Im new to this, so I want to share a little about my struggles. I am a single mother of two, who doesnt have a lot of support from my childrens father. last year my son was diagnosed with adhd, "with other tendencies". which means there is something else there that is making focusing difficult. just today i had a meeting with my sons teacher, the learning director and the RSP teacher. he is not doing well. he is not getting is work done in class, he's lying about what he has for homework, he's overly emotional, and im ready to give up ! my son has been taking 54ml of concerta for about 6 months, and its seems to not be helping as much as it did in the beginning. ive taken away privilages, even going as far as taking away his birthday party for lying to me and his teacher. this doesnt seem to have helped. i dont know what else to do. if anyone has any ideas, please share. i saw the post about the marble reward, and am going to start it next week, so heres crossing my fingers! oh, i might also add that i work graves, and am likely to be on this shift for years to come. please help!
Welcome crismeza,
One thing that the marble system helped with, was for us to be more consistant parents. Also you can work out a reward system with the teacher that gives rewards for recording homework, doing homework, doing classwork etc. We had a checklist for the teacher to fill out each day and rewards were given based on the number of checks. I know the marble thread is long, but read it all.
You and the doctor should re-evaluate the meds. It may be that a different dose, a different med should be explored or even augmenting with something like guanfacine (Tenex).
We went through the whole "taking away privleges" until there was nothing to take away and it just added to the conflict in our home. With the marble system at home and a similar system for school we were able to get improvement with behavior. When we got the ADHD (with ODD, anxiety and depression) and started meds, we got the rest of the way. Things are great now for us.
I know it is hard to see to your own needs, but you have to take care of yourself in order to maintain your sanity and to be the best parent you can be.
Also, post over at the parent's board to get more parents to see you post for responses and ideas and support.
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