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my son 12 adhd

as has the same friend since he started secondary school sept 05

he is a nice lad and ive met his mum she also very nice

the thing is my son is so rudy to this boy sometimes, he phones up our house, and within 5 mins there arguing about who some girl they fanncy

my son hangs up on him, i tell him its rude but the same thing happens next time .

he says tell him im not in, or answers the phone and says " hello goodbye" then hangs up i tell him off for this all the time, some times the calls for me

i started appoliges to his friend, coz i wouldnt want anyone being like this with my son

the 1st week they met at school my son kicked the friends front tooth out not on purpose, he was showing him karati move and stood to close to him.i was in peices on the phone to the boys mum

im surprized this boy still puts the time in with my son or how theyve stayed friends for so long,

my son  never had any friends at primary school, and now hes found this friend who wants so much to be friends with my son,

 the friends mum told me he also has LDs

friend has been sent to unit for six weeks for extra help in school, starting last week

ive been asking my son each day who he has been spending time with in school now his friend not there, he says no-one

maybe he will apreciate  his friend a bit more when he comes back to school in 6 weeks  Smile

Can the school social worker or psychologist help by working with him?  At least he has one good friend.

I was always taught  that as long as you have 1 good friend, you are all set! Friends are hard for these guys to not only make but keep! I would be doing exactly what you are doing, helping my child keep his 1 friend.

My son hangs out with the boys at school and plays sports with them on the teams in town, but nothing after school. He likes to hang home, a real homebody! I too was like that growing up. Then in middle school, I changed. I hope my son will too, but I also wonder if it is his way of protecting himself from rejection. He tells me he minds own business at school. and the teacher tells me they love him and wish he would share with the class more, maybe he is shy!!

I was told on another adhd board that once the adhd'er finds the right medication, that is their true personality. Interesting!

i wonder how many of us (parents/adults) choose not to have friends

i choose not to, just because its easer that way im not a very good friend, forget to meet up, never let them get a word in, finish there sentances, always late and when we do meet im either depressed, hypo, or in bad mood Cry

does anyone eles have friends or do you find it easer without them?

I am not ADHD so I have no problem making friends and keeping them. Therefore I cann't really relate to my son who has difficulty making and keeping friends. He seems to get along better with younger kids. For example we went to a friend's house who hads 3 daughters. The 10 year old wanted nothing to do with him. Her 5 year old adored him and followed him around. He's 11.My son has friends, but none that are considered a best friend. Its sad I
think, but he does go to a few friends house every now and again. Anyway,
he is a good kid, always have good reports when he does go to their house.
I wonder if anywone out there has a child that has friends, but not any best
friends??

TX

mike'smom

It's very common for these kids to have a few good friend that also have social issues.  They need eachother.  My son has the same thing.  He has 3 friends and they all just have eachother.  And they are all "quirky" in their own way but accept eachother.  And they all share the passion for their video games.

Ironically, my son gets more calls for playdates (he's 13), then my 11 year old daughter who has lots of friends, but her friends also have lots of friends so they have busier social lives.

 

i find my son plays better with kids younger than him self also,

he gets on better with them and as more incommom.

i dont like group of 3s i always find theres always one left out a little, or out voted (so to speak)

I know what you mean mumoftwo. I grew up with one brother and one sister. It always seemed like one of us was left out. DS sometimes plays with a brother and sister. One often gets left out there too. I also found this when he was palying with 2 cousins.