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Sorry to hear about your daughters behavior and a choice in BOYS..

Well instead of yelling at her have you tried a different approach to her behavior and bad choices? Try to take it all day by day she needs to be loved no matter where how or who gives it to her.. Remember when you were a lteenager?  When your parents told you that you couldn't you wanted to do it even more so look about and think what could you change?   She doesn't want to believe it but you were her at one point in ur life you have been there and look are you married,  did your dad tell you no or just imbrass the thought of OH MY GOSH my little girl is growing up and I have to sometimes let her go to learn on her own or just flat out tell you NO..........?

Have you tried to spend time with her doing things that she wants to do I know that moms gross(in her mind) but it is worth a try!

Hope that helps

something i do with my daughter and get amazing result from is journal with her. not daily but as we need to discuss things we are not comfortable "talking" about we will write to each other until it feesl safe to talk. you can learn so much about them this way! I hope it helps!I am really worried for my 15 year old daughter. Her boyfriend well call him billy* has been sent away to a rehab center because of drugs and gang violence. I told my daughter she is not allowed to be with billy anymore. I notice however since billy is gone she has been acting out. bad!!. She refuses to take meds. She was out with her friend dan (one of billys friends i didnt know at the time) and my husband happend to drive by and she saw dan with a bottle of beer and my daughter smoking. When my daughter came home we confronted her and she was grounded for 2 weeks. Then this week we got a call from the school saying our daughter is suspended for 3 days for fighting this girl. Apprently this girl told my daughter she had a loud mouth and was talking bad about billy so she said she hit her. I told her home and asked her why she did it. she told me because of billy. i told her again stop you are not allowed to see billy. she told me that he was the only guy who treated her right and cared because all of her other friends dont. i told her you wanna hang out with kids who do drugs? she said if they care about me then yes. i dont know what to say anymore. they way she is acting my husband and i want to send her away.

 

I'm so sorry you and your family are having to deal with this.

Is she seeing anyone for counseling?  I'd try that route if not.   Family counseling might be beneficial as well.  I was never a believer of counseling until this past year and 1/2.  I have found it to be extremely beneficial for me and my son. 

Counseling is definitely something you should try. Your daughter is definitely having social problems that are affecting her self esteem and behavior. Even if she fights you on it, she really needs the help. She may need meds for depression and anxiety but until she has seen a counselor you won't know.

My heart goes out to her. That age is so hard and then to have to deal with the issues of fitting in and having friends you can trust is devastating.

Please remember that as angry and scared as you get, its extremely important that she know you love her and want the best for her and that you believe in her. She is looking for love and acceptance and if all she gets at home is conflict, she will keep looking elsewhere. She needs to be in a cocoon of love at home and its not going to be easy because your natural reactions are to yell and get on her case when you are worried about her behavior. She will see that as further rejection. She needs to know you love and accept her as she is right now, not as you want her to be.

You can do it.