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Don't feel alone..you are definitely not alone, and I am sure that we have all had those days and nights where everything was so overwhelming that all you could do is cry.  That is ok - you can cry, kick, scream, yell, whatever you need to do to get through the day - what you can't do is give up.  Your baby girl needs you and you will find the strength to help her through!  You cannot be Wonderwoman every minute of every day.

Keep trying...after a very rough week last week with a meds change, we got a report of a "very good day" today for our little guy.

 

IT DOES GET BETTER.....but times like these don't ever completely disappear.  My son is also on three, no actually four medications.  It is very scary but he does so well.  I think about how his life would be without it and I can't even imagine!!  My son used to go through "outbursts" like you mentioned.  He is on Adderall XR, Lexapro, Clonidine, and Seroquil.  Sounds like a lot, and seems like it too.  His quality of life, and our quality of life is much better. 

Wonderwoman.  I don't know how single moms do it, let alone single moms of ADHDers, or single moms of more than one child.  I take night college classes and I depend on my husband to take up the slack.  Last night, he had to get Jake from town where he was babysitting, then get the boys supper and make sure Jake took his antibiotic, and Chase took his nighttime meds, all while I was an hour away at my class.  Is there another player whose mom can take your son with hers to the game?  That is the method that I use when I have 2 games to go to in two different directions....or call the coach if all else fails.  Heck, one time (when I was in labor to have Chase) I called the coach of the opposing team to take Chelsea to her game ...this is a small town, and she was a friend and lives close by.....Chelsea's team had just enough players and they would have had to forfeit the game if she didn't get there for the game.

Chase takes 4 meds, too.  The ritilan LA, the guanfacine, and periactin,and the ped added prilosec for the time being to reverse some bad acid reflux he was having.  I hope to be able to stop that one after the next dr. appt. because I believe the cause of the acid was the fish oil that I no longer give him.  The combo is great for him and he is happy, successful and thriving both at school, and at home.

I hope that the concerta/tenex combo is good for your daughter as well, and don't worry that you had to be the one to suggest it.  I had to do the same in Chase's case.  After I brought it up to her, she seemed quite familiar with it, and I wondered why I had to bring it up, but then figured, who cares as long as he gets what he needs?

 

chasesmom7939168.2127777778I have had some of those days myself...when we can't take it we look at our little child and know that all our sacrifice,strife, and worry will pay off one day! Keep your head up You are definitely not alone Thanks a lot. It is good to get reassurance. My daughter seemed to be better today. I just pray that the new meds will be what she needs. I was kind of surprised at the psychiatrist reaction when I mentioned the Concerta/ Tenex combo. I told her that from reading on the board that it seemed a lot of people had success with that combo and that maybe the Focalin/Adderal route was not the right meds for her. She was like "oh yeah...I am surprised that we haven't tried that yet. That is one of my favorite combos. Wonder why I haven't thought of it yet?" I said well I don't know you have the degree in psychiatry."  Hmmmm Anyway, I hope it works, just wish I didn't have to wait until Thursday to start Some days I just feel like I can't do it anymore...ya know? Last night was so difficult and my daughter was mean and spiteful. It really hurts cause you know how much you sacrifice and how much you want her to be okay. I know she really doesn't mean the things she says at times, but it sure doesn't make the pain of it go away. I just feel hopeless right now. So depressed. I seriously thought I was going to breakdown, but I know I can't. I am all my children really have. I just want to lay in my bed and cry but life won't allow it.  This weekend was the first time my daughter became physical with me. She hit me and said she hated me. It hurt my heart so bad . She woke up four times last night and was raring to go at 4:50 am this morning. I am so exhausted. I called her Psychiatrist and told her about the message board. I told her I didn't think her medication was right for hewr and I asked her about Tenex. My daughter is extremly irratable, moody, and downright mean at times. We are going to start Concerta and Tenex on Thurs. The only problem is now her testing will have to be delayed until her meds are stable. The psychiatrist also put her on a low dose of Lexapro for anxitey. That is what I am currently on. That will be three meds.  I am nervous about it, but desperate to find what works for my baby girl. I feel like I am going crazy . I break out and cry for no reason at all. I locked myself in the bathroom at work this morning and I kept looking at myself in the mirror telling my self to suck it up. My daughter often says she wants to go live with her dad. I think she knows it hurts me. I try not to react. As I have said before her father thinks I am only medicating because I don't know how to disipline her. Meanwhile, yet again he cancelled on his weekend to get her. I did not get a break. Although when he has her I worry to death because he doesn't know her needs, not really. And his fiance is a convicted felon. Just the example I need for my ADHD daughter. Meanwhile, tonight I have a make-up test for my business law class that I haven't studied for, and my son has a baseball game that he will probably have to miss because I can't find anyone to take him while I am at class. AGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! Does it ever get better? I feel so alone.

Also lending my support for you during your time of struggle. Be sure to work the tenex into the mix very slowly so that you can keep any posible side effects minimal or non-existant.

As chasesmom said don't worry about needing to bring up the combo to the doc. You are showing that you can be an educated partner in your daughter's healthcare.

Thanks guys! Your support through this means a lot. I am hoping things will work out. I think after the dance recital we won't do dance anymore. It's an added stress and my daughter, although she seems to enjoy it somewhat, is just not ready for it. She's not focused during class and has a hard time with fidgiting. I am just exhausted. I keep getting hot flashes, eye twitching, head itching, hair falling out. I think I'm stressed!  Maybe my doc will have a plan for me to. Thanks again.

I have an appointment next week for myself. I don't think my anxiety med is helping a s much