Foul language & Tenex | ADHD Information

I am on Clonidine and have been for over a month now - and i found especially after the first week or so - i swear heaps more! I had to reduce the dosage because it was  causing other problems, and the swearing has become much less - go figure?  Well it worked! He told me he got teased and he chose to ignore it. He came home with the best color (daily bahvior rating system) from his school on friday!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, we just had a converstation about it and he told me that people are calling stupid. He is really smart but I think he is pointed out a lot for his behavior.

So I just told him that he needs to start ignoring those people - the more he ignores the less they will pick on him. I told him that they are just trying to get a reaction out of him  I told him to look at the person then look away so they know he knows he heard them but he has choosen to ignore them. He didn't get it at first so we played a game.

I pretended I was a kid saying something to him to get a reaction - So I told him he has brown eyes (he has blue). His first time he told me he didn't. I told that is exactly what I wanted him to say = I got a reaction. We tried again and he looked at me and then looked away - I said it a few more times with some gusto and he kept ignoring me.

He asked me to come up to him every once and a a while and try it again - just did it while he and his sister were eating dinner and he ignored me immediately. But when I reminded him when he finished dinner he needs to get changed for baseball and he immediately said ok.

Let's hope this helps him restrain himself, gain more confidence and  will no longer be known as the one who always gets in trouble.

I like the ingnoring on purpose thing. That may come in handy for my little one.

thanks

I do not usually get reasonable responses from her when I ask things she does not want to talk about. She either denies ever hearing teasing or simply replies "doggies, I like doggies".

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Just a question...  I relize its difficult to deal with ADHD children and often they are in "their own world".  But have you tired asking him WHY he was using bad language?

Perhaps have a dialogue...  He's 7 he knows why hes angry.  At least try to find out why hes angry.

My little cousin had a bad day at school weeks ago, becasue he didnt get his brownie at lunch.  He's 6.

For anyone who has reintroduced their kids to meds please read -

I took my son off Tenex for a little bit - suggestion of doctor - With in 24 hours he was off the walls in his behavior. He put him back on his dosage of Tenex .5 mg. He has been on it for 3 days now. His active behavior has reduced but for the last 2 days at school his language has been horrible - he is 7 years old.

Is this normal? Does anyone have advice? How long does it take for full effect of this medication?

BTW: He only takes Tenex and when he was on it prior to removal he was great - also give Omega-3 & Amino Acid supplements and Feingold diet. No Stimulants


newmom39156.4606018519I do not think the foul language is part of the med. It may be part of the transistion from "off the wall" behavior to more impulse control but not perfect control yet. Do you have a rewards system in place? If so, incorporate the language for now.Yes, we have a reward system but it is for his whole behavior at school. He never talks that way at home.

His school is on a daily color system - green (good), yellow (warning), blue (timeout) and red (principals office and call home) . He received a red yesterday for horrible language all day long. The day before they wouldn't change his color b/c they could tell he couldn't control himself, today he got a blue. One better than yesterday. progress

He is in him room now writing " I will not use bad language" That seems to work for him but I hate to use that punishment b/c it makes him not like writing at school so we only use sparingly.




Hopefully you can get the behavior stopped quickly.

Wow.. she replies to you "she likes doggies"?

Intresting.. every ask her what kind?  Just to throw her off track?

You've taught her by negative reinforcement to continue to reply in that fashion.

I have a communications degree with a minor in PSY and SOC.

Next time she replys that way... you need to give her a reaction she was not expecting.  Meaning... you give her the negative reinforcement that will stop her behavior.

For example... she says I like doggies everytime becasue perhaps for some reason you stop asking.  Its a que to you to stop your questioning. 

Im not saying its bad.. but if you dont like it, its changable.

 

Myson just this am said to play practice with him again on the ignoring thing. I think he likes it - let's hope it works for him in school.

Will let you know.

Good going!

Oh gosh, I remember the color system....when Chase was in 3rd and 4th grade (1st half, before dx and meds) he would get a red or green card for each day.  His was for staying on task, completing and turning in worksheets, etc.  I would pick him up each day (he could NOT handle the bus in those days) and I could tell by the way he was coming to the car what color it was....red, and he was dragging his feet, head down...green, and he was running, skipping and head up, smiling. 

I am happy for you and your son, that he is seeing how his reactions to others can change things for the better....it took Chase until this year to 'get' that one...and he is in 5th grade.