My ds recently has been telling me that he wants a new brain...he is 6 years old..we are on vacation and he just told me that he wants to "be killed" because no one loves him and that he has a bad brain...Are these real suicidal thoughts???? During the day today he has been just great.....I am so frightened for him....
You need to talk to the doctor about this.
For my daughter, there was a time when she was depressed and anxious and that was when she "wanted to die". It was a rough time and we were going through the diagnostic process and she was seeing a psychologist for play therapy. At home we worked at giving her more appropriate words to express her feelings. After diagnosis and effective treatment (meds, behavior plan, IEP) she came out of the depression and does really well most of the time now.
Hi imbc,
These types of statements are very scary and I would report them, however, the most scary statements are ones that are very specific on death. By all means, reassure you child that he has a unique brain with many stengths and gifts and we all have weaknesses and we don't throw out our brains because of our weaknesses. I am not a professional, but as a mother of a child with anxiety who has a history of these type statements, no....... I would not consider this statement a direct suicide threat. IMO....it is a 6 yr olds way of saying, "I hate having ADHD and it sucks that I have it and I want it to go away."
My son would make these type of non-specific threats or statements and I would always report them, but the psychologist told me that this is common amongst very anxious and frustrated younger kids.
My son's statements like this peaked in the ages 8 - 9 and I know this sounds cruel on my part, but I learned to desensitize myself to some of them because they became a manipulation technique. Definately discuss it with the professional though. Ask them about their clinical experience on what type of statements tended to be manipulative.....and which ones were the more serious ones where harm was much more of a risk. Believe it or not, psychologists have kind of a "ranking" system for suicide statements I think.
Okiemom
okiemom39175.4202546296Thanks for your information!!
Today is been a complete turn around, he did however call himself a "loser" and I just ignored it. We have a dr. appointment next week and I am going to report this. I also believe there is a little manipulation going on....I am going to have to desensitize myself.
Everyones' input here really helps me alot...I am so glad I found this website!!!!
Oh poor guy. I think about this with my son, and feel bad when things are tough for him.
Is there something that he likes to do that he excels at? I am thinking that maybe if he can do some things that will be positive experiences for him, it may help him feel better.
I know that you can't "give" someone self esteem, but as parents we can try to steer them to activities that will give them success, which will give them a boost in self esteem - esp if they are struggling with school/behaviors/friends etc.
nope
i think any
death words and sentences in cominations with meds
should be discussed with a professional everytime
no buts about it . do not pass go go directly to dr rx
cobra in the closet story
sometimes people git bit or even worse get labled something because of an incedent caused by meds.