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LOL, thanks.  I get what you mean and I probably could have quite a go at the stuff you mentioned.  I also mean more important details but still not where I should be lost in them.  Then I notice I'll get to the point where I get fed up, my common sense, "who gives a rat's ass?" bottom line snap decision ballsy self takes charge and I'll actually not care about things like correcting the grammar for the 400th time even though I still know there is an error.......because I now think, enough, let's just get this done.

So the hilarity is.............all that nitpicky obsessing and I'll wind up being jokey and "ah, so what?" when it comes out with obvious errors. 

How stupid is that? 

 I do that too.  Though I am still completely disorganized material-wise, I obsess about getting things right and go over and over certain details until I can almost recite them back verbatim.  I think this is because I know that if I don't do this, I am going to forget something, or miss something important.  Small detail/big detail, doesn't matter - I have to get it right.

This mostly pertains to my job, at home I am my complete and total ADD self (unless I'm cooking something - I love to do this and can spend hours in the kitchen) - I'm known as "the encyclopedia" here at work, but I feel like it's like a house of cards and if one falls, the entire structure will.  I've been fired from a number of jobs for stupid mistakes and absent-mindedness in the past, and I am just so afraid that it will happen here too unless I get absolutely everything right.

"Paralyzed by minutia" is a good way to describe it....

I know what you mean about the house of cards falling.  My problems at work wind up being attitude and being the "perpetual teenager" which I didn't think twice about in my 20's and early 30's but damn, hit 40 and it's not cool anymore and you realize it's a pattern.  I can't always shut up, I eventually get to where I do what I want to the point where I could get fired only now I've noticed I am more funny and charming and ballsy about it so that I can actually charm those I need to to keep my job. But it's fighting a losing battle as there is always some other coworker who hates that you get away with it and will expose you or bitch enough so that it is a problem. 

I also notice that people younger than me still feel like my teacher or parents or just older than me.  I don't think that I'm immature so much as I come off that way because I find the ordinary or the typical responsible worker so boring.  I don't have children so I feel that helps me get away with that "tough crap" attitude.  It's not good for anyone including myself.  It took me all these years to find hobbies that show me being NOT lazy, not incapable of running the show, etc but it also has to be on my terms and be about something I started or created.  It's really hard to go back once you figure that out and just deal with crap all day from bosses when it only serves to make them richer and to satisfy their egos.  I just feel like I know this and either no one else cares enough to be bothered by it OR.........the way I'm sure a lot of us are treated..........we're too stupid or immature or unrealistic to just accept all this and just be "adults"

I think the truth is, we just weren't made for the ordinary sometimes.  Am I the only one who feels that way or has come to that light bulb over their head moment when it just hits you like a ton of bricks?

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Yes, Lee this can be a characteristic of the ADHD mind.  My brother-in-law is this way.  I never noticed that I could be that way at times too.  The problem most people with an ADHD mind is when we are attentive we tend to have trouble with fixating on details that really don't matter.  Or a better way to put it is we tend to prioritize the details incorrectly. 

For instance, you might be writing a proposal or putting together a presentation.  Instead of paying attention to the content of the proposal or presentation, you focus on how the font in the document doesn't look right so you fiddle around with the fonts until they look just right.  Or, maybe the colors on your presentation just don't look right so instead of getting the presentation done, then going back to fiddle with the colors if you have time, you first fiddle with the colors until they look the way you want.

Yes we are different.  we have a collection of traits, tendencies and bio brain differences.  AND this don include stupid.  really lee,  most of adders are aabove average intellignece.  i'm 128 iq. AND  most of us do not have the social skills, the ability to pick up on social ques that average folks do...also remember, average is a loose concept and everyone has different a different finger print, voice pattern, eye.  so there are many groups of folks w. unique sets of behaviors.  have you read any books on add yet?

Sure I have.

 

I just can't finish any of them. 

They are all really good and very enlightening but I find I have the same problem with them: I am obsessed about always wanting to be reading them but the minute I pick one of them up I seem to need 30 minutes to ponder and space out over every 10 minutes of actual reading. 

It's my "what does it all mean?" syndrome.  Oy

I'm new here.  I'm in the process of being evaluated for ADD and have tons of questions.  I relate to many of the stories I've heard but a question I have is on the subject of details.  It sounds like many with ADD don't pay attention to the details.  On the one hand, I do get that and I've been accused of not paying attention, esp the first time.  And if I'm bored or into something else, forget it.  However, on the other hand I can be unbelievably paralyzed by minutia.  I get so bogged down in the nitpickiest details that that is often why I can't finish things or I dread starting or continuing them because I know I'm like this.  I'm not organized at all but I cling to the very few things I can be organized about......probably because it's such a relief for me.  But the details thing has me confused.  Is that something that some with ADD can relate to?  It's almost anal in that I'll get lost in nitpicking every last detail or variable that I drive others mental.  They seem to just be able to filter out what would bog them down but I get obsessed with it.  It's nice that I can catch things others can't but obviously every situation doesn't require this and often you really do need to cut the crap, let it go and just .........get whatever it is DONE.  As in TODAY.

Does that mean I don't have ADD or does it fit right in?  It seems to contradict other stuff I have read.  I'm either in my own head and am absolutely incapable of listening to every little detail even if it's simple OR I'm so anal about the details I ask about every possible variation to the point of sounding like a jackass.  I'll be right but it seems that it's so overboard that it's not necessary. 

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