What was your Christmas ADD moment??? | ADHD Information

Best wishes Glen and Cathie.  just a few days ago, i did search back to glen's earliest posts.  I was pleased to see he came in questioning and unsure.  now he is one of the best posters.consice, compassionate and knowledgeable.  and ditto maxdad comments too.

and,  being in a new relationship is like sprinkling growth hormone on your personality defects.

Hank

I'm glad she was smart enough to see through you Glen,  you ADHD idiot!

You nearly ruined something you have been wanting for a very long time. It sounds like she is a keeper. I hope all goes well from here on in!

barb39079.4377893519Glen ... DUDE!

It's going to be fine. I can assure you that there is not permanent damage. If she doesn't already she will realize what drove the conversation and further understand that your feelings for her are true and genuine.

If you are as open and caring with her as you are here, then she knows (or is learning) the true you. Relationships are like boats in the water, they all rock now and then. What's important is not that they rock, but how you recover.

But also remember ... YOU'RE A GUY! Being part of the male gender means an immediate assumption that you (and the rest of us) are relationship idiots. I'm sure she is aware of that feature about us men. LOL

Rock on!

MaxDad
  hi there  im the girl in question.... and yes i do so understand i just wanted to say that even though you can screw up with the people you love.If they truly love you back (witch glen yes i do ) they will understand, as i did.       Hi Cathie

Welcome to the board! Your post was so unexpected but so great to see.

If you search the board you will find 100's of posts from Glen that are thoughtful, caring and intelligent. While I only know Glen from this board, I don't think you could do better.

Best wishes.

MaxDad

I went out Christmas eve to get the last minute food items I never seem to remember even when I have a list. I got those, started thinking I needed candy for stockings, realised I had made candy so I didn't need to buy any, put it back, got some fruit for the stockings and then started getting some other things.

I got to the check out and remembered I had brought cash and left my purse at home. Of course I didn't have enough cash on me and since I'm used to taking my purse and using a debit card I forgot to estimate what I was spending. 

To further embarrass me,  with there only being one store in town and its being closed the next day, there was a long line of people waiting for me to get done so they could check out.

I must admit embarrasingly that I too had an Xmas ADHD moment.

I've been seeing this fantastic woman for about 2 months now.  She's been loving, understanding of my shortcomings and she's simply exciting and dynamic in my life.

However, I had been feeling somewhat inadequate and, frankly, sorry for myself during the holiday season.  This had led to me questioning if I was really enough for a woman who had so much to give and desired so much.  This ended up in a loop where I just kept going deeper and deeper in self-pity and believed honestly I should break up with her so she can find someone better.

I chose to talk to her about this on Dec. 25th.  Bad idea all around.

I went through the whole "it's not you it's me" and "you deserve better" schtick and led to her crying unconsolably and being terribly hurt.  She left mid-conversation and walked in the snow for about an hour.

During this time I had time to think about what a stupid, selfish ignoramus I was.  So self-absorbed I hadn't heard her words all this time telling me how she wanted a solid relationship and was not looking for anyone but me.  This loving woman had declared her love and that she wanted noone else and all I heard was my own self-defeating inner voice.

When she came back she was still hurt but again told me how she loved me and wanted nothing else BUT me.  I heard her this time.  But - you cannot unring a bell.  There has been terrible damage done very early in our relationship and I'm not sure if it can be totally healed.

Also - she noticed that I had not been taking my meds over the last couple of days.  During the business and all the commotion I had simply forgotten.  This explains some of my behavior but not all.

So now she's promised to remind me by phone or in person every day to take my meds.  I believe she used words to the effect that if I don't that she'll place a boot somewhere that only surgery will remove it.  Also she's warned me to take my med holidays when needed every time and that she'll keep in mind that I'm not as clear headed or able to control myself during these times.

What a great lady.  And I nearly wrecked Xmas for us both. 

So that's my ADHD Xmas tale.  I hope this will be the worst one for memory - I really don't need any more trauma in my life.

GLENW

that brought tears to my eyes

 

Hi Everyone

I just surpassed my one year anniversary of ADD treatment and participation on the board so I thought it was time to post my first topic.

Did you have any ADD moments this Christmas?

Here's mine:

Every year I purchase a Fitz & Floyd (decorative china items) reindeer for my wife. This year I wanted to get one from a collection that F&F stopped producing a few years ago ... but between stores and eBay I could not find one so I purchased another from a current F&F collection.

Slightly related is that when I was in our basement wrapping gifts I noticed a F&F box. Now keep in mind that it’s the day before Christmas eve and I’m feeling the pressure of trying to get a million things done – I was definitely in a “overwhelmed” mode. I opened the F&F box, looked inside and saw that it was a F&F reindeer that I had given her a few years ago. So for fun I "regifted" it -- I wrapped it up and included it in the gifts for my wife.

Now forward to Christmas eve and opening gifts. My wife opens the gift I had "regifted" and guess what? It was the reindeer that I was attempting to purchase and could not find. I had totally forgotten that I had purchased it a few years ago and had already given it to her. I had even looked at it the day before and didn’t realize it was the deer I was attempting to find.

So there’s my ADD moment. So often when I get overwhelmed I lose the ability to focus and see what is right in front of me. Needless to say we had a great laugh about this and thoroughly enjoyed our Christmas eve.

Did you have an ADD moment? Feel free to share it.

MaxDad

my son wrote a christmas list out for me what he wanted weeks before christmas  and i got him everything on the list. just this morning i asked him if he had i nice christmas and if he liked his gifts. he said it was great and it dosent matter about not getting the dvd box set he asked for. DVD BOX SET i couldnt belive it, i knew id bought it, so ive had the house up this morning, i found it in a bag along with a few other things for my younger son. none of them wrapped. hes pleased with his dvds, but ive not gave the little fellow the other gifts yet, I had a adhd DAY....

I was sick, and tired, and I still functioned.

But I rushed my wife through presents on the camcorder because I thought the tape would end on her. well the tape did. and it caught me being a jerk in rushing her.  then stupid me remembers the memory card,, and start recording the rest on the card... DOH...

I love it when I show how insensitive, and impatient, I can be in front of the WHOLE family, extended and ALL....

 yeah, I love adhd and the immaturity it allows me to feel and show.... twords those I love most....

so don't feel too far out in left field glenn.

 those footprints in the snow your seeing in front of you are mine. and every so often the one footprint is me kicking myself.

must learn to shut up, must learn to shut up, must learn to shut up..etc etc...