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I am sorry to hear that. How old is Tom now ? 8 or 5 ?You need to stay strong and you need support.
Why not have him reevaluated and the meds he is taking ?
We will try to help but you need to get a professional involved. Maybe he has a co-morbid disorder maybe it is a phase,upbringing,surroundings etc. We know too little.
It really could be a number of reasons. You have to divulge much more info then we can maybe help you further.
My niece always pounded my sister and was very disrespectful. But then again my sister did not command respect. But she changed her discipline methods and things got much better.
worldisround39057.624837963 Look up ograms marble discipline system on another post. It may help. Your child should NEVER be allowed to hit you !! That will really make your child hate you and himself someday.By letting him disrespect you ,you are disrespecting him. Really.Think about it.How you feel about yourself will boomerang back on him (on a sub-conscious level) He is part of you.
There is no stronger emotional bond.
worldisround39057.6304513889Thanks for your feed back Tom is 8 and a half we currently see a psychiatrist and child pscychologist both of who ahev been really helpfull although my previous 2 apts have been canx due to the doctor being ill ,typical as things have been going realy well .I have recently got married and Tom and I have ived with my new husband for 4yrs he has always been in weekly contact with his birth father and he is a great support for Tom .
When things are normally tough i resor t to new bm for example charts or rearwds etc but this time sonthings differant he seems to be on adhd overload and its only at home he just looks so sad and tonight i shouted at him and told hiom that althouygh i loved him i didnt really like him just know i feel awfull for this but i just feel a bit defeated i know i need to pick this up and move on thats why im here i always come here when i dont know wher else to look its always helped on the past soory for lack of gramer but i just need to get this out
thanks again
Saying that you don't like your child can be devastating to him. Do not critisize him as a person just his behaviour. My mom did this and it caused a tense relationship.
Do you or your husband have ADD ? Just curious ?
I completly understand this which is why I am devasted my son and me are very close which is why I am struggling with whats going on I understand that for adhd survivors confidence and self esteem are a struggle and I would never make that worst but this is a testing time I just want to get back on the right path .I have made up a new bm chart starting from tommmorrow but I dont know whats causing this
thanks for your reply
My son Tom was diagonised about 2.5 yrs ago with adhd and had been taking ritalin 20mg for about 12mths .
And although medication wasnt my first or preffered option There has been a dramatic differnace in tom at home and at school.
Life with to had been great until recently and now I am completley lost and dont know what to do please help
Over the past 3 weeks ther has hardy been a 'good' day when 'bad' days wher rare he arues with me about evey thing he calls me names he hits hes so angry with no apparent reason
I like to think im on top of toms condition and me my family and school work togather to make him a happy wee boy but i just feel so lost now and im scared that i dont know what to do to fix this current sittuation i just whant my tom back and dont know if this is a phase or meds or what tom is 8.,5 yrs old
thanks
maureen
Do you think the medication is at the right dosage - meaning the correct dosage is the one where he is most successful with the least amount of side effects. It could be that he needs to revisit his medication type and dosage.
He could also be suffering from rebound - when his meds. wear off and they are irritable because it leaves their bodies so quickly like being thrown on the floor suddenly and they are usually hungry, and their blood sugars are at low levels.
You definetely want to talk to the doctor since this is a sudden change. Has anything besides the new marriage happened to him - have you asked him? How is school, friends, etc.?
Just thinking of some things that could have brought this on!
Regards!
My son was on Adderall for almost a full year and then all of a sudden it just didn't work anymore. He now is on Strattera and it is working well.
My son also has IED which is Intermitten Explosive Disorder meaning he can explode at any given second for no reason what so ever.
You may check into that.
Unfortunatly there is no meds for this. 
But it helps me to know what it is and why he is doing this. It helps to give me more patience with him. 
I also was wondering if maybe the dosage is not right for him anymore - we just went through that with my 5 year old. After only 3 weeks, suddenly he went from perfect behavior at school to back the way he was with no meds.
WE upped his dosage today, and I am hoping that it helped!
Any history of mood disorders in the family tree?