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<Que smiley who slaps forehead and says 'Doh!'> for my original reply.

HoneyBee

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Well, I live in the US. My son is ADD and 15. Diagnosed early this year. No one really cares. There's been very little change in the way people treat him. Now that he's on Adderall, everybody treats him like it's just insulin, no big deal. He was and still is very popular, esp with the girls.

Couple thoughts, that will likely offend:

I have seen that most of the negative beating-up and perception of nonacceptance and obsessive rumination on this issue in ADD-ers in generated exclusively in their own heads, and is not reflective of reality. As GlenW says, once he got medicated, he discovered ppl not focused on him as much as he thought. Please get over your collective selves with the persecution complex.

No one wants to eradicate ADD. If it causes problems in your life, like if you can't get good grades and you want to, then treat it. If you want to have a rewarding relationship and cannot, treat it. If you find you can do these things or if you don't want them, fine, go unmedicated. All the drama and conspiracy theories is in your own heads.

The rest of us are just trying to get on with our lives. OK? You are not the sun and my world does not revolve around you. Deal with it.

Sorry to be so offensive, but this kind of mindset just sets me off.

I live in the US and spent a week across the big pond. I can say without a doubt I felt more accepted there as a tourist than I do some places her as a native. I love America, but we due tend to be judgemental. I also think that some of the most judgemental people are the ones who have spent the least amount of time introducing themselves to new things. We are brought up to believe what we see in the news and form an opinion from that. All the while the news media is growing more and more biased towards ratings and less objective. My trip to London blew away any stereotypes I had misconcieved, but I didn't even know I had formed those opinions until they were banished. I hate to say it but the average Londoner that I talked to was more friendly than most Americans.

I guess what I'm trying to say is I think I see both Artemis and chJones point. We as Americans don't want to be judged by somebody from another country, in fact we are tired of being judged period. There does seem to be a hidden force driving Americans to feel like they have to look a certian way or act a certain way or you won't fit in. I in fact still don't tell everyone I know that I'm ADHD because I know I might be unjustley labelled as broken. If you ever think your not judged, then just go ahead and put ADHD on your job resume and see how well you do. Also when I was in London I had to interact with people many times and not once did me or the wife feel judged, in fact many people enjoyed asking questions about the states. Maybe I am wrong, but I took what CHJONES had to say as slightly satiracle (SP) and light hearted rather than judgemental and condensending.

Or maybe since I'm ADHD I'm just judging myself. Damn Me

well thanks mumoftwo ---- glad you found your way to this site too.

and i reckon its probably a saving grace to have a sense of humour when you are the parent of an ADDer --- you'll need it!


... hey guys ...

... the adder connected mind means that stream of consciousness turns into a torrent.

We are linkin' park :-)

by the way - another method for describing te adder mind vs the nonadder mind is quasicrystal vs crystal forms.

Quasicrystal regularity is only observed in higher dimensional space.

i.e. -> 4d.

... check out Lisa Randall 'Prof Theoretical Physics - Harvard Uni ... + search term ->- quasicrystal {10d,11d,12d,13d}



SB_UK39053.5412962963PS nutters ->- eccentric

cheeky!

-<- he won't leave me alone.

        im so glad i found this site  shawnb and chjones you just cheered me up like you wouldnt know

...that the only people who seem to be pro-ADD so far are from the UK?  is that because we have a tradition in the UK of accepting nutters as a probably positive thing?

or is it more (spooky spooky) that there is a weird kind of indoctrination thing going on in the USA to ensure that ADDers are seen as the lowest of the low, an evil, something that needs to be eradicated.  a disorder that needs to be genetically eliminated or at least medicated away??? 

hmmmm --- ya know its beginning to spook me.   i don't want to be eradicated!  and i value my addled friends too (i value the normals as well - don't get me wrong - but no-one is eradicating them) with all their flaws and miserable personalities.  their arrogance, selfishness, pompousness, distractability, stupidity, smugness, anxiety, inconsideration, incapability, addictions and troubles, i like them.  i don't want them to be disappeared.

this school 'testing' for mental problems.  they are hunting down ADDers at an earlier and earlier age and 'treating' them.  they've created a curriculum in which they will be easily exposed as it is untenable to them - but why? 

i know, i know you could say there was a financial interest for the pharmaceutical companies but maybe, there is something else....  something deeper and darker and more devilish going on?????????? 

well probably not.  but it is odd. 

these funny ideas of eradicating us (for our own benefit of course).

i am not sure we want to be eradicated.  and i am not sure a society of only normals benefits anyone either.

and i know, i know nobody is eradicating anyone --- merely giving us the tools to be more effective yada yada yada.  there is no eradication - just amelioration.  a new, better kind of ADDer.  a new, improved version.  just getting rid of the rubbish bits.  and after all the last version was pretty crap when you look at it - prone to depression, anxiety, addiction and generally absolutely hopeless with social interaction and of course the holy grail of a mammon-based society - productivity!  who wouldn't want a better version.  what can i be complaining about?  i must be mad.


chjones39053.4569212963You know.. I'm happy with who I am, just not happy with a few things that I can't seem to make myself control. (mostly not wanting to do housework and beating myself up for it) and another part that makes me insecure for no reason and making me think my husband is cheating on me when I absolutely 100% know for sure he's not! (for one he has no time to do it ) I know he loves me. I don't know why I think these things.. or feel jealous when I know deep down I'm not a jealous type. Maybe it's just that I've finally allowed myself to fall in love and I'm scared of losing him. Maybe I have other issues.. but for these I would like to have some help medically to control these issues for myself.. not for Society because I couldn't care less what others think of me, outside of my family and friends.  

I am very thankful for the ADD traits that allows me to be a Creative, Free-Thinker, and God I love it when I can Hyper- Focus and complete things in an insanly short amount of time and be able to meet my deadlines, because I force myself to do that. I'm able to control that part. However, I am not able to control the procrastination that makes me have to go into hyper-focus mode to begin with. 


Hmmm thinking.. did I even stay on topic with my reply?
NO you did not stay on topic.  you bad, naughty child.  you must go and stand in the corner until you learn how to stay on topic!!!!!!!!!!  no free association allowed




I sorry ... runs off to the corner and picks up the dunce cap ShawnB39053.5321990741