SuperNanny | ADHD Information
Yes! I posted earlier that it would be on last week, because that's what Supernanny said on The View. Sorry if I confused yall!!I watched last week and I thought that boy had issues that the dad should explore. But I saw the previews for tonight and I have to watch. The child was kicking, hitting, screaming just like my ds. I want to see what else she has other than the naughty spot which my child would live in. I set my DVR in case I don't get home from Jonna's in time...she has no TV....though Chase's ADHD is not hyperactive, and I have no kicking and screaming with him....I am still interested in what discipline techniques she will use.Well, Claz28, that child was not on meds and the mother clearly said that since he has been off meds the behavior has gotten worse. I am glad that you got your son's issues addressed, but you are not the first person to point out that bipolar is often misdiagnosed as ADHD on this forum, The 2 disorders often co exist, and we also know that the bipolar must be addressed before any treatment for ADHD meds can be introduced.
And I agree with the other posters. The nanny did help in the homework issues, and point out to mom that she needs to focus on the positives. But I, too , fail to see how mom is going to ever discipline the child. I for one would not want to move in and hug a child that is punching at my nose and kicking me, especially as a pregnant mom. And I would be interested to see the homework battles in a few years when homework becomes more than fill in the blank worksheets. I had no issues to speak of with Chase until he hit 4th grade.....1st grade homework was a breeze compared to 4th grade...
I kept waiting for the nanny to come up with a solution to the naughty bench problems....never happened...
It was not really applicable to my situation, because Chase has not ever been that defiant, or argumentative, just unfocused...
I was happy to see that lazy dad get more involved! I couldn't believe that time he came in and his wife was crying and he didn't even acknowledge it! And when she told him she didn't feel well and to hurry and change, and it STILL took him 45 minutes to come back down!!!
I watched it but unfortunately, I was driftimng in and out of sleep. Not that it wasn't interesting but I only caught bits and pieces of it.
Can anyone recap the show? I actually came here to post about it but saw that it already was. I don't think that the child was taking any meds? The dad wasn't invoved much and the mom did pretty much everything on her own with 3 kids (and expecting a 4th one maybe?).
I saw the part when thay had success with homework by sitting the kid in a quiet area but I kept thinking that it was working "a little too well". He was actually sitting for a long period of time which seems almost impossible...but then again, I probably missed something.
Yes, a show recap would be great!
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Claz2839140.3201273148yes last week at the very end where the credits run by, the boy was awfully hyper and all over for a long period of time. I wondered about him. But didn't see much of him during the show. I cannot wait to see what happens tonight. I love Jo Frost and think she is doing so much for so many people. I would love to see her deal with a school and teachers at my son's school sometimes on how to discipline children and treat them.
Okay, I just got throught watching the show, and I'm wondering, did I miss something? Did anyone else get any tips? All I saw was how hard a time the mother was having and how stressful having a ADHD child is. Well DUH!!!!!
I didn't see anything to help how to deal with them when they are trying to hit, or making faces while you are trying to talk to them. The mother was trying to do the naughty step, but they never addressed if she was doing it right, or how she should punish him.
I would have like to see some techniques we could actually use
I believe I remember hearing her to the mom in that situation to hug the child and readdress the situation. Also, at the end when she did the picture in an upstairs room with all the good things written on about the child to go there in situations like that and reflect on the positive about her child then reassess the situation.
Maybe I understood it wrong, but I believe she was saying that when the child is having their "fits" to hug them and love them and so them compasion. Please correct me if I saw that wrong. I taped the show to go back and watch again to be sure of what I saw.
I will PM Ogram and have her check out this post. Jill Or we can exchange instant messenger names....we could communicate that way as well...or PM phone #....even if we cannot use the boards name for whatever legal reasons....if we get several "signatures" from members....it would surely get recognized.
True it did address the he** that homework was before meds....but Chase never needed drug back to the chair...he just drug out the homework for hours...kept getting off task, and distracted....going to the bathroom, noticing one of the daycare children that he just had to go and "help", etc....
I am just not clear on how long the new homework strategies are actually going to do the trick....I really think the newness is gonna wear off and then he will be right back to defiance again....
That is actually a pretty good recap. I also thought that the homework was going surpisingly well by just moving him to a different room, and getting the other children off with dad....he was suddenly not fighting about it, and willingly doing it....but I suppose the novelty of having the quiet place could be working...I would be interested in how it works in the long run.
Yes, mom was pregnant, dad would come home and disappear for however long upstairs only to come down when he was hungry....no the child was not on meds, the mom said his behavior got worse since he was off meds, and the reason he was not on meds was never addressed....
Mom tried to institute discipline that was not working, and the nanny pretty much told her to hug him when he was out of control and kicking and punching her....???? Never addressed what to do when he was screaming out at mom and openly defiant.....
Really not much help at all except for the first things that we all tried when our children were first showing signs of the disorder....
I saw the show last night also. I agree with everybody so far as to why the meds were discontinued....I am hoping that the program will serve to educate the "uninitiated" as to what ADHD really means on the homefront and how so incredibly difficult it is to deal with an ADHD child, especially when the other children need attention, too.i saw it too. my son has had those kind of meltdowns, but usually hugging mommy is exactly what he wants to help make it all better. he's never hit me though, but lots of defiance/tantrums. luckily my son will stay in his time out spot too. I was hoping we'd see some school aspects though. our problems aren't so much at home but at preschool. myjeffrey39140.427025463 I am not the only one then for she never addressed the behavior issue maybe it was too many things to address is why they on focused on one or two. I did like how she showed mom what her childs life is like.Also to add the talking to your child is a joke you try talking to a child in meltdown mode so how that goes. As for the homework issue it was good for it was filmed and is a novelty wait a few weeks.
Jillette39140.4493634259My thoughts exactly...maybe we should all write the show and tell them how it is!!!
Ask for a follow up in 6 months.....the 'update' that they did at the end was obviously not very long after the taping...the kids had not changed, and mom was not showing in her pregnancy, nor was the new baby there....and it was still snowy...same season....I am interested in how she will devote that time to his homework once the new baby is there, not to mention, how will the baby be protected while in mom's arms with the child swinging his fists and feet at her....? Come on ladies...mass email time!!
[QUOTE=chasesmom79]My thoughts exactly...maybe we should all write the show and tell them how it is!!! Ask for a follow up in 6 months.....the 'update' that they did at the end was obviously not very long after the taping...the kids had not changed, and mom was not showing in her pregnancy, nor was the new baby there....and it was still snowy...same season....I am interested in how she will devote that time to his homework once the new baby is there, not to mention, how will the baby be protected while in mom's arms with the child swinging his fists and feet at her....? Come on ladies...mass email time!![/QUOTE]* I agree and it should be addressed and on TV is good for others can see what our lives are like. And if dad does not stay changed is Divorce in the future? Let us all put our heads together time.
Maybe we should talk to ogram and luv and see if we can (or they can approve of) a nice letter to the show, outlining the good things we saw addressed and also the bad (or not so good) things....and our suggestions...if we could attach the board's name to it...a board with 13,000 plus members....it should carry some weight....? [QUOTE=chasesmom79]Maybe we should talk to ogram and luv and see if we can (or they can approve of) a nice letter to the show, outlining the good things we saw addressed and also the bad (or not so good) things....and our suggestions...if we could attach the board's name to it...a board with 13,000 plus members....it should carry some weight....?[/QUOTE]
Also sounds good to me maybe we can go on another board with a chatroom and discuss ideas or exchange phone numbers.
Yes I heard it was on tonight. I thought someone posted previously that it was on last week. Then someone else said tonight. I will watch tonight and see. I really thought it was the boy from last week. His teacher said he had focussing difficulties.I think that so many of the "problem" children on that show have issues other than poor parenting. The naughty spot will only do so much and could actually backfire. is the show tonight with a child with ADHD. I thought it was going to be last week but looks like it might be tonight. Planning on watching it?Very true.....never thought about that....WHO SAID THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS ADHD??? (MR. CRUISE? LOL)
[QUOTE=Jillette]My husband had another theory we did not even think about which is the dad may have Adult ADD himself and not know it why he did not help as much and not realize it all. [/QUOTE]
Jillette, I was thinking the same thing as I watched the show..If he does not have ADHD, then he is just a real selfish A@$.
joemom39140.658287037I thought it was a pretty interesting episode. This child was definitely quite defiant and like most people said it would be hard to address all of that in an hour show. I thought there were some good general tips and I really like the part with the picture at the end and how she had to write all those things about her son. It made me have insight into my own feeling about my son and how we must separate their actions from the child him/her self.[QUOTE=jenpcole]WHO SAID THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS ADHD??? (MR. CRUISE? LOL)[/QUOTE]
OMG! I LOVE it!!
I would love for everyone to weigh in at the supernanny forum in response to someone who stated there is no such thing as ADHD based on her experience with her son!
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I love Jo Frost and agree with most of her techniques as they prove they work. I have written the show to request a follow up on that family or another ADHD family showing how to deal with the hitting (like show how the mom hugged the child or talked to him and told him she understood his frustration, etc that Jo told her to do). I hope they do another episode of ADHD and am happy they did this one.You could probably invite Jo on to chat on a specific night about ADHD and some things we saw and maybe she can help a bunch of people at once?No she never did and that is one of the problems that I had with the show...the nanny said that the child had been on and off meds and that he was currently off, then when she asked the mom how the behavior was since stopping meds the mom said "definitely worse", so the next logical question was "Why is he not taking them now?" but it never came.....
I agree that hugging at the moment of the meltdown will not probably work, but I have never had the issue with that kind of behavior, so it is just a supposition on my part....possibly more love and attention at other times may help....and that mom was so patient...when he wanted snacks at the wrong time, she acknowledged that she knew he wanted snacks, but that he knew the rules....and he still threw his fit...
I think I need the snack Jar for ME!
i watched the nanny episode and i'm sorry...but i tried all of those things. when he's throwing one of his tantrums, it is IMPOSSIBLE to hug him. hell, it's impossible even to communicate with him at all...it's like he's possessed. it's getting worse now...he's 9 and almost as tall as me...and pretty damn strong. he's in the gifted program in school and he's a very bright child...which, i swear, only makes it harder to deal with him. there's no reasoning with him these days. i don't know...the show just really didn't help me at all. i totally felt for the mom...but did she ever say why the child wasn't on meds anymore if they were helping him?ok buggirl38, I went and blasted her.....gave one of my signature posts detailing my 4 children that all ate the same, lived in the same house, had the same parents, teachers, food and environment, and 2 of the 4 have the disorder....usually no one has an answer for that one...
my family does not fit into any of the naysayers little boxes! Usually shuts them right up!
I just found the supernanny's website, it is supernanny.us.com; it has some articles about ADHD. That I thought were very good.
I don;t know about you all, but watching that mom last night, was like looking at myself in the morror. My husband works until past dark, and when he comes home, he just goes and sits in front of the TV and doesn't help at all. I cried myself to sleep after watching that last night. I wanted him to see that episode so bad. I should have recorded it. I just feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders, and he doesn't want to have anything to do with it.Chasesmom--
I agree with you on letting the show know that the ADHD community is not happy with that show. I do think it was very good at showing how moms have to deal with it, but nothing really on how to handle the child other than with homework.
I realize that they only have half an hour, but maybe this should have been a 2 part show....and more could have been addressed. I don't know....maybe one of our families can volunteer for her to come and help out with another ADHD child with behavior issue due to the ADHD....give them another chance to get it right..... My husband had another theory we did not even think about which is the dad may have Adult ADD himself and not know it why he did not help as much and not realize it all.I wonder if you go to abc.com, if you could watch it online....maybe you could convince him to watch....I think you can watch it online...
I am sorry that you are feeling so alone....does your family have a therapist? Even the therapist is just for the children, you could broach the subject with them....
chasesmom7939140.5295833333You can watch highlights of it on supernanny's websiteChases mom, thank you. I will go to the website, and try to get him to watch. I am just overwhelmed. Look at my "Blended family pleas help" post, and you can see why. I am new at this ADHD thing. The last 8 months have been so hard for me. We just started counsleing, so I hope it helps. I really love him. [QUOTE=joemom]I think I need the snack Jar for ME!
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