I guess I have a different take on this. To me it means that the school personnel do not have controls in place to help him manage himself. He cannot do it alone. They need to help him. Perhaps they need assistance from a behavior specialist. Maybe they need to pay for a Functional Behavior Assessment and get a behavior intervention plan in place. If they are raising a flag that there is a problem, then a meeting needs to be called at which time the adults will come up with a solution that involves more than just calling the parent to complain. I'm sure they know it takes more than just meds.
I'd go on vacation and have a great time. He probably knows that he's made some mistakes at school and needs some time away to feel good about himself. There's so much more to life and being happy than school.Bravo BPQW. I couldn't have said it better myself. So often these school issues seem overwhelming and we must try to keep it in perspective.
Go on vacation Cheesehead and have a great time!
I find it interesting that none of this happened with his regular classroom teacher. Maybe the other teacher's (Music, playground aide, subs,etc.) would benefit from some additional training on how to effectively manage children with differences like ADHD. As most of us know, there really is so much that can be tried to correct a small behavior problem, before it gets out of hand. Just a thought.
MamaBear39101.4944097222Do you think your son was just so over stimulated all week with the excitement of the vacation? Maybe he just couldn't hold it together because he was so excited about the trip!
I find that by not telling both my kids until right before, it works best. We went into Boston for the weekend, we do this every year, however this year, I packed up for everyone, put the kids in the car, said we were going Christmas shopping, and then told them the news when we were just getting into the city, they were psyched! It was a great suprise and they both had a good week in school!
And a great weekend in the city!!
I say go on the vacation also....the teachers should have called you right away and not waited for a week of misdeeds to call. You may want to have your son write an apology letter to the music teacher in additon to your call....letters like this sure smooth lots of feathers.
[QUOTE=joemom]I say go on the vacation also....the teachers should have called you right away and not waited for a week of misdeeds to call. You may want to have your son write an apology letter to the music teacher in additon to your call....letters like this sure smooth lots of feathers.[/QUOTE]
I have also noticed that notes of apology smooth feathers. I have my son do that when he has had a bad day on the bus, and I think that she kind of looks on him a little more kindly when she knows that he gets some discipline at home as well as the discipline that the school hands out. Like they are aware that as parents we agree that the behavior is wrong...
Just as we are packing and leaving for a trip for my ds birthday, I got the dreaded phone call. It was his teacher saying that he had an awful week. First the substitute teacher on Monday left a note about his behavior. Then on Tuesday the music teacher approached his regular teacher about his behavior. Then Wednesday the playground supervisor came to his teacher. What do we do, we have been planning this trip for over a month. The deposits have been paid, vacation time approved at work... Now this I am just fumming. How am I to enjoy this time when I furious at my ds for his behavior. Any suggestions?
I say go on the vacation...the problems will be there when you get back. Explain to the teacher that this cannot be cancelled, and that you will get right on solving these problems as soon as you get back.
Are just you and your hubby going? Or is it the whole family?
Try not to blame your son (I know, hard), but try to remember that he cannot help some of it...
The whole family is going... My ds birthday is Dec 28th so it gets wrapped up with the holidays. So we always get away for his birthday celebration.
I try not to blame ds.. But as I was just sending an email to the music teacher explaining that he needs a med change and that some of his behavior is beyond his control. In the back of my mind I am thinking that this teacher will be going ohh another mother trying to take the blame off of her child.
So let her think that...I think that you should have a talk with your son to let him know that you are disappointed with his behavior, and that once you get back from vacation, you will have to work with him, his teachers and his doctors to solve the issues. Then let it go til you get back.
Send the teachers an email stating the same...that you appreciate them letting you know about the problems and that now you will be able to tackle it as soon as you get back from vacation...then go and have a good time!
You probably all need the break, it will do you all some good.
Haven't these teachers all seen him while his meds were working well? They should know that this is not the norm...hopefully they will not judge.