I really need help. i have three little boys two of witch have ADHD one with ODD too. we have lost all control of all three boys. the teachers in school are affarid of my oldest and he has hurt one teacher. the other two have stabed kids in school with pencils. people are terrified of my kids and i can't blame them. they don't listen i have done time outs spankings removing things from there rooms taking things and friends away and grounding nothing is working. my oldest takes meds but that isn't even helping any, if anything hes get worse. my husband and i can't keep leaving work to get the boys from school everyday if they do something wrong we will loss our jobs. we have tryed everything IS THERE ANYONE OUT THAT CAN HELP ME!!!!!!!
schlogl39176.6800578704did you request for an evaluation to get an individualized education plan (IEP) for your sons at school? that would be the first step.
from the date your request is received the school has to respond within 45 days or something.
good luck to you.
yes i have all three have had (IEP)'s done. my middle son does very well in school and has lots of friends but in the last few weeks he has gono down hill fast but i think thats because he feels that hes not getting the attion he needs because my husband and i are trying to control the other two. my oldest is very arugmentive and controling and everthing must be done a certin way or he blows up. he doesn't have many friends and the ones he does have are just like him and feed off of one other. But he is by far the worse in the group. he struggles with english and spelling and exciles in math. we find that during english is when he expolds. my youngest is following in his big bothers footsteps in every way. its is very hard for me to watch two of my boys get upset because no one invites them over for sleep overs or birthday parties and or no one comes to there sleep overs and birthday parties. and they see my middle son go to his friends houses for sleep overs and parties and ves versa. i have to pick and choose when my middle son can go to friends and play just so no one gets up set but thats not far to him and i really don't like doing that. it really hurts me to see my boys get upset because they don't have friends and i remmber how that felt when i was a kid growing with ADHD it really breaks my heart to see three very active vibernt little boys with such hate and anger.
schlogl39176.7175
my oldest is 10 and he has been on all the meds that are out there for ADHD. different combintons and treatments. tommrow we are going to another therapist in hopes that he can do somthing. i was one of the most severe ADHD kids out there when i was a kid and have learned to control my thoughts and actions but i think my 10 year old has me beat, right along with his 6 year old brother. alls i can say is that the rumor in my town is that i have that worst kids in the school. everyone in the school now who i am and so does evryone in the docters office and in the store. poeple run when they see me coming with my boys.
schlogl39176.7845138889i have tryed somthing simaler to that with stickers and money it only worked for about a week. im really despresst and don't know what to do. i have tryed three specailists and they all do the same thing they just want to dope my boys up. i have no prombles with them taking meds but there has to be a limit when my oldest is taking three differnt meds and then he can't sleep becuase it and has to take something so he can sleep thats a little much. im very tired pshycaily and mentally and im affarid that one or all my boys may hurt someone badly
Welcome
Quick response...
What kind of doc is managing the meds for the oldest? In general, child psychiatrists are better at med managment than pediatricians. If you are not seeing proper results, it is time to re-evaluate meds. Things can change for a person, causing the med needs to change as well. Sub-optimal medication can be worse than no medication. Consideration for the co-morbids like ODD needs to be part of the treatment program. Look at the marble thread (top of the parent's board) for a positive reinforcment behavior plan.
My son is also a severe case of ADHD with Anxiety and ICD. It took a long time to find a combination of meds for him. I call it his "cocktail." It includes Adderall XR, Clonidine, Lexapro, short acting Adderall (when needed) and Seroquil. We went through many doctors until we found one who was willing to change things and monitor. It was done outpatient, though they were getting close to doing it inpatient! Keep looking until you find a Child Psychiatrist that is helpful and flexible. Are the boys getting counseling? That has also helped my son! Who diagnosed him?Do you live near a major hospital specializing in children? The reason I ask is because I was directed to Children's Medical when my son was having some major issues like throwing things and hurting others at his school.
Children's Medical had/has a special program that worked with children that had anger, OCD, ad/hd, bi-polar, etc... It sounded like an exceptional program to help children with special issues. We didnt' need to use the program as our meds and therapy seemed to be our answer. I would of considered it though if his problems had not ceased. The program really seemed like it was organized and run very well and could be very helpful for issues such as you mentioned.
Dear Sch,
..My heart goes out to you and your family....We too have been there except I have 1 girl who could "accidently" demolish a room...from excitement in a flat few minutes from being hyper...
I was wondering though have you ever..had your sons tested for food allergies..?
If so what was the out come? If not what do your boys typically eat on a daily basis?
Much Love2U
Lore