I function as a much more effective parent when my wife isn't competeing to be the "Alpha" parent . I have difficulties ,but if she focuses on them I can't communicate whats best for our only child , an almost 4yrs old little girl. We wind up arguing. I can't bring my wife a text out line of a plan or schedule. My wife demands that we use only word of mouth communication.

Which most people who know me know I can't process cognitivly accurate quickly enough to be in the same conversation as my wife is having with me.

My plans are dismissed because thet are in a spreadsheet encompassing every aspect of outchilds devoplment or in a mindmap view. I try to transfere my plans to ms word .doc but even that is rejected. Its disapointing to be a parent of a bright child that surpasses me mentally at age three. Thats because ive been the stay at home dad working on third shift helping her to reach milestones on her levels. Mom has her positive influences too.  It's disapointing to be shutdown in my home because I'm not a NTer. I have to just do things without my wife's approval and have control battles just to reach a point of compromise. I feel like my wife is saying  she was good at schooling and college therfore she gets to make the decisions where to send or daughter to schools.

I'll say this, because they don't take us out back and shoot us when were young we will fight if nessessary to be involved as adults. It's an unfair fight. I can out calculate my wife and rehash  over details way after the best the best choice's has been considered. My wife can simply speak well with others like herself . She wins! I hate taking credit for what god has blessed me with.  I feel like because my wife is doing very little with her other than sharing comfort nooks. She may feel guilty for not doing more and try to discredit what im doing so she can be an alpha parent. I don't divorce my wife because I think my daughter is better off with two alhpa Parents plural  , I dont go any further than that . I don't want to take a chance on having four parents for her- two alphas two betas or one of whom could be an omega. I had an abusive step parent. stupid was my name.not when my mom was around though. I nearly killed him when I was old enough to stand my ground and was institionalized for it. When I was twenty I confronted him agian like in a "muder she wrote" drama where I baited him in and got it on tape and later my mother accused me of being a trouble maker and to never to come back. well im better off but i dont want to be in that hepless situation agian where something is wrong and I I'm not taken seriously or able to guard my child from abuse. After all if she made a mistake purposely bringing her into this world with me as the father  what other  mistakes is she going to make. I choose the mother of my child carefully I made the right choice . I just didnt realize she would become so protective that she would dismiss me to further her own cause. 

 What do you think . Do I have a communiction problem? Pm me on this question.

WOW ALMOST A MONTH WITH NO REPLY I GEUSS NOT