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My stepson is out of control, and we feel we can do nothing.  He is 17, just about to flunk out his senior year, he has been on adhd meds. for at least 6 years, but now he only abuses them and sells them.  He has gotten into drugs, and alcohol, mostly pot.  He has come to live with us , because he has run his mother into the ground, and they still make excuses for him.  Now he has started on me.  He has stolen my car, stolen money out of my bag, Left porn on my computer for me to walk into, trashes the house, goes to school stoned, and all his father can say is what do you want me to do?  He's under age, and we can't kick him out.  I feel like a bomb is about to go off.  you know the sad thing.  We each have a child like this.  And we each have one that is a high achiever.  My son is 24, and I guess I haven't learned anything, because this one is just like him.
How do you get help for someone who doesn't want it, and do we have to be prsioners in our own home?
I don't have much to say to him.  My way of handling the negitive feelings in myself is to distance myself.  The only time I have blown up at him is when he took my car, and then kept my keys, so I ended up being late for work, and when I came home Sunday from church and found the porn on my computer.  Now my husband wants to move out, and get an apartment, because I am making things difficult.
But as for Cody, yes a storm is brewing inside him, and I want him to get help.  There is actually a demon that he  has allowed to come into him, because of these drugs, and our house has been violated.

Yeah i know i work with some kids like that . keep coming back to this page . im going to look into somethings about some similar situations. what state are you in.

For now make home a place to BE. back off just a little so you can wiegh some options before anyone explodes.

Do you feel there is a crisis brewing?

would you like to talk about it a little more .

 

When our daughter got "out of control" she was admitted to a place called Centre Point in St. Charles MO.  You need to find a facility for him to be admitted to.  We threatened her with "if she didn't go calmly with us, we will call the police and they will escort you there." If you don't nip it in the bud he will most likely end up in jail.  My friend had a son did all kinds of horrible things the his step mom.  But he needed severe help.  He even went to far "playing russian roulet" with his younger brother that was a "good" kid and killed him.  Since his mom didn't get him the mental help he needed is permanently in jail for selling drugs, stealing from family, destruction, stealing cars, drugs and killing his brother.    It is like an alcoholic though.  If he does not admit he has a problem he won't cooperate.  But you have to start somewhere.      Not taking the meds is making him worse probably.