Do they have support? | ADHD Information

Gutsy,
from time to time I have the same question and concerns about my ds, now 18.  I hope that my kids will remain close.  They enjoy hanging out together more now that they are older.  My 21 year old even talks about that maybe the three of them could all live together someday each one contributing their unique strengths.  Where ever they live I feel more assured that they will continue to support eachother.

Tonight when i asked what they were up to the 15 year old answered with a smile, "We're bonding."
Does your ADHDer have someone who will be there for him or her during adulthood, bar you?  What I'm getting at is is there someone other than you who "gets" them and could or would be supportive in your absence?  So far the only people other than DH and me who totally "get" my kids are each other, and I hope they stay friends like this forever.  I sometimes get the feeling they are going to need each other in adulthood.My oldest daughter is also ADHD and she was instrumental in getting Chase dx and treated, so she most definitely "gets" him....she calls him her "male clone".  I am sure she and his non ADHD siblings will be there for him.... It kind of worries me because there are so many people out there who are so quick to judge them, it's a very harsh world out there.  We are lucky though, our two are so close in age and are very good friends.  8yo DS is a very good big brother and they would go to the ends of the earth for each other.

My younger brother has ADHD.  He is 26 years old and in the military.  It has been the absolute best thing is his life.  My parents thought he would never be self sufficient.  He is still scattered at times but he is a functioning member of society.  Since I also have a son and spouse with ADHD I also look out for my brother. 

I have only one child a girl and she does have a couple of cousins that are only kids too and I am hoping they would be there for my girl.  If anything should happen to me or my husband my sister-in-law is the one chosen to take my child and raise her she is one of them with only one child.  Yeah, mine have cousins too - the little girl is very close to my youngest son.  I guess as they get older they will get girlfriends and spouses too.  I think this is something I would think of even if they didn't have any conditions.  Just normal, you want the best for your kids. I know they too will be self sufficient. And anyway everyone is different whether they have ADHD or not.  It's just that the level of understanding sometimes doesnt seem to be there for my kids, particularly I think from adults in their lives. I've even referred some of tehm to this site to try and increase understanding, without much success.