All the men in my life have ADHD | ADHD Information

 Hi ,try to look after yourself, you need to be fit and well to look after others.

familys think we are super mums,and we have to multi task each day , i get so board i am now going to collage, i hope to make new friends with the same intrests.i am also going to join a yoga class.  


Im looking for some insight from anyone who might beable to help me. My current husband was diagnosed with adult ADHD about 2 years ago, when he is on the medication he is amazing, however getting him to take it is another story! His attention span is so limited that if Im speaking with him for more then a coupe minutes he will litterally zone out, which isnt helping us to raise our two children who are both diagnosed with ADD as well. Both the children follow suit with thier father and can not complete even the littlest tasks and puts me in a position of having to do EVERYTHING, from being the only one who works to cleaning the entire house, etc. And I am exhausted!!! When I express my fatigue to my husband he will tell me " babe it will be there tomorrow" (the messes) Which is not an option as i have OC disorder and can not have things untidy. This situation has lead us to loosing our home, and all of our assets we have worked so hard to accumulate over the past 13 years, because he can not and will not hold a job for more then a few months if that. So I have recently filed for divorce, even though he is currently living with me.Also I recently found out my best friend is ADHD and I am trying to also deal with his mood swings and his helplessness and remain a true and caring friend, but what happens when you are stretched to thin? Please anyone advice???

Hi Lola,

It is sometimes said that some women (usually ones with ADHD tendencies) are attracted to men with ADHD because they need someone with an "edge" to keep them from getting bored. My SIL once told me that though she had left her difficult husband, and found someone who is stable, she finds that it is comforting and boring at the same time.

hi all, thanks so much for your insight! Post it notes were an amazing start, i have been putting them on the TV (Lol) and its working! Thanks so much for offering me that suggestion, as for making him take his meds I finally put my foot down and gave the ultimatum. that it is meds and me or no meds and no me, And he is making better choices now. He is going back to work next week, and we are moving back into our home that we thought we had lost. He is going to therapy two times a month and we are anxiously waiting for his physiciatrist appoint. to get his adderal. Things are looking up. As for my best friend, i can no sooner leave him then count all the stars in the sky, thats just not what friends do! He has always been there for me and somehow ill muster some type of strength to be there for him too. Thanks again all for the great insight!

Side note: The kids are taking a little bit more responsibility, my daughter is finding that cleaning up her room is much easier when it becomes a routine rather then a demand, and I  have instituted a new tactic, if she cleans her room all week without being told she gets to go to the store and buy a poly pocket to add to her collection. So on her own she made a chart on her wall to remind her if she has done her chores as she really wants that reward.

My son has opted to live with his grandparents for the time being as he doesnt like the  school district we are in and is secure in his school where we used to live, so ill keep you posted on his progress as i am working with his grandparents to institute new behaviors out of him threw reward also. thanks again all!!!

lola why don't you tell your husband to stay on meds or else......? I don't get it.
If he really wants things to work he will !
Yes, the messes will be there tomorrow but an ordered house encourages an ordered mind.
The mess will be there tomorrow is a lazy,cop out ,verbal excuse and a bad example for the kids.
It's ok to let it go sometimes and leave the mess without thinking it's the end of the world but it shouldn't be the norm.
I don't know how bad your OCD is but are you doing something about it also ?
we all keep being attracted to the same kind of people... our whole life....

BUT,, use a notebook and paper, remind yourself of things.... and others.. post it notes work too. I will not be a sucker for blue eyes,,, or, I will not be attracted to despots...


somethings you bring on yourself.

your best friend. let him go.... you move on... work on kids and self and marriage.

make hubby and kids work on being there for you. you deserve it,, FROM THEM...
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