chasesmom-
so was pushing her a good decision or bad???
I just got a good idea from a teacher I know. She said I should review the material with my son a chapter ahead so when he goes to class he already has an idea of the lesson and maybe already knows some of it.
Like reading a book summary before reading the book.
She now agrees that it was a good idea...but at the time she hated it. She would at times come home during middle school, in tears because she was "never going to get this math!" but once I worked a problem or two with her on paper, she would do fine. She is a visual learner, and we discovered that while she was attending Sylvan Learining Center....one of the few things about that place that helped us..LOL
I think your friends' idea of going ahead in the book may help calm him, or if you or someone that you know that could help him to work a few problems until he is comfortable with the material, even working ahead? I have a SIL and BIL, and before he died, my FIL that could just talk to her on the phone and still help my 13 year old if he is anxious,and unsure if he is doing something right. Just the reassurance of someone telling them that they are fine does the trick.
He's actually starting huntington learning center, actually for help with reading comp and writing but I think they can give him coping tactics.
He always does his math homework with no problem and seems to always say that while he's lost in class, he get it when he's doing it at home.
Just curious if anyone encounted anything like this:
My 7th grade ds has add but I have no doubt he has nvld because his biggest problem is handling frustration. He's pretty smart so usually school was easy for him. But when he doesn't get something quickly, he has no coping skills on working through his frustration.
Now he coasted through math last year, got a's on everything without studying, got almost perfect on his standardized tests. The teachers told me not to put him in honors because of the frustration issue. Well I felt that he needs to learn to deal with frustration as a life skill so holding him back isn't doing him any good in the long term.
Well I put him in honors math, and halfway through the year, he's having serious frustration issues. He's melting down, the teacher is fed up with him, he thinks the teacher hates him ( he may be right). But the wierd thing is that he says he can't do the work at school but at home he gets it and always does him homework just fine with no help from me.
So now they are giving him an aide in that class.
So there are 2 philosophies...put him in a lower level class so he's not frustrated, or keep him where he is an hope that with help, he learns to work through frustration.
Anyone with older kids been through this and have any insight? Part of me is kicking myself for not listening to the teacher last year and bumping him up, and part of me still wants him to learn to deal with frustration because as he goes to high school, college, and a job, it won't always be easy and I'd rather him hit those rode blocks in 7th grade, even if he gets c's and d's now, rather than later when it really counts.
thanks
I kept my oldest daughter in the "edge" classes all through school, though she never took honors math. She campaigned all through elementary to go back to the "easier" reading classes, because more was expectedof her in the top reading groups and she just didn't deal with homework well...she was undx and untreated until adulthood....I really just thought she was lazy and inattentive ADHD was not dx much then(more than 15 years ago). she got Cs and Ds, but I felt that if she was not challenged I would be coing her a disservice.
She did not struggle with the frustration issue except for brief snatches here and there, that I could usually help her through.