For maturity, kids with ADHD are behind their peers by about 1/3 and the impulsivity coupled with immaturatey can make it very difficult for these kids to behave as expected.
You might look at the marble system by ogram (first thread on the parents board) for a positive reinforcement behavior modificaton plan. It can be used at home and school and works better than punishment.
You might also look at the med he is on. Your treatment goals should include these issues that affect him socially and not just academically. It might be just a slight increase in meds is all that is needed. Another option is to augment with guanfacine (Tenex) which helps with many ADHD symptoms and can be used alone or with a stimulant for issues of impulsivity, hyperactivity, defiance, etc. There are a couple good threads on Tenex you can read.
Good luck, this is a tough journey. You will find help and support here.
vickie39115.6575my son is on adderall xr (his second med) and his teacher is loving it because he's concentrating more than ever and getting more work done than ever before; he just can't work in a group enviornment because he goes so nuts with the other kids.
the other problem we are having is that he's getting in more trouble than before, today we received a call from the principal saying Jesse received "another" referral for crawling under a locked bathroom stall and then punched the kid in the privates that was in there. the only reason Jesse gave me (he's almost 7 by the way) is that this kid had done it to him out on the play ground before they came in from recess and then they went to the bathroom so he decided to "get him back". these two are supposed to be separated because they get each other in trouble and cause havoc. the principal wants an answer as to why Jesse does these things and i don't have one because you never know when or what he's going to do. it's like he makes up things as he goes along even without the other kid helping. i don't know what to do with him, i've talked, taken him to counseling, the doctor, ect... the teacher has tried to separate the ones that he used to hang around with that helped get him in trouble but nothing seems to work. i've done almost everything i can, but how can i get through to the school ? the poor kid's only in the first grade and i don't want him getting named the bad kid when he moves up in grades. i can never get an answer out of him because he always says it's someone else that does it to him first. Help!!!!
When I read your post, I also wondered if possibly the med/dosage is not right. I would talk to your doctor about the behaviors you are seeing.
Good Luck!
thanks for the replies, i plan on talking to the doctor this week about possibly upping his dosage, they started him out at the lowest to see if it was going to work. i know it's all trial and error when first starting out on the meds so i'm keeping my fingers crossed. Thank you! i'm just trying to help him.