It does not make any sense to me either about suspension. My son just turned 7 and was suspended yesterday. He thought it was cool to have a day off. Even though he had to come to work with me and I had him do schoolwork and extra chores at home, he still prefered doing that instead of being at school.
EXACTLY!!! my oldest was suspended in middle school for using profane language....she didn't actually curse, but what she said was not nice at all.....
When she brought home the paper, she said something along the lines of "Oh good, I need a day off!"
So I made her come to the shop with me(her least favorite place), and I made her write the definition of "profanity" straight out of the dictionary 10 times.....it covered one side of a sheet of notebook paper each time she wrote it.
When I went over the definitions, I discovered one that she wrote backwards....thought she was being cute.....so I made her rewrite it!
I bet she still can recite the definition of profanity and that was like 14 years ago...
I kills me that they would suspend a small child. I don't really think it teaches any lessons at that age. I remember in kindergarten I had to pick my son up from school because they were doing cutouts and at the time cutting was difficult for him. Well he threw his scissors in frustration and it did almost hit another kid, but they treated him like his intention was to hurt another kid.
He was just a frustrated 5 year old!!!
The craziest thing was that the child he almost hit by chance was african american so they suggested he get some sensitivity training so he doesn't become prejudice.
My lord! Were they insane???? He's fricken 5!!!! At the time,he couldn't even tell me the kids names in the class, let alone what color they were!! They threw him out of that class kicking and screaming and if they had used a little foresight to realize the cutting assignment would be difficult for him, the whole scene would never have happened!!
I got so many phone calls last year and the beginning of this year at work (I work in a production setting and they call me on loud speaker for phone calls) that everytime I do get a phone call they think it my son getting into trouble. He is in a special class now that when he acts up they deal with it there and I have only gotten one phone call to get him in 3 months cause he was acting up to much to put him on the bus. And again when another kid kicked him in the throat. My boss still will ask if everything is ok when I get a phone call.I had to post again. I had so many phone calls last year that I told them they had to start leaving messages for me at home unless he had to be picked up. I told them I was in danger of loosing my job because of them. A little lie, but they didn't know. They have to fill out paper work for each incident but I only saw a couple cause I am suppose to sign them. They didn't do their part there. My son liked it when he got to leave and go home or to grandma's. I even told the school it is no punishment for him to get to go to grandma's. So towards the end of the year she started taking him to daycare. There he gets timeout's for his school behavior.
ok, feel free to chime in on the WORST call!
Mine was when my son was a sleepaway camp and the very last night of camp (we were supposed to pick him up the next day), at about 8 at night after my husband and I had enjoyed a childfree evening of dinner and drinks, the camp calls and he was out of control and bit a councelor!!!
They made us drive to the middle of nowhere (2 hrs away) late at night, exhausted, in the rain to pick up this poor child. No discussion, no nothing.
I was furious because I found out after the reason my son got out of control was because the councelor was teasing him and pretending to delete his gameboy files!!!! Of course I wasn't told this up front. Anyhow, it was one LOOOONG night and many tears were shed by all! And what upset my son the most was that I didn't get to meet his new best friend at camp.
I guess we save some money because we didn't tip the councelors!!
Hey mellowdancer
Sounds like the counselor sure is immature! How horrible what he told you son he was doing! Maybe thge counselor has ADHD!
My son has bitten, no phone call involved, but it is when something like what you described happened involving his sister.
At least it was the last night, and not the first night!
i recieved two of those calls just this week. on yesterday and one the day before. it always seems like they are right before lunch. on tuesday i received two in the same day. two of my sons have adhd. the 6 yr old was suspended from school on tuesday, no school wednesday. the phone calls are driving me crazy
I hear you.... I received the dreaded phone call last week before we were leaving for vacation. I was torn do we still go on vacation. Is it rewarding bad behavior? I just frustrated with the teacher she waited until Thursday to call when things had been going bad since Monday My ds also has a SEVERE allergy to peanuts. So my heart always races when I see the number on caller id. Is he in trouble again or did he have a reaction to something he may have gotten on his hands and is on the way to the emgerncy room.
OK, just venting to all parents stomach tightens when the phone rings and they see a familiar number...school, camp, scouts, etc. knowing something happened with your child.
And who is sooooo tired of teachers and supervisors saying, they just don't know what to do and you just sit there not knowing whether to get mad or just cry.
And even when a few weeks go by and you think all has been well and you are getting a bit relaxed...ring ring ring and your bubble has bursted!!!!
Sound in and vent!!!
I could not find my cell phone today so I am very nervous.
I used to be alot more nervous at his old school the one he really wants to go back to. My worst fear is that he would get "kicked out". That happened so it seems like....
well, i should not have even looked at this post. They called my work and I have to leave to pick him up- no kidding. I'll be back to update.
Oh I can totally relate, though I have not had a "bad" phone call all year really...I still am conditioned to cringe when the school number comes on the caller ID. I actually had to get him today, but he is sick to his stomach (again!!). He came home and rested a bit, and is now fine after eating his untouched packed lunch and doing his makeup work, that thankfully he brought with him, so hopefully no piles of makeup work for tomorrow!
kemi, I hope that it is nothing serious.....
Yes kemi I would really want to know where the teachers were..aren't these kids only 7? Kids this age should not be left alone at all. Another teacher or adult should have been in there to supervise....I have not had any phone calls, emails etc since the IEP meeting. Once they realized I knew the law and was not going to be pushed they backed off and cooperated with me. I DO sometimes have to remind them that it is a Private School, meaning I pay, therefore they work for me!geeze talk about a jinxy coincidence. Not more then thinking about my answer to this post and hte phone rang.
Well, he is suspended. He was playing with a rope next to the teachers desk and another kid came up and took it away from him. Keston told him it was none of his business and punched him in the stomach. He also told me there were no teachers in the room. When I picked him up the secretary told me it just happened for no reason, how would they know if no one was in the room. Of course the principal who suspended him could not be reached and has meetings all evening.
Won't they be surprised when I show up with him in the morning for an impromptu meeting.
Right before Christmas break he got ISS because 3 other kids were taking a mesh hamper off his head and he punhed them becasue they were trying to take it off of him... again, where were the adults? These incidences keep happening with the same kids and I am tired of it. It is NOT always his fault and I am going in to correct it. Yes, I am mad as a hornet right now!
I don't want to jinx myself, but we have not gotten a phone call about dd's behavior at school. She gets all As in Conduct! She can sure turn the house upside-down, though! However, I did get a call about her sister's behavior--and she is just the nicest little girl--it was really hard to believe! I do feel for you who have to deal with this--it must be very, very hard. cr12345mr39105.601087963He has been great since coming back from Christmas break. After the ISS we increased the Risperdal from .5mg to 1mg. When first starting the dr said he would probably be at 1-2mg Coincidently he had an appt today already scheduled. So now he will be taking 1.5mg of Risperdal. It is working for him but when it starts to lose some of the effect is when he need to increase. His behabior at home has been going downhill too. The stretches in between increases are getting longer, so that is good and we are in the right direction.
I definitely will be talking to the principal tomorrow and getting this straightened out for sure. He is in 1st grade and there should always be supervision! This could be ds's intrepation. I asked him why he didn't tell the teacher the other boy took away his rope, and he did not know how to reply.
oh I can so relate. I have two children yet when that phone rings, I know my youngest is in trouble at the principals office. I cried all the way last time as it is an hour and a half drive back for me and being a working mom, it is even more frustrating as my boss gets mad because I leave more often than most parents. I also am finding as I am awaiting the evaluation for my son to determine if he has ADHD I have many appts which is also wearing thin on my boss now. It is hard to get those calls regularly. For awhile I was getting at least 1-2 a week. Now I have had 2 day after another over 3 weeks ago and not once call since but one note home and that is it.