Please Help -- At My Wits End | ADHD Information

i wish i was posting on the end of a thread rather being the first because i cant meds advice or therapy advice. my brothers would beat the crap out of eachother . my only defence was to whack from behind later when there was only me and my intent to whack.

man i could just invent a game  whack-A-bro   lmao

 

notice something there          read it agian

 

 

                                          

           whak A bro

 

 

 

 

 

 

no parents ,  you may need to get some small bit of training on how to interview your kids and help them connect thier feelings. this gives them more attention than usual but definately helps kids later when youre not around. if coventional therapy is to far apartand the behaviors are often , the only people available is the parents.  not saying youre doing anything wrong    not at all . seeking help is major step up.

getting some tips from the therapist on connecting feelings .

ask the therapist if  "iescape" from "cbt" method would work.

its an interview where a child speaks about feelings of a behavior while tallking the adult connects those feelings with the incedent and then suggests the child thinks of alternative behaviors to act differently the next time they feel that way.

dont use my example its not complete and is frustrating and sometimes takes months to see improvement. its just an outline  a therapist may suggest something  completely different alltogether .

 i definately think youre on the right track with therapy . they can help with this persona issue  , girls do it alot    . reinventing themselves by tearing down relationships around them and emerging as a different persona with an exchange of friends . you guess it     men do this later in life        mid life crisis .

a person wants to change  but cant escape people around them trying to keep them the same.  so they disengage and reinvent themselves , as females get better at this they dont need to destroy their relationships as much at least not thier core families , the late comers - males  dont figure this out until their third or fourth marriage .     

nomal adolesent behavior for a girl . but do not i repeat do not take what i say as advice.  cause i would still seek a professional opinion considering how sensitve youre boy may be.

Sammo39179.5125462963My eight year old daughter also struggles severely with her ADHD brother.  I have often thought she may have anxiety or something going on.  However, she does great in school....the teachers and kids love her, she is involved in many afterschool activities, playdates etc.  She gives us such a hard time with whining, crying, tantrumming, screaming.  She is mean to her brother non stop.  She screams at him, hits him, kicks him etc.  The problem is she denies it and if they are in the play room we don't always see what happens.  They both have a tendancy to LIE to get out of trouble.  I have closed the play room before and that worked briefly.  Of course if I close the playroom, that means they are on my heels nonstop and I can so much as make dinner.I have not posted in awhile...things with my 8 year old son with ADHD are, knock on wood, fairly good. But, my 11 year old daughter, R, is the problem. For so long, her brother was agressive to her and required so much attention that she began to intensly dislike him..beyond normal sibling rivalry. Well, now he has been pretty regulated for a year or so, but she cannot give him a chance and is incredibly mean to him, and lately, the rest of our family. She now swears at us and does some of his old behaviors. She tells us she hates us and wishes she had another family. She is constantly in a bad mood and impossible to deal with. And,no, she does not have add or a mood disorder...to the rest of the world she is "perfect" good grades, friends, cute...the whole package. I know that she is incredibly angry and have made an appt with a therapist but I am sad and scared. She hates being home and I worry that in the next few years she will turn to other things for the attention she feels like she is not getting..but, we spend time with her and really are at a loss of what to do. Right now she is in her room on lockdown (no computer, phone or playdates) because she swore at her father. I amjust so sad..I know she has a right to be angry, but god, we are doing the best we can. Does anyone have any advice or any experience with this extreme sibling stuff? Thank you.