Grrr im so so mad! | ADHD Information

I wish there was something I could say to help with this awful situation.

Sending a hug. 

Could you ask if you (and your other kids) could come with him on the taxi for a day or so?  You would have to make it clear to him that it would only be for a day or two but he's probably just nervous, and the taxi being late didn't help.

Have a hug anyway

Sorry! I don't know what to say either but wish you luck!! I would also be very upset with the school, if they only have children with special needs they are supposed to be ready for every kind of situation regarding kids as ours.

That school doesn't sound very convincing to me

My son after months off school due to fact he was expelled was due to start a special school today.They send private hire taxis for the children where they have a driver 2 other children and a lady escort with them.Well I got my son up and dressed for school, waited for the taxi, it came late.Cameron then decided he wasnt going and they said they wasnt taking him in the state he was and left.I mean he is going to a special school for children like him how did they think he would be.So I rang the school and told them he refused and she just said oh well you will have to bring him! I cant drive, I have 2 children under 2 and buses dont even go near the school.She just then said oh well we will think of something to do if not try again tommorow.Im sooo mad,thing is i have had letters threatening to take me to court for him not attending school,if they cant get him there ( the education authority) what am i meant to do?I feel like putting him in care you get no help from anyone they all want to tell you what to do but wont try it for themselves maybe they will know if they did that their ideas are crap and wont work! grrrrr The bottom line is you need to get him to school.  If he refuses  to get in the taxi tomorrow, ask the driver to call you another and you and your children can ride with him(in the other taxi).   This is only a short term fix but perhaps he will like school ( once he gets there) and not give you any trouble the next day.  You can tell your little guy that each day you have to spend money to take a taxi to get him to school will be less money that you can spend on christmas gifts ...anyways just an idea joemom39055.4011805556

Anyway, I don't want to be disappointing, try again tomorrow and see what happens. Gutsy's idea sounds very good. Call the school and ask if this is possible? I think that probably your son wants to be more confident, and try to see if there is somebody who can look after your other kids just for this ocassion.

I wish you luck!!

If you are reported for his non attendance, you will need something to show how many times you had him ready and they wouldn't take him.

I would contact the school principal in an e-mail each time and just say something to the effect that they refused again to take him and they know its his only way of getting there. The first time ask if they can provide an alternative means of transportation. State in every e-mail that you are requesting this e-mail be put in his permanent file. Make sure you set your e-mail so that you get a copy. Keep that copy. Either print it out or save it to disk so you don't lose it if your computer goes. It might be a good idea to do both. (I tend to over do important things like that just in case. If you need the info when your computer is down and you can't access the disk, you have a copy>)

You need to cover your butt and make sure you can prove it was the school, not you who didn't do their part in getting him there. He is special ed. Maybe once they know that you are keeping track they will put it in his IEP that he have a special taxi with no other kids provide his ride until he is comfortable riding in one. You can suggest it. If they tell you no, ask them for a prior written notice (PWN) showing why they can't/won't provide necessary transportation. They will either back down or provide you with one. By law they have to.

 

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i understand your sentiment but that just isnt an option.i dont pay for the transport to school the education authority do.As its a special needs school no regular children go you would think they would be used to it.The school is 10 miles away and would cost around £60's in taxi fare thats around 0 would you pay that kind of money?I do have another option if they keep refusing to take him he will have to have a home tutor,Im not sure he will cope with any kind of school.Though tommorow they are out all day to a pantomine so maybe he will go..have to wait and see.Barbara thanks about the email thing I will do that.Same goes for havin a taxi he knows.Tommorow my partner will take day off work losing us over £100 and so near to xmas so that in case he does not go we will take him,im hoping its just a case of him starting being nervous and that if he gets a designated buddy to be in same taxi everyday we could be ok.Im so convinced my son is autisitc in that he likes sameness and routine but Doctors here rarely diagnose it.Will let you know what happens

 

[QUOTE=joemom]The bottom line is you need to get him to school.  If he refuses  to get in the taxi tomorrow, ask the driver to call you another and you and your children can ride with him(in the other taxi).   This is only a short term fix but perhaps he will like school ( once he gets there) and not give you any trouble the next day.  You can tell your little guy that each day you have to spend money to take a taxi to get him to school will be less money that you can spend on christmas gifts ...anyways just an idea [/QUOTE]