Todays another day!!!!! chin is up chest is out - time to wake him!!!  Thank you for your support and for letting me vent!!!!