Problems at Work | ADHD Information

I can't seem to find a job that I enjoy for more than a few weeks ... and then i start hating my boss ( i feel like if other people hate my boss, too, then it can't all be b/c of my adhd crap, right?) ... but, i don't know how t oget a job that i will continue to like.  i mean, i'm a teacher and i enjoy kids and such but i hate working in this after school program that i'm teaching at ... before that, i hated workin at a school b/c my boss was so annoying and mean and rude ... wank ... and i hurt my back and i got a speeding ticket yesterday (my first time EVER being pulled over by a cop and that is hard) and i started my period today and it just all sucks. someone please have some advice? i used to be like this.

first, i went to a career counselor.  that helped a lot.  make sure you find a good one though.

second, i grew up.  that sounds harsh, but i don't mean it that way.  it has taken me a while to recognize that i am emotionally immature and have a tendency to be impulsive with my emotions.  very black or white.

i get really into something, then burn out and HATE it.

finally, i am currently doing CBT and i highly recommend it.

good luck :) :)

Ok, I feel stupid.  What's CBT?

 

http://spinningincircles.dmc2.yuku.com/

Lee7439156.7244907407Don't feel stupid!  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy :)  Sorry I didn't clarify.

Ohhhh.  Thanks.

It sounds like exactly what I need.

Lee7439157.3594212963http://www.nacbt.org/whatiscbt.htm

there ya go!  i really like it!

What did you do...........find a therapist, a book, etc?

Thanks for the link.  Maybe it's because I just woke up.

Hi,

I hope I am not too late to add my opinion. I realize it's about a month late.

But I have had jobs of all sorts. If it weren't for my getting bored or having problems of some sort, I would not have gotten the next job. All in all, I learned a lot about each one. I also met a lot of different people. I was able to maintain some friendships, what they call "networking" and some helped me get other jobs.

Now I work as a freelancer, and I am working on my own business. I think that the risks I took when I was younger, and survived, gave me the confidence and experience I needed to do this. For example, my sales experience helped me to talk to people and read people. All the networking I did helped me by giving me advice and confidence in this undertaking.

You have survived every experience you have encountered...even if it was the hard way at times. Look at it this way, the one who keeps forgetting to go to the gas station and get gas ends up with an empty gas tank, but that person has gained great strength in their legs from walking up and down hills to fetch the gas.

So, look at your life like a movie or a great story. Write down what you can remember about each job. Go back once in a while and reflect on it. Ideas about what to do with what you learned, and a clue about where you are headed appear. Ever watch a movie and realize that you know where the plot is taking the characters? It's your life; Your movie! Good luck!

Ricochet:

Wow.  I really like your thoughtful analogy about empty gas tank and walking.  Last couple of days I've been lamenting over my failure in my career and life in general.  So, your post spoke to me.  I need to reflect more positively.  I am 47 and it is never too late to learn.

It's stuff like this that makes the board worthwhile.  Thanks.

It all sounds so familiar....

One of the best pieces of advice I ever overheard was "The only person you compete with in life is yourself".  It took a long time and alot of work to find a job I'm finally happy doing.  I also wasted alot of time drifting around, but like you said, its never too late.  The past is gone.  Many of us are in prison, addicted to drugs, dead...so although its trite and somewhat unhelpful to say it, you're not doing THAT badly!

Be aware of the negative, focus on the positive.

 

 

I look back at my twenties and regret losing a lot of very good jobs due to lack of interest or self-destructive behavior.  I now can say that ADHD did make a big difference in that even when I knew I needed the job the urge to leave and find something more stimulating usually took over.

Getting older helps.  Meds helped a great deal.  Now even when my factory job becomes mundane or even uncomfortable it isn't anywhere as hard as if I was unmedicated to bear it out.

Cognitive therapy helps a lot.  It can teach new skills to help with coping as most jobs have boring parts.  Heck - unless you are an astronaut or rock star I'd say all jobs have their bad side.

Get some help no matter what it is.  A good job record these days is essential.  It's not like 20 years ago when jobs were plentiful at the high range of salary.  Do find something you like as well.
I found a therapist.  He is a godsend, as he does sliding scale payments and I'm in grad school w/ no income so that's what I needed.

I did a search for "Cognitive behavioral therapists + my city" and found a listing.