Finally got my diagnosis..BPD/ADD | ADHD Information

Hello, I just got the diagnosis of BPD and ADD inattentive type (the ADD was highly probably but at the same time inconclusive because of my husbands replies to the questionaire he was given). They suggested for me to find a Psychiatrist that specializes in BPD and Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT). I'm really feeling like I'm going crazy because I've never heard of BPD before now and even though it does fit me.. it also scares the crap out of me. They also want me to be treated for ADD and to see if further sessions reveals if I do indeed have it since the paper test was inconclusive.

I feel lost because I went to a Psychologist to be tested.. yet they say here's your diagnosis (took 3 months to get that diagnosis) but sorry, we can't help you... and only give me a number of ONE Psychiatrist to call.... and he can't even help me. I tried looking in my insurance listing of Dr's but none of them specialize in BPD and ADD both. Does anyone else suffer from these conditions? Also.... Does anyone know of a good Dr in the Richmond or Washington D.C areas? I'm in between those two cities and willing to travel.

This is the 2nd time I've gone for help... the first time when I was severely depressed after losing my mother and going though a divorce. I was given Paxil and when it did not work they said that they could not help me anymore and didn't even try to give me something else.

I feel lost and so very alone.. not to mention crazy!


My 5 year old was not diagnosed with ADD, but said she may develop it later on in life and they're saying she has Dysthymic Disorder early onset (which I totally do not agree with) At the time of her testing (although I wasn't aware of this at the time) she was having problems with 2 girls in her class teasing her and also kicking her in the bathroom. Once I found this out I called the teacher and come to find out these girls were sitting at the same table as my daughter and they went to the restroom by table number without any supervision. The teacher talked with the girls and also moved my daughter to another table and since then she's been fine.

I do not agree with their diagnosis at all.. they want her to seek therapy, and to not totally dismiss ADD inattentive type, but they don't recommend meds yet.

Sorry this is so long... but I wanted to update since I've been around here for a little while.

BPD. Bipolar disorder, sometimes has a causative factor of a relationship that involves a disprportionate influence.  There may be more than one relationship in which you would feel better about yourself, if you were less compromising, or less resentful.

One way to reduce the influence of a realtionship, is to find ways to avoid arguing or feeling resentful.  One approach in conversation, is to find some part of the individual's asertions with which you can agree, and find an attitude which is neutral, neither for or against. 

Overbearing person:  "It looks like bad weather today!"

Neutral Response:  "Yes, wind and rain are in the forecaset, so I better remember my umbrella."

Any people you could target to practice on?  Your daugther's Mother?

Bullying in school can create acadeic problems for youngsters.  Sounds like your daughter had some difficulties.  Have you gotten her counseling on handling bullying?  I have heard there ar some specialized programs on handling bullying.

Here are some Chadd Groups:

Central Virginia CHADD
Tel: (804) 379-6706 Richmond Central Virginia CHADD Northern Virginia CHADD
Tel: (703) 641-5451 Vienna Northern Virginia CHADD
A Chadd Professional Member listed in the Chadd Directory is Adele Sebben, MA:

http://www.chadd.org/AM/CustomPages/ProfessionalDirectory/Di splayInfo.cfm?ID=350513

Have you identified habits that you could change to make your life easier?  Have you tried to change particular habits, so as to best alleviate any of your problems without meds?

Search NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programing,  for Habit Changing Counselors.

Do you smoke? 

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Dear Mrs. Shawn B,

Short fuse.  Exercise or practice yoga?  Practice breathing when feelings of frustration come up.  Make a note of upcoming situations that may need extra attention to avoid a short fuse.

Yelling at the kids is something to avoid.  Try to come up with systematic plans, that if the toys are not picked up, they go int a locked chest for a week, if you have topick them up.

Not getting ready for school, get up earlier the next morning.  I have things I can shortcut to get out the door, if I get behind.

Have meetings wtih the kids and get their ideas, if something has not gone well.  Let the facts do more of the reasoning with the kids.  Let them suggest something different, try it, have another meeting.   Family meetings can be fun.   Pocporn?

 

 

 

I'm not resentful in any relationship at the moment (I was very resentful with my Ex-Husband though)

My main problems right now is:

1) Short Fuse; I get impatient and want something done now and I get aggravated and start yelling (nothing abusive, just being loud) this could be with my kids when they're dragging their heels getting dressed in the morning, getting ready for bed, or picking up toys. I hate this part about me that I feel that I have to yell.

2) Procrastination and Lack of Energy to get things done

3) Organization

4) With my husband I hate admitting this, and it's something that I want to change very much. He doesn't go out with friends at all. I want him too, but times in the past when he's gone out.. I'm fine when he leaves but sometime during the time he's gone and I'm alone I start building up anger for some reason and I'm a total you know what towards him when he comes home.

I have many other things but these are the one affecting my life the most. I've tried to change, but have had no luck on my own.

As for smoking, I used to... smoked for 20 years but I quit 2 years ago this month.