getting a non medicated child to leave | ADHD Information

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my dd and I went to the local park  we took a picnic and the new puppy.  We arrived about 2pm.  At 15mins until 5pm I told her we had to leave and if she came in 15mins we could go to the video store and rent a video if she left when I said.  Okay 15mins go by and I try to get her to leave and she won't come she tries to run off and make me chase her.  I finally get her down from the slide so I hold her arm with her crying and trying to pull away.  I pull her over to the picnic stuff and get it in one hand while still holding on to her because if I don't she will run away and it will be at least another 30mins until I can catch her again.  A young man says is this necessary because my dd is pulling away and saying I am breaking her arm.  I  just have my fingers locked around her arm so it is only tight enough to not let her hand thru but not tight on her wrist.  I felt horrible but I know I can't let go because she will run away for sure.  I think she was embarrassed because she calms down when the guy says this and tells me she will walk to the car.  She does but so slowly it took us 15 mins to get into the car and leave.    I always have trouble getting her to leave any place that I take her that is fun.  It is horrible!  It doesn't happen when she is on her medicine.  What do you guys do?

ps she said she didn't want to go to the video store while we were at the park.  As soon as we pull out of the park she says so are we going to the video store?  I told her no because she didn't leave like I asked.  so she immediately starts saying that she would the next time if we could go now.  We went home.  I told her she didn't earn it. 

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Good for you that you didn't give in.  Maybe next time she will cooperate....or the next time.....eventually....

I think you did great, every child needs set rules and parents that follow through, but I think escpecially kids with ADHD.  The more structure that better.  Don't let anyone make you feel bad, just tell them to walk a week in your shoes and then they will be entitled to give advise without you knocking them out.  A little harsh I know but boy that just really chaps my hide (my texas quote)   jodieThat stranger had no business getting involved.  I feel your pain I always have the same problem going to a park for she never wants to leave either.  What i do is tell her we will be leaving in 30 minutes then at 15 minutes give her the reminder  and again at 5 and that seems to help.  I also tell her if she does not listen we will not go back until she can prove to me she knows how to listen and also gets a time out at home.  I even have her practice at home "time to leave".

I do the same as Jillette with my son.  I give him 30 minutes and give him half way warning etc...   I find this to work for us most of the time.  There are times it doesn't but I think all children go through this whether they are ad/hd or not. 

 

I know that other parents have the same problem.  As a matter of fact while we were at the park a mother kept calling her daughter and she would not answer so she finally told her that they were leaving immediately because she wouldn't answer.  They actually stayed a little longer after the girl came to the mother complaining about having to leave.  the funny part is the daughter wouldn't listen because she was having too much fun with my dd.  When they really left the little girl gave jasmine a hug. 

 I don't have as much of a problem to get her away unless she is having a good time.  and never when she is on her meds.  it may take a couple of warnings but she comes easily enough.  we have this problem when we go camping with the girl scouts.  she will not do the chores she has to do on the last morning.  Its like if she doesn't do her chores then we won't leave.  on her first camping trip she kept saying she was going to live there and wouldn't even get out of her pj.  We told her she didn't get to eat anything until she was done with her packing and her chore so she finally did.  The good news is that her troop all know how she behaves on the last day and have all taken it as a matter of fact.   we are going camping the end of this month and hope that she will do better this time as she is getting a little older and will be on her meds. 

Wow, that is so how my 5 1/2 y.o. is. She is recently dx'd with high possibility of ADD inattentive type and being referred to a Psychiatrist for further eval and possible meds. We have an appointment on Friday. I totally dread taking them to the park or even McDonald's play land because of the battles we have leaving.  Ah, transitions.

My DS (age 8) has always been this way. "Switching" from one thing to another is always a challenge. And now he's too big for me to just pick him up and put him in the car!!


I completely feel for you my 4 year old is the same way.  It's not as bad with the meds he is on but they don't currently have him on a stimulant so he gets distracted really easily.  I also know the whole I don't want to go get a movie, ice cream etc. and as soon as I pull in the driveway it's "we didn't get a movie".  Just stay in charge and make her understand that she has to show respect and listen before she can be rewarded.  I made that mistake.