wit’s end | ADHD Information

christophersmom,

My son interacted the way you describe quite frequently as a kindergarten. The reason?  In a nutshell, the other kids had no idea what my son was talking about when it came time for free play. He would make up these fantastical games and they simply didn't have a clue. He wasn't interested in using the long noodles and connectors to build fences (YAWN!), he wanted to construct complex floorplans and give each room a specific purpose (interstellar transporter room, not the bathroom!!). As a result of this communication disconnect, he would get incredibly frustrated ("Mom, don't they know my games are fun and not so babyish?") and start busting it up.  I tried to explain, not justify, this behavior, but I kept getting the "she thinks her kid is so smart" looks. When we finally had him tested, it showed that he was grade levels ahead of his peers in both reading and math. Have you had your son IQ tested? He may be bored stiff.

Some of this is just immaturity. My son was kinda like that when he was 5. Try a social skills class so he can learn to get attention from other children in appropriate ways.

Is your son diagnosed? Is he on medication?

If he is diagnosed and on meds. they are obviously not working. He needs a complete evaluation by a pediatric neurologist. If you haven't seen one yet, your pediatrician can recommend one maybe or do what I did, I called my Children's Hospital!

He sounds angry, maybe bipolar, depression, something. I would try to get to the bottom quick so that he can be happy. The kids and faculty will label your son. I would call your pediatrician today!

My M used to be quite aggressive with other children too - to the point that they stopped wanting to play with him.  He has such an engaging personality that they WANTED to play with him...but he was so impulsive that they were afraid to because they didn't know what he would do.

He is doing much better since he is on medication - his teacher at 4K and daycare say that the kids are really enjoying him again, and that he really is a leader with the group - in a positive way too now!

 

my six year old son has been sent to the principal's office again....this time for shoving, hitting, and choking other kids at both recesses today.      When the pincipal asked him why he was hurting kids, he said it was because the other kids wouldn't play with him.  He also said the reason the other kids wouldn't play with him was because he was hurting them (actually, I think the principal put those words/ideas into his head because to be honest, my son wouldn't really know why the other kids don't want to play with him).  It breaks my heart.  I'm afraid he is going to end up lonely and friendless....and I can't blame the other kids.  I'm at my wit's end.  He says he's trying. Has anyone had a similar experience and have suggestions to help.  I've tried talking to him, but he doesn't seem concerned about his behavior and doesn't seem to listen.you have got to get him on a good discipline system.  i'll pm you...what does your child been Diagnosed with? has he been tested for other things such as ODD. Children with ADHD have a impulse control issue. My son does the same thing and the school adn I are workign together to fix the issue, I would get with the school and see what you can do to make life easier on him. Point systems, marbles, reward systems seem to work with my child.