Some things you said made me wonder about Aspergers. Often ADHD is diagnosed when its really Aspergers. Check this and if he does seem to fit the criteria, you may want to have him tested by someone who can diagnose or rule it out.
I could be way off base. You know him best so you should be able to see whether he exhibits enough of the symptoms for you to go that extra mile in getting the right dx.
CHARACTERISTICS OF ASPERGER SYNDROME
Each person is different. An individual might have all or only some of the described behaviors to have a diagnosis of AS. These behaviors include the following:
Marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as: eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction.
Extreme difficulty in developing age-appropriate peer relationships. (e.g. AS children may be more comfortable with adults than with other children).
Inflexible adherence to routines and perseveration.
Fascination with maps, globes, and routes.
Superior rote memory.
Preoccupation with a particular subject to the exclusion of all others. amasses many related facts.
Difficulty judging personal space, motor clumsiness.
Sensitivity to the environment, loud noises, clothing and food textures, and odors.
Speech and language skills impaired in the area of semantics, pragmatics, and prosody (volume, intonation, inflection, and rhythm).
Difficulty understanding others’ feelings.
Pedantic, formal style of speaking; often called “ little professor”, verbose.
Extreme difficulty reading and/or interpreting social cues.
Socially and emotionally inappropriate responses.
Literal interpretation of language. difficulty comprehending implied meanings.
Extensive vocabulary. Reading commences at an early age (hyperlexia).
Stereotyped or repetitive motor mannerisms.
Difficulty with “give and take” of conversation.
I too agree that you should get him evaluated ASAP!!!! And definitly take him seriously. I can promise you this is the honest truth that when my son did that I cancelled everything I had to do the next day called our local phsyc hospital and had him evaluated the very next day. If you tell them the things he is saying and the things he is doing they are suppost to get him in the same day.
And from my sons own mouth. He says that he can't control it and that sometimes he hates himself because he hates the things that he does and he doesn't like not being able to control himself.
I am having a horrible time. First I will tell you he is in his room right now yelling and talking to himself for an hour and still going. Ok here it goes.
He is very moody.
He over reacts to everything if we tell him no on something he goes into a rage throwing himself on the floor or against the wall yelling and screaming and saying mean things, or he will begin to throw things around. Everything and anything will start a fit.
Everything is an argument! I mean everything with everyone!
He can not tie his shoes no matter how many times we show him (this may be normal kid though).He is smelling everything, even if he touches something he has to smell his hands. This is anywhere we are.
He constantly plays in his hair and sucks his tounge (sp?).
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He can get into trouble for something and do it an hour later, no matter how many times he is talked to or punished for it he wont stop doing it. He acts like he is being killed if you touch him when he is in a fit. (somtimes I have to hold his arms to make eye contact to tell him something) he yells screams says ouch like you are hurting him. When he is not in a fit or upset he does not react to touch this way.
Things have chaged in his life, we moved across country twice this year, and he has a 8 week old baby sister.
I am at a loss of what to do. Please if anyone has any isight let me know.
trevorsmom...i think there is more going on here thant just ADHD. Do your research and have him checked and tested by your pediatrician and the school.
Good luck....keep us posted....you will get lots of support here.
I feel for you. I too went through the same things with my son. and it was not long after we had his baby brother who is now 3 mons old.
He would throw himself into the wall, bite himself, scream, throw things. I can't even tell you what all. I would and sometimes still have to make him stop and look at me when I'm telling him something.
If he's having a fit to the point that he doesn't hear me when I talk I would just walk away and let him have his fit and then go back and try to talk to him when he got a little quieter.
My son has been diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, Bipolar with Depression, IED which is Intermitten Explosive Disorder that means he can explode at any given second for no reason. And he also has PANDAS Para Auto Immune Nearological Disorder Associated with Streptococaus this he has to take an Antibiotic for 6 mons and it cause some of his Obcessive and Compulsive behavior.
He is also taking Strattera for his ADHD, and Risperdahl for his Bipolar and Prozac for his Depression.
Now having said that I did not want him on all these meds. I tried to handle everything without them.
Then when I had my other son things went way down hill. To the point that he would say that he wanted to kill himself and or others and that he wished he was dead. The last straw for me was when he slapped the baby in the face and sqeezed the baby's nose closed so he couldn't breath.
I took him to a phsyc hospital and had him evaluated. And they suggested that I leave him there.
And let me tell you I did not want to, but I also felt it was the right thing for him. So I left him there. We discussed it before I did and by the time I left he was ok with it and I didn't think he would be because he is a momma's boy. and has not really ever been away from me plus with his OCD has to follow the same routine everyday or he gets all out of order.
Anyway I left him there for 1 wk. They fixed his meds and sent him home after a week and I don't regret it at all. I firmly believe that I did the right thing. Since he has been home for the most part he has been great.
Don't get me wrong sometimes we have our moments and our problems but he is a LOT better.
And when I talk to him about his meds he says he wants to take them and he likes taking them because he likes the way they make him feel. He doesn't like the way he acts without them he just can't help it.
I know it's hard I think sometimes you just have to walk away from them and let them have their fits.
I hope any of this helps.
Trevor has said he wants to be dead. One time he said he was going to jump off the roof so he does not have to be alive anymore. This is breaking my heart.
Has he had any psychiatric evaluations? I really think that you need to take his comments seriously...take him somewhere and get him evaluated. He seems to be very out of control and that has to be just as scary for him as it is for you!
Good luck and keep us posted..