I would recommend writing to the kindergarten principal and requesting the type of teacher you feel your child will do best with. I did that, and his 4K teacher is terrific ~ she is young, and has not really dealt with some of the things we have thrown her way before, but personality wise it is a really great fit. She has worked so well with him, and she truly wants him to succeed.
It is my understanding that most schools will try to accomodate these wishes, if they can.
Being out in public, or in the preschool settings is probably very overstimulating to your son - just think of all the people, all the noise, all the activity. The ADHD brain just cannot sort out all those stimuli, so your son is getting hyper stimulated.
I don't have any answers as to how to make it better, other than meds, which will help his mind to sort through everything.
i'm hoping this class he is in through the county school system will work this year. they work hard helping him on his weak spots. after school has been a challenge, worrying what to do but so far he is doing good at this one. his teacher told me that when he goes to kindergarten she will recommend a certain teacher that will work with him next year. he has left walmart a couple of times with out any thing so sometimes its not bad its like certain days are worse than others . hope this will prepare him for next yeari have a 4 year old son that was diagnosed with adhd at 3 and ahalf. last year was pretty rough . my son i thought was ready for preschool and did fine there from jan. through aug. then changed. kept getting calls from school that he was throwing fits, hitting etc. so after 3 months i took him back to his in home babysitter who didn't have any trouble with him. i took him to doctors while at preschool but just wanted to put him on meds and never felt sure of them till i got a behavior peditrician in may. she wanted me to put him back in school but a prep class where the classes are smaller and they can work more one on one. he started in aug. and so far doing great. but he gets out at one o'clock so i needed after school till 4 o'clock so i put him in the same preschool as before but it started all over again there. so they sought of kicked him out. i had a friend at another daycare and he has been getting off the bus there since the last of aug. and they say he is doing awesome. he goes back to the behavior doctor jan 4 and hopefully he will not be put on meds until kindergarten. can anyone explain what happened here. plus when out in public he is harder to control sometimes its like he gets excited or something. like not listening as well and bothering other people and its seems like i just keep repeating things over and over for him not to be doing this and that how can i help him learn more self control in public placeslesnathan39073.0222569444Sounds alot like my son who is seven and in first grade. Preschool was a nightmare, but he clicked for a couple teacher's there and managed for a year. The next no such luck so I took him out. He started early intervention by then so I figured he was getting his school stuff there. He has a horrible time in school, I finally have in a special class for his behavior at school. He is taught his school work and worked on for his behavior. Working to eventually get him back to his normal class. I think he just gets over loaded in school and can't control himself because of all the distractions. He is medicated and works good in the mornings but shuts down in the afternoon when in normal setting. I found that the more I took him to like the store, etc... and it became a normal routine he behaved better. Didn't happen over night and still not perfect. I reward him with a toy from the 50 cent vending machines the store has if he is good or if he wants something he has to be good. I also reward him for going a whole week with good behavior at school and daycare. I don't expect him to be perfect just not over the top in being bad. Alot of times you just have to grin and bear it when you are out in public and hope for the best. My ds is 7 and during preschool and the earlier years. A lot had to do with the teacher he had. If he clicked with the teacher then it was better, if he didn't it was horrible.. Our son is in a pull out class as well that is smaller and can keep him on track.my son use to take off but i just kept making him hold my hand or he would have to ride in a buggy. i reward him by letting him walk instead of the buggy but i see your son is 8 years old so i might try that which he won't like considering he thinks he is a big boy but after one time of humilation it might make him think the next time. but as far as touching everything on the shelves i still have that problem, they seem to always keep their hands moving or busy sometimes i try to find something to help keep them little hands busy sometimes it works and sometimes not. he gets too decide if he gets too take it home or not most of the time he gets it but today he lost the lizard we will try it again another timei just came from walmart and we went through the toys and he picked up a little toy lizard. he puts his hands on this womans buggy and talks to her and she is real nice but then i had to make to loose of her buggy. not too bad but then we are looking in the pens and paper alley. and my son gets this other woman attention and swings the lizard on her arm to get her to notice for he is proud of the lizard and she mummers too her husband if that was my kid i would slap the s*** out of him and i decided a year ago that i was going to take up for him no matter what for he can't help it. so to say the least i said what i thought and she didn't have much more too say. i'm like i will deal with my son the way i see needed. so my son left empty handed for hitting which caused him to pictch a fit all the way home i hope i dealt with the situation properly without slapping him the way she thought was fit. some people don't need kids esciallly a child with adhd i don't think they could handle it. sometimes i wonder if he will ever get a fair chance in life lesnathan39073.4733564815The latest problem I seem to have is my son taking off through the store. Aside from the regular...... getting caught up dancing around, or touching everything on the shelves, or jumping hopscotch on the floor patterns, or swinging his winter jacket around like a helicopter propeller (like last week when he actually made contact with an elderly lady doing that - how she managed to be uninjured I am not sure)....... but now he is taking off. I tell him why it's not a good idea (safety - hello) but he is unscathed by consequence.
My guess with his preschool would be a combination of a too large group size and an authoritarian approach to discipline. Many of them have very strict behavior policies that are really stupid, as you're talking about preschoolers.
We have problems in public too. The impulsiveness has improved some with medication (my son's 8), but it doesn't really help with the sensory overload. I just try to avoid taking him if I can, or only take him on short trips. Although, I did get him to behave at the mall one day because on the way in he was running and sliding on the floor. It wasn't a big deal cause it was a little used side entrance. I told him he couldn't do that past the end of the hall, but if he behaved on the shopping trip then we'd spend 5 minutes in the hall on our way out so he could slide on the floor. People must have that I was nuts letting him do that, but he was downright angelic while we shopped.
I have often found myself resorting to those types of strategies to get through certain areas of the day. Some may think it is crazy but I think it is great. There is no harm in compromise.i started the marble system 2 days ago and started at a low reward like 25 marbles and he will get 5 dollars which he earned today . he was so excited about it so now i 'm going to try 30 marbles for 5 dollars. he is only 4 so i made the rules pretty simple. i'm not going to take away just marbles for good behavior . hopefully it will help when we are in public places also.