Over Punishing Ourselves and Frustration | ADHD Information
I need to remember that! (easier said than done though)Daily Reflection:
Those of us with ADD/ADHD often find that we over punish ourselves. We with ADD/ADHD have many many special characteristics. We tend to set lofty goals that we never complete, we also may make the same foolish mistakes over and over the list goes on and on. Our characteristics are what make us special. But...our characteristics often times result in self-punishment over mistakes we made long ago before our diagnosis, over failure to meet our lofty goals, or looking back at our day and realizing we didn't get anything accomplished because we could not concentrate or concentrated on the wrong thing. We are at our worst when we begin to punish ourselves for being ADD/ADHD. When we wish that we could be like everyone else.
Today I am going to recognize that being ADD/ADHD is not a disorder but a gift that allows me to experience the world in different and special ways. Today I will not punish myself because I didn't focus on the "right" thing. I will see this day as a day where I followed my gift down the path that was right for me.
I WISH THE GOVT. WOULD RID LEARNING DISABILTY AND GO TO LEARNING DIFFERENCE.THIS IS WHAT IT IS REALLY. I SAY THE GOVT. SHOULD CHANGE SCHOOL ROOMS TO FIT ALL CAUSE FEW PEOPLE WILL GET SE IN THE FUTURE ANYHOW UNLESS SEVERE. GOVT. DOING.
ivanhoe39065.2980787037yeah, ivanhoe, that will solve all your problems. now, why not figure out what will really make a difference in the class room and put it in the right board on the right thread???
You just seem to be spamming here and spamming is NOT allowed.yolouie
I think that your new philosphy is a very healthy one to have. My husband is newly dx (at age 45) and was worrying himself with "what ifs" the other night. He is somewhat successful with a 10th grade education (he quit as soon as he could due to his difficulties coping in the school setting), but, coming from a family of college grads and a father who was a college professor, he has many regrets and wonders how well he could have done if dx and medicated as a child. Life is to short for 'what ifs'. Do the best you can and let the rest go...
ivanhoe
I really fail to see what your post has to do with the original post....nothing was mentioned about schools...or the government...it seemed to be an individual adopting a new more gentle on themselves philosophy on life, not an attempt to lay blame for their disorder on the school system or the government...you really confuse me, I can never really see where you come from or why you post the statements you post
I've found that giving myself permission to take a mental day fairly regular and go wherever my mind leads, whether it's staying in the bed and endlessly channel surfing or mindlessly wandering the stores or simply walking through craft stores touching stuff is incredibly healing and rejuvenating.
The hard part when you are stable and on meds is reminding yourself that not every day has to be 'productive'.
I agree with chasesmom that this is a great philosophy to adopt.
But herein lies my confusion- or maybe I should say my confliction. I think that we do tend to overpunish ourselves, and while on the one hand, that would a great thing to give up, on the other I feel like it serves a purpose, at least for me. I feel like when I punish myself, so to speak, that I'm regaining some sort of control, be it over my mind, my life, my body. I feel like when I have the kind of days you described that everything is out of control. Now maybe this represents issues that I have above and beyond ADHD, or maybe this is true of everyone and it's just something we have to learn to let go of.
I don't know. But I shall ponder this some more elsewhere in the house, as the baby has just woken up.
And thanks Louie, for a thought provoking reflection.