My name is Ashley I am 21 years old. I have three step kids and my one year old daughter. I love all my kids.
Lately my step daughter Ana has been out of this world. I just dont know what to do. She was diagnosed with ADHD about 3 years ago when she was in kindergarten.
She is soo impulsive. She steals all the time. Candy mostly but sometimes other kids' toys, money, she goes through my private stuff with out one care for who is hurting. I read a couple posts about narcissim (i didnt spell that right) can she rally have that at the age of 8?? From what I read it sounds just like her.
I feel horrible. today I found out that while she was visiting her biolocal mother (who is not very in her life) that she stole candy from Kmart. then when she was old she would have to take it back the next day when the store opened. She woke up and ate it!! What the HECK!?!?!
My first thought was oh god am I going to have to send her to a school for girls? I knew that was way too over reactive but i am really scared. she even steals money. What do I do? I am at my whits end I feel completely unprepared to deal with this.
I heard people talk about learning new ways to discipline..WHAT WAYS??? please some one help me. I could really use a friend.
Thank you,
Ashley
Ana'sStepmom39078.5889583333ana's stepmom,
Try checking with your local school district counseling resources. Some districts offer services (counseling) for families in the evenings. Usually a sliding scale or free services if it applies. Your local school counselor might be able to hook you up with services as well. Don't give up because there are ways for you to receive services for your step daughter. You may even want to locate a hospital in your area that works with children who come from families that may need assistance. Take care and do try one of the above sources.
thank yu for that...I will..I was just talking with my husbad tonightabout talking to her new school district. The one we arin now does not offer anything!! but I amhoping sens we are moving that maybe the new district will. If that does work I will contact the hospitals near . Thank you for that.My son's school psychologist gave me the number for a clinic that does family counseling (focusing on the child). They charged me a week based on what I was comfortable paying. It made such a difference with him. Call your school psych and ask her if she knows of a place like that.Thank you. I know that she has many issues.
when she was visiting her other mom she was sexually molested aswell I have been trying to find a way to get her into treatment with someone for her to talk to but alas I havefound nothing and her father aand i cannot afford to pay out fpocket.
do you know of any programs that will help us?
Welcome Ashley....when children steal it's a serious cry for help. There are usually underlying issues that provoke such behavior. No one here can diagnose and what sounds like one thing can be something entirely different.
You state that your step daughter was diagnosed 3 years ago with ADHD. What interventions have been sought out to aid her in managing the symptoms? If ADHD goes untreated or the proper treatment isn't sought out all sorts of undesirable behaviors start to surface as the child gets older. If it's in your power to do so, I would have the child assessed by a child psychiatrist and based on results and in a collaborate effort with the doctor, initiate a treatment plan because when children act out, its because they don't have the emotional components to cope and don't have the verbal skills to express their feelings. Your faced with quite a challenge. Your a great mom and your step daughter step daughter is fortunate that your in her life. Hugs to you