clingyness anyone | ADHD Information

My husband swears "They forgot to cut the cord when she was born" because DD (age 11!) can not stand to be away from me.  Yes, she still climbs all over me if we are visiting relatives....Sitting next to me just isn't close enough.  She follows me all over the house, ALL the time!  If I absolutely MUST go somewhere w/o her, she stands in the window with the most pathetic look waving a really sad good-bye and blowing me kisses.  All of this happens during her calm/good moods.     The flip side is 500% attitude, defiance, rudeness, and me wondering how this could possibly be the same kid who didn't want me to leave for 10 minutes to run to the gas station because she'll "miss me too much"??????

I think I'll take the "clingy Mommy's girl" over "the other" any day. 

This also goes back to my thread "Can I get a minute please?". If I get away my ds will call me on my cell to see what I am doing, when I am coming home etc. I too tell him that it is annoying and that I am sorry but he needs to back off for a while. He does it more with me than anyone. Right now it is 20 minutes until bedtime and he keeps coming out of the playroom to see if it is time. I tell him "dont worry i will definately tell you when it is time".

 

My 6.5 yr old (nonADHD) daughter is the same way.  I refer to her as my barnacle child.  I can't tell you how often she gets stepped on, or wacked in the head because I turn around and she's standing 6 inches away.    Recently I've basically started telling her to go away.  I try to be gentle about it, and very specific.  "I'm going to use the bathroom now and you may not come in with me.  You also may not stand outside the door or sit on my bed and talk to me.  Please go downstairs and look at a book or color till I'm finished."  There were many tears at first, but it's getting better. 

I also tell her when it's getting annoying.  I know some people don't like saying that to their kids, but I think it's important for them to know how certain behaviors affect others.  She's also understands what annoying means very clearly because she has a brother with ADHD.    It does seem to help. 

I don't know if any of this would help a child with impulse control problems, but you have my sympathy.

I notice on certain days my child when going somewhere will cling to me and hang on my arm and not let go.  At home sometimes she will follow me around and grab on while eating dinner.  I love her dearly and love to snuggle but while we are out it looks silly and she will also if i am sitting climb all over me.  Just curious.  My concern is she is 7 and hanging on and does not appear nervous about anything.  It does get annoying at times for I cannot enjoy a movie with her hanging on or if we are having a meal out.  Any ideas?

My son is very clingy and kisses often, but we attribute it to sensory issues and are having an OT evaluate him, to get services to lessen the activity.

Love hugging with him though.  :)

My son did this so much when he was younger but I am delighted that it has lessened as he has gotten older.  He does still seem to "crave" physical contact with me though.

He is free and easy with hugs and kisses - usually at the most inopportune times but also mostly when we are alone.  (And I am really trying to teach him that kisses needn't be sloppy!)

He exhibits total independance in front of others most of the time now.

At family functions she does do her own thing and does not cling unless she is tired. Just curious... How many of you parents that have clingy kids have the same kids needing a parent to lay next to them while they go to sleep? Our ds has always had trouble going to sleep by himself. Any advise?