My son 6 year old pee’d his pants! | ADHD Information

[QUOTE=Cheesehead] My dh told him that if she says no again he should whip it out and pee on her shoe.  [/QUOTE] Love that!! My hubby would have said something similar. 

Now here's a suggestion.  Why doesn't she just (drum roll....) find out who needs to go and send them BEFORE rest time?

that is crazy not to let that child go to the restroom when he needs too. even in high school they can leave class to go. i would talk with the principal and if that don't work keep going up the ladder. if its because of the bathroom door send her some wd-40 to oil the hinges .

[QUOTE=lesnathan]if its because of the bathroom door send her some wd-40 to oil the hinges .[/QUOTE]

I agree with the majority, tell the principal, and every other parent in the school! Raise a ruckes(sp?). That is absolutely cruel, and even abusive. I wonder if even the principal even knows, but I bet the other parents would like to know! I wouldn't even allow the 5th graders to have to hold it! Tell the principal.  When my dh was in 1st grade (8 years ago) it was school policy not to withhold bathroom breaks-- that if a kid said he had to go, then he would be allowed to go.  I thought that was standard operating procedure in all elementary schools!  I'd also pass on to the teacher the instructions that your dh gave.  Whether or not the rule book says anything about bathroom visits, a teacher doesn't want to risk getting her foot peed on!

Yeah.  At one of my son's former schools, it was really bad.  Kids who asked to go potty too often were "marked" as discipline problems, it seemed to me. I worked there as a substitute teacher for a summer, so I got to see how things were on the inside. That opened my eyes!  

Since then, I have had no problem with making school life as easy as possible for my son --talking with his teachers as needed, modifying his diet/liquid intake, making sure his clothes are easy-to-manage ...  Whatever it takes.  My son was six, the last time he pee'd on himself in school (difficult clothes, that day, and a teacher who wouldn't let him go when he wanted to ... that witch! lol!)

Since then, I've learned.   Difficult clothes are for weekends.  And difficult teachers are for ME to engage, not my defenseless little one.  Multiplication tables are enough for him to have to contemplate.  I'll take on his big, bad, teachers, because I can communicate on even footing -- something he can't do.

emergent39092.8461342593I would be mad too, but I laughed out loud at your hubby's suggestion!

I would hope that since your son obviously is not doing this every day, the teacher will listen to him next time he says that he needs to go!  After all, the kids don't actually sleep during rest time, do they?  And if it caused a domino effect ( I am sure that this is what she is REALLY afraid of) all she needs to say is "No one else needed to go before _______ did, so let's just wait until rest time is over."  Or God forbid, cut rest time short by a few minutes and go on with your day! 

My grand daughter's kindergarten teacher totally took rest time out of the picture.  She said it was not worth the effort.  She spent the entire time redirecting the children to lay down, keep their hands to themselves, etc. It was only 20 minutes.  She would do crafts with them instead,or have free time for quiet activities or ......KEEP TEACHING THEM!!!  She was an awesome teacher when she taught my Jake 2nd grade and when she switched to kindergarten when a position opened up there.
I would have a chat with the principle, and make sure it never happens again.

 

I got a note home from the teacher along with wet pee clothes from school yesterday.  I was just furious with the teacher and my dh is telling that it is no big deal. You tell me if you think this was a big deal.... Following is the teacher's note

Wanted to let you know that (my ds) had an accident today and it was really my fault.  When the kids come in from outside, they have to get a drink and go to the bathroom.  I don't allow bathroom/drinks during rest time because they would never rest.  Anyway, during rest time, (my ds) was asking me if he could go to the bathroom and I was telling  him no and said that he could go in a few minutes because we'd be getting up from rest time and I'd get him up first.  Well, he had an accident while I was talking to him.  He handled changing his clothes and everything very well.  Because it was during rest time, I don't think the rest of classs even knew what happened.

 

I followed up with a phone call this morning.  She was very snotty and told me that it is her policy and that no one can go use the bathroom at rest time.  I asked if he comes up to her again during rest time would he be allowed to go to the bathroom and she said it depends.  If he does it every day he won't be allowed to go...but if it is just every now and again he would be allowed.  My dh told him that if she says no again he should whip it out and pee on her shoe.  I told him that if she won't let him go that he should just go anyway.  They have their own bathroom in the classroom it shouldn't be that big of a deal... She said the noise of the bathroom door opening and closing is to disruptive during rest time!!!

I am right to be furious at this teacher?  I just can't imagine looking a kindergartener in the face and saying no you may not use the bathroom

Heck , last year (4th grade) my son was given discipline tickets from one particular teacher if he had to go to the bathroom!!  And he wasn't the only one to get tickets...I asked the principal, what is the alternative?  If they wet their pants (or do something else in their pants) will they get a discipline ticket too??!!

Thank goodness it is only that one teacher....he hasn't got any like that this year!

"When my dh was in 1st grade (8 years ago)"

susieb.....do you go for the really young ones????!!!!  or maybe you meant to put ds?
Thanks chasesmom, I really needed a good laugh!  

[QUOTE=chasesmom79]My grand daughter's kindergarten teacher totally took rest time out of the picture.  She said it was not worth the effort.  She spent the entire time redirecting the children to lay down, keep their hands to themselves, etc. It was only 20 minutes.  She would do crafts with them instead,or have free time for quiet activities or ......KEEP TEACHING THEM!!!  She was an awesome teacher when she taught my Jake 2nd grade and when she switched to kindergarten when a position opened up there.
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It depends on where you live, unfortunately.  Honestly.  I'm not making this up.  Where we used to live, it was a state law that daycare/preschool kids in certain age groups had to have nap time each day.  Completely insane, thought I... until I moved to Texas, where dairy is mandated to be on the school lunch program.   Now that's crazy!   Uhhh... What about the fact that a very high percentage of students are lactose intolerant or dairy-sensitive?  No matter, as long as the dairy lobby is happy.  (My jaundiced view.)

Ugh!  The whole dealing-with-schools issue has turned me grumpy! lol!

Ridiculous!  A large percentage of kindergarteners do not need a rest time and at home receive none, so what is the big deal?  This teacher would keep the lights low and have the children color, draw, and read books.  They got rejuvenated, and she did not have to constantly redirect them.....

I think we have dairy requirements too, but juice is available for children who cannot drink milk.  Fortunately, none of my kids are lactose intolerant, so I have not had to forge that battle, and my school is pretty easy to deal with...that one teacher was horrid, and I told the principal that.  She was extremely disrespectful to Chase and crushed him when she could have been kind....then when I went to the principal she totally backpedaled, and changed her tune.  I told the principal that she only said that because HE  was the one talking to her....there was no reason that she could not have said the same things she said to him to my son, and  that if she wanted respect from the students she needed to show it to them.  I have no use for her to this day and I tell everyone I know!

Yes.  I agreed to all you've said.

 

One upside to this whole motherhood thing?  I've become really, really assertive!    Things I would never consider saying or doing on my own behalf.  No problem doing them for my son.   Motherhood rocks!  

Yes I wish that I had become more assertive with my oldest....maybe we could have got her some help....oh well, hindsight is 20/20....but I have learned my lesson!

No one walks on me anymore!

i'd be upset...but i think this type of thing happens quite a bit in school.  my dd is in 4th grade and she and her friend were talking and they are allowed to go to the bathroom once in the morning and once in the afternoon.  i questioned this and they did say that of course they could go during lunch, recess, or then they weren't with their lead teacher, but her friend often needs to go more often than this so her mom was going to talk to her teacher. 

shelley