Good day. Bad day..Why? | ADHD Information

Why is it some days are good and some bad? Today, school is closed so I have both kids with me. My ADHD DS has been an ANGEL!!!!!  When shopping earlier, he held younger sons hand while crossing the street to make sure he was safe.

Not ONE argument all day, playing nicely with brother, so sweet I could actually cry and I broke the token system and bought him an Ipod dog he wanted so badly to reward him for his UNBELIEVABLY good behavior.  I cannot believe this is the same son that I wanted to kill at Disney, he drove me so nuts.

I just want to smother him with kisses for the rest of the day.  I guess my point is, why cant he be like this all the time?  What is the catch?

I wish I knew, so that we could do whatever IT is all the time.  I have a suspicion that my son's good days are related to how much time we spend at home. He is generally so good at home. Those days that we are somewhere with alot of stimulation are dodgy, I think because he wants to order it all in his head, and he just can't, so it all goes haywire.  If you ever discover what causes a good or bad day, write a book, because it will make you rich!!Hi, with my son(9) everyday is so not the same. Some mornings are great,
others are very stressful. Also, on the mornings when he wakes up early, he
is more hyper than those days when I have to wake him up for school. Then
getting him to get ready for school, OH MY GOSH!! He takes forever to do
anything: get dressed, if he is lucky, eat breakfast because he has waisted
all of his time playing around. And then after school, doing homework can
be such a struggle. Anyone else out there have issued like this? I know he
tries hard to be a good boy, but, it seems as though he is always in trouble.
He has been on meds since grade K. Started with adderall, now he is on
concerta and zoloft at night, along with melatonin to help him to sleep. So I
can so relate to each day being unpredicatable!!

My son is 5 and just started Kindergarten. Well this is his second attempt. After the 1st few days at the 1st school (in a nother town) it got way out of hand, him and the teachers and they're attitudes. So we pulled him out.

Anyhow...my son has the same Jeckle/Hyde issue you are all talking about. Makes my head spin, alot of the time. I just look at my mo with that look of exaughstion/desperation. She too raised a  boy with ADHD/Jeckyl/Hyde syndrome. LOL

I haven't firgured it out either. Only that I now know he does have problems and he does need help. He is better at home for me now, wasn't the case for a long time...but mainly only because of the fear of very unpleasnt punishment.

I have noticed though...when his father and I try extra hard (which we are far from mastering BTW) to keep our cool and talk calmy (biggest hurrdle)...it doesn't cause David to get worse. We are trying not to "fuel his fire' But I know that with a child like this, that is so much easier said than done! LOL

We have been using Melatonin for bed time...too. He has never laid down well, even back when he was a toddler taking naps. He is a very hyper and agressive child. But when he is having a good day, he can finish lots of school work (back when I was home schooling him- or trying to).He willhelp clean the house, tend to the 2 younger ones, feed the dogs...LOL...I try and take advanatage of it when it hits him! ;0)

But when he's not...he's really not and nothing I say seems to turn that attitude around. He'd rather sit in his room and rage for hours (literally) than get along. *phew* I am there with yall! The only time I get relief on those days (more so than not) is at bed time when he's had his "medicine" as he calls it.

< ="text/"> // Begin Ad Muncher helper script wYZXso(1,"wYZTimeout('enableDesignMode()', 20);"); // End Ad Muncher helper script Don't we all have good days and bad days?  I just think it's part of the human condition!    Unfortunately,  we tend to second guess any little thing when it comes to our  kids..... cr12345mr39100.71625all i can say is just WAIT till you they are teens...."You ain't seen NOTHING yet!" in regard to good/bad days.I agree we all have good days and bad days.  Our kids are just under a microscope and we notice more.  School has alot of distractions so that doesn't help.   But the other day I had to go to replace a tv remote for digital cable at cable company (one my son threw and broke) and he sat with me waiting for our turn for a good 20 minutes with no problem.  I just take the good days as a blessing and thank my lucky stars there are those days.

today would be a bad day for us...

I think sometimes that when the schedule changes abruptly like it did today due to weather then that is when my son is less cooperative.  He got so mad at me today because I wouldn't order him one of those new fangled fishing rods they advertise on t.v.  Now mind you we are not fishermen and he is only 5 (newly turned 5). 

We were on our way to school this morning and heard school was closed so I had to turn the car around.  My school was closed his kindergarten/daycare was open.  Maybe I should of made our way on to his school on the ice and come back to get him later.    I would of never done that but it sure would of been preferred after his tantrum this morning.

I saw some video at the evaluation I went to that discussed all of us have good and bad days yet why do we ask if they can behave and be 'angels' at times why not all the time....  same reason why we aren't angels all the time we all have good and bad days.

I wondered the same thing as my son is the most affectionate kid, puts blankets on me when I am cold, gets me water when I am thirsty, hugs brother nonstop when they are getting along, yet 1 hour later punches brother, yells at me, gets very defiant towards authority, etc. 

I would say we even have good and bad  hours

buggirl38,

thanks for your post... it really hit home with me.