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Tell the girl that her friend getting a better night's sleep and taking vitamins.

Girls talk.

 

I don't think I would tell her friend the entire truth, just leave the medication part out. I would think your daughter may be embarassed and feel different. Her friend may also tell others, maybe by accident, maybe not. Also they may be friends now, but as they grow up, things could change, and her friend will know your daughters secret. Girls can be mean at all ages, including adults!

I would just tell her that your DD is growing up and maturing, just like the friend is. And move on.

It is your daughters business, noone else's. I learned that the hard way by telling someone. My poor son

Keep your daughter's secret, tell noone. And I agree with you abbymaker about not bringing it up unless the girl does. And I hope your good friend doesn't say anything to her daughter.

Just my opinion!

My friend does know that my daughter is on meds.  and I have been talking to her about my daughter for years.... she has seen my daughter grow up in the last 3 years.  She knows what I have been thru and I know in her heart she would not do anything or say anything to hurt my DD.   She also told me that she would never tell her daughter that DD is on meds... they don't need to know.. she said to me.  

I am very greatful that she came to me first.

 

Yes, that was great of your friend to come to you first.  I agree not to tell the other girl about your daughter taking medication.

 

We went through this last year when my son was in Kindergarten -- my son actually handled it great.  When his buddy mentioned how come he wasn't "silly" anymore, he just said "I am concentrating!" 

Even now in First grade when he goes up for medicine (we are slowly transitioning to Daytrana!) he just says, "It helps me concentrate".  It is amazing how many other kids visit the nurse with him for various Asthma, diabetes and other ailments.

 

Enjoy your success!

Hello All,    I am just amazed of the wealth of information everyone gives  in this room.  I don't post a lot, but just reading has helped me.  With this said.  I need your help.

A good friend of mine asked me what to say to her daughter about the changes in my daughter.  The 2 girls have been very good friends for the past 3 years and my daughter has been on concerta for the last month (and is just mind blowing the difference).  the friends daughter asked to her Mom, " why is Abby acting so calm?"  of course my friend didn't know how to answer this and changed the subject and came to me... I was very pleased that she did... know I don't know what to answer to give to her.  The girls are 8.

Right now we are not going to address this until it is mentioned again.

Simply have your friend (or yourself) tell her that your DD was having a hard time paying attention in school.  Equate it to a child that has a hard time seeing the board.  And like a child that doesn't have perfect vision has to get glasses to help them do their best work, your DD has to take a special medicine that helps her stay focused and it makes her feel more calm and happy. 

Treat it like it's no biggie and they will treat it like that too more then likely.

My first  questions about this actually came from my son.  Why do I have to take this stuff mom?  I told him baby you know when you get going really fast and sometimes get in trouble for it.  He said yea he sure does know that.  I said he just has a very fast brain and sometimes he has soooo much going on up there that he doesn't know what to listen to and what not to.  He again said yea, sometimes it makes me crazy when I want to do a bunch of stuff at once.  I told him the medicine just makes his thoughts go a little slower so he can pick and choose which one is the best thought to use.  This was when he was 6 now he is almost 9 (my baby is growing too fast) and he has started to help me pick his meds.  We decided on daytrana because he did not like taking meds at school and he says it helps his head think easier.  I never told him not to tell anyone because I did not want him to feel as this was something to be ashamed about, but I also have never encouraged him to tell people either.  I just gave him something to say in case some kid asked him.  And when one did this past year he said with pride that it helps his thoughts stay easier so he could do better in school and with his important decision.  The other kid basically said cool and the subject has never been mentioned again.  So this worked for us, but not everyone is the same.  You just have to do what you think is best.  All of this is trail and error.  And if you are like us we have more error than not most of the time.   Good luck, my thoughts are with youl.Thank-you all for your answers... the funny thing is my daughter says she does not notice a difference in herself while on Concerta.  but let me tell you... WOW the difference.  She had a "normal" phone conversation with my Mum for 40 minutes and my Mum was able to follow the conversation.  This was a first... I generallly have to peice the conversation together for my Mum after they get off the phone.  And they only talk for a few minutes.