When my son came home today, I asked him did he really say that to our family friend. He admitted he did. The being picked on it turns out is two boys that he wants to play with in his class of 24 kindergarteners and they always tell him no. I asked him did he tell ms. Greene the playground attendant and he said no, he didn't want to bother her. He told me that he tells the boys he can play if he wants and keeps telling them that. I asked him if he wanted anything from me, he told me I could talk to the teacher if I wanted to. I told my son that if he ignored these boys, they would probably come looking for him to play.
Frankly, I would not know what to say to his teacher. Do I approach the teacher with this or do I let it ride until the end of the year? Suggestions appreciated.
I think that is wise....it really could be that at that moment in time, your son had a normal tiff with a friend, and was feeling sad about it. Little things can seem huge when you are 6.....and your favorite friend wants to swing instead of play tag!!Did this family friend call you up with the sole purpose of telling you this month-old information? Did you ask why he waited so long and why he suddenly felt the need to disclose it now?
I would just ask the teacher, and if possible ask the playground monitors. The playground seems to be the breeding ground of teasing and picking in my son's case...that and the bus...ask the teacher to be aware and to please let you know if she notices anything.....
Do some role play with your son. He is young, and maybe if you did some role play where you said some not so nice things to maybe...an action figure...it might open up a dialogue and he may tell you things that would not otherwise come to light.
well, I have spoken to his room attendant or assistant teacher as she is the playground monitor. He recesses with his class and one other. She told me that there were no issues that she saw. There is one boy who tells him he cannot play and my son tells him yes he can. He knows when to speak to the teacher and how to handle himself.
I will speak to my son when he gets home today and ask him about it. He is very young and acts even younger but can usually express himself pretty well.
How do you handle it when your son tells other people things that he does not tell you? Our family friend called today and told me that he saw my son in the hallway at his school and that my son told him the other kids were picking on him. I was shocked and stated that according to my son AND his teacher he has made friends and there are no issues.
Upon my saying this, he stated that this conversation took place over 1 month ago and he is just now mentioning it to me. He also said that it could just be that he was having a bad day at school that one day. I asked him why he would call me up, one month later, and relay this info to me ? I would have found it more believable had he told me immediately and the teacher told me herself that there were a lot of " high strung" children in the class who did not play well with others but that my son is not one of them.
Could it be that my ds is having issues but is not telling me? I have always made a point of letting him know that he could tell me anything and I would understand. i do not know what to think.