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Everyone

Last night was beyong bad. My 14year old son wanted to stay up to watch a tv program. We agreed if he got certain things done.  He did, but about a half hour before the show came on, he wanted got ticked off because his other brothers were playing x box and he wouldn't  have time to do also do so before the his show came on. He eventally stopped badgering me about the show, but continued acting up. His behavior escalated until my husband finally told him that he couldn't watch or tape the show.

The next hour was horrible.

This morning my 13 year old son was giving me the attitude and I ended up in tears ago.

I am off to work in a bit. I am thankful that I love my job, because if not I would probably decided to stay home and wallow in self pity.

Thanks for listening.

 

teathymes12639084.6290277778I think I would have taken something different away from him. He did earn the right to watch the show since he accomplished what you asked of him. Next time why would he believe you when you say he can earn doing something if he accomplishes what you want him to. I agree he needed to have something taken away, but not something he had already earned. JMO

You are right about this.  My husband later said that he reacted wrongly.  He did try to work out something with our son, but but that time he was overwhelmed and had a difficult time talking with us without becoming verbally abusive  as he had during the argument with  my husband.

In my original post, I accidently wrote that my son would have time to play xbox before watching his show.  That was wrong and I have updated the post.  He did not have time to play xbox after his brothers got off because the show was starting.  He was angry because  of this and wanted to tape the show to watch later and play x box instead. 

When I disagreed, instead of trying to talk with me, he started to hit the walls.  At that point I almost took the show away, but didn't. 

He eventually stopped badgering me, but started taking it out on others instead.

We are trying to be consistant and have a hard time doing so when he becomes verbally abusive.

Again, you are right and we are hoping to do better next time.

As a parent, I have made some really horrendous mistakes.  When I do, as soon as I realize it, I apologize.  It teaches ds that grownups are not perfect and that they should apologize when they're wrong, just as I expect him to do. 

This is also a good time to point out what went wrong on everyone's part.  Sometimes that's hard to see, even from a non-adhd perspective.
All i can say is i dread the teen age years!  Not only dread them, i fear them!!  My ds is 9 and just as sweet as he can be, but I'm sure there is a teen age beast in there hiding.

Luckily most days are not like the past few weeks.  I can also telly u that I have one son who is now 18 and doing great. He doesn't have same issuses that his younger brother have, but did have his own set. He turned out great.

I am hoping that there is a light at the tunnel soon with  my younger too.