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Ok, I have to respond to this one. I took care of a 8 year old boy and his mother in the ER the other night. The boy was out of control and the mother was wringing her hands stating that she did not know what to do with him. At the same time, she stated that she could not resist her son's looks and this child was wearing very expensive Nike sneakers and expensive name brand clothes.
She told me how she is "wooping" him and that it has No affect on him. NO KIDDING. I explained the marble system to her and that the child will respond better to praise and rewards than beatings. I told her that she needed to be consistant and that if she hung with it, it would work. Her response to this? to tell me that she means it when she threatens him but she cannot resist his requests. I told her to brace herself for the worst.
What I read in that article was not an ADHD thing. It sounded more like a mother who never disciplined her child, never gave him limits and let him get away with things when he was small and "cute" amd she could not resist. She is not reaping the rewards.
Yeah well do the math...this mom was 15 when he was born. This is not to say that all teenaged mom's are poor parents, or poor disciplinarians, or poorly parented themselves, but it is difficult to be a parent when you are still a child youself....and come on...if the grandparents (who are apparently in the child's life as well) were decent at parenting, then this child would be a better behaved child as well...I agree that this sounds like a major parenting problem... Im sorry I have always found this board helpful but i do not agree with some of the comments you have made.Just because people have children young does not mean that they cant discipline them.I had my son at 17 he is wild out of control a total nightmare who if he isnt careful will be in jail by the time he is 16.On the other hand I have a perfectly behaved 2 year old and a 9 month old baby, ok so the 9 month old cant get up to much but he is so different than when my son was his age.So when people have one extremely naughty child who does not do as he his told regardless of sanctions (ie takin toys dvd player away) or the marble system or medication or all the other behavioural strategies thrown at you, does this mean I am a bad parent?Some people on here would struggle to get their child diagnosed adhd in the uk.Its easy to say something will work just because it has worked for you.Im sorry but I am livid! How you are judging this womans actions be it right or wrong is out of order.I have had my child called stupid and thick and a retard in the street because he will not behave, no matter what i have tried.Maybe people are thinking the excat same thing that you are a bad parent when you are out in the street.For this reason I wont be coming on here anymore , it is supposed to be a support network not a sl*gging off match!!!!! Maybe if there was more help for kids like these ( believe me there is nowhere near enough where i am) that they could/would turn out.Thank you and good nightim sorry there is so many baddthings that go on in this world about children these days..i didnt want to post this here to past judgmnet on others however
it was so sadd to hear that a child could and has been treated like this
im in california and lord knows that we have major issue parents killing ther kids or throwing them in the bay ..and it just makes me sick to here this happens..so whe i read this i thought my gosh! what kind sof parenting is going on here that poor child must need some help weather or not its adhd or what ever the issues are ..to go to jail over opening a darn x-mas present ..i think is way to exsteme!
alls im saying is we need to be there for our kids no matter what age we are and own up to be responsible for them until they cando it them self ..
once again love your children unconditionally everyday !!
Everyone's situation is different - it sounds to me like this mother is trying to reach out for help. Hopefully the child will get the help that he needs. It does sound very extreme though. Maybe this mom has no idea how to go about getting help for her child.
Cameronsmummy, I think you are taking the comments too personally. You are obviously a caring mother or you would not be here in the first place. I don't think anyone intended to offend you. I know you have your hands fulls with your son and his new school. I hope everything works out . What is the penalty for opening your Christmas presents too early? For one South Carolina 12-year-old, the penalty was arrest. A Rock Hill, S.C., woman called police and asked them to arrest her son who opened a Christmas present early after being told not to, the Rock Hill Herald reported. Police went to the house and arrested the boy and charged him with petty larceny. The paper reported that the boy's great-grandmother had specifically told him not to open his present, which contained a Nintendo Game Boy Advance. It was wrapped and lying under the Christmas tree, the police report stated. But on Sunday morning, the gift was unwrapped and the box was empty. So when the boy's mother found out, she alerted police, the paper reported. "He took it without permission. He wanted it. He just took it," said the 63-year-old great-grandmother told the Herald. The women said that the boy lied to them at first, saying he was unaware of where the video game system was. After threat of calling the police, the boy apparently gave the toy back to his mother, the paper reported. But the upset mother called police anyway. Two officers responded and charged the child as a juvenile with petty larceny, although he was not jailed. The mother told the Herald that she didn't know what else to do with her son, so she called police. The paper reported she is a single mother and has been struggling with constant behavior problems from the boy. She said her son still showed no remorse when the police came. "I'm trying to get him some kind of help," the 27-year-old mother told the paper. "He's the type of kid who doesn't believe anything until it happens." She said he has shoplifted, stolen money from her, punched a police officer and is nearing expulsion from school. She told the paper that she hopes this arrest will be a wake-up call for her son, because she worries about getting a call someday telling her he's been killed. The mother plans to have her son placed with the state Department of Juvenile Justice in Columbia at his court appearance, the Herald reported.
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also maybe this parent found the "nitch" that she needed to calm her son down WE ALL KNOW THAT we know our own kids and what works well for them ...right
I still feel likethe parent too was crying out for help ,,but overall on cnn.com its did say her son had a great deal of respect for the law given there was no father in the picture remember the best relationships we will have will be with the same sex parent" in the barkley book and per dr.phill...lol