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I can't control my 8 year old any more. I don't know what to do. They tell me is a very respectful young man and he is very good at school. But he treats me and my boyfriend very badly. He has no respect for us at all. He doesn't listen to us at all. He doesn't even listen to the word no. I have had him hospitalized for a week. He is very mean to our cat. He won't let her be. The cat was trying to get a drink and he was choking her neck. I told him i will get rid of the cat. He said good because she is mean. She wouldn't be mean if he wouldn't torcher her. He sees a phyc doctor and we have a social worker that comes to the house once a week. I can't take this anymore. I can't control my 8 year old. I have been divorced for 5 years. I can't have him go live with his dad because he would only get worse. And his dad is not well off. meaning he couldn't afford to take care of him. He is on 54 mgs of concerta and 10 mgs of ridilin. He is totally out of control. He screams and tanturms when he doesn't get his way and when i say no means no. Oh sorry he just turned 9. If he is like this now what am i going to go through when he is a teenager. Right now he is running around naked singing i am sexy for my love. I can't take this anymore. I told him he is going to end up back in the hospital. But i don't think it fazes him. I never thaught i would have this kind of trouble with my child. He was such a awsome baby. I love my son but i am ready to crack and commit myself. Please, I need people to talk to. Thanks Nerak

I too put my son in the hospital for a week. And when he came home he was great and still is doing very well for the most part.

He has been home for about a month now I think.

How was your son after he got home from the hospital?????

I was exactly where you are now when I took him at my wits end. And just threw my hands up and said I can't do this anymore. I wish I had had this site at that time.

My son slapped his at the time 2month old baby brother and then sqeezed the babies nose closed so that he couldn't breath.

I had him at the hospital the very next day. I could not have lived with myself if he hurt our baby really badly because I didn't get him the help that he needed just because I wanted to be selfish and keep him with me.

When I took him he told the evaluation lady that he knew when he pluged the baby's nose he couldn' t breath and that if he couldn't breath he would die.

He said that he wanted me to put the baby down stairs in his room and shut the door and never go back in again.

Now he does VERY well with the baby.

Anyway maybe you should put him back in I would have never gotten all of Ethans Diagnoses and gotten his meds straight if he had not gone in.

He has ADHD,OCD, Bipolar with Depression, IED (Intermiten Explosive Disorder) and PANDAS.Para Auto Immune Neurological Disorder Associated with Streptocaucos

my son also had ADHD and ODD, this sounds like a ODD thing with your son.

INNER_BEAUTY....My son was giving clonidine to help him sleep at night, again lowereing the BP relaxs him..but i didnt know it could help with the ODD. Has it helped for your son and how often does he take it and what MG?? we are on a very very low dose (.1MG)

Clonidine and guanfacine (Tenex) are similar meds and can both be used to help with sleep and some other issues. Clonidine is more sedating so is better for night sleep. Guanfacine has been studied with stims and alone for symptoms of ADHD, ODD and other issues. My daughter is on guanfacine am and pm and concerta in the am and the combo is wonderful (she used to have rages, defiance, etc) Here is some info on these:

http://www.peacehealth.org/kbase/topic/detail/drug/hw164961/ detail.htm

http://biz.yahoo.com/prnews/061116/nyth220.html?.v=2

Hello,

I have an 8 year old as well. It sounds that he may have a touch of ODD, opositional Defiance disorder, my child has it as well along with ADHD. I would consult a psychiatrist/psychologist either way, look for those that have experience or specialty in those areas.

Have your doc look over the meds you are giving and you may want to ask about adding something else . Many of the posters here use a combo of a stimulant and texex or clonodine. I believe that they said this was for impulse control...ask you doc if this might be an option for you guys. Good luck to you sure sounds like you have your hand full.

Co Sign Joemom:

My child takes Clonidine to help with the ODD and the implusivness of the ADHD along with Concerta 36mg.

How it was explained to me was the clonidine helps lower the BP when the anger/defiance start so they are more easy to "turn around". For me, so far only positive.

Hva e the meds and dosage looked at. It sounds like time for a change, or maybe stims are not the way to go.

Sign up for parenting classes specifically for parents to ADHD children. Your local children's hospital could probably direct you to where to find one.

NoTellin - I second this both you and your boyfriend need to sign up for classes. Also find a Child psychiatrist fast! Get the cat to a good home - at least temporarily. And why is a 9 year old running naked through the house? Make him stop or stay in his room. What do you do when you say no and he doesn't listen? Your DS sounds like a real handful. Please seek help ASAP!

This is all I have to offer you in ways of advice. It sounds like your son has a lot on his plate and I can imagine the stress involved I am stressed with one ADHD/ODD and Inattentiveness you are dealing with a lot more. Do you have a current behavior plan? they can be helpful. Good luck

A discipline program called Love and Logic might help you with what to do when he disobeys. It is a great program I learned about through my school. It has worked for the most difficult students I have had to deal with.

Good luck to you.

You can also check out the book Stopping ADHD by O'Dell and Cook. It might help releive some of his symptoms by doing exercies. It has helped me very much.

My child takes .1 mg in the morning which is a 1 tablet and .1 at night. During school hours 1/2 tablet is given to get through the school day.

From the way our dr. explained, BP raises with anger/rages, etc., by using the clonidine counteracts it, but for me I find that my child has less impulsivities and tics, I believe the combination we are now on is good for now, Strattera and Clonidine was used in the past but I don't think the strattera did anything and we went through different dosages for 1 year.

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my son also had ADHD and ODD, this sounds like a ODD thing with your son.

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