I would go for the genetic testing. I have an idea what the doctor is looking for . I won't comment on it because I am not a doctor. But for your own peace of mind and for the child's future and his children's future, it may not be a bad idea.
No, it won't change who the child is, but it may give you some insight into why he is.
I would at least get a second opinion.....oppositional defiant disorder is usually characterized by very defiant behaviors....I would get a second opinion before doing anything. And personally, I would RUN from someone who diagnosed my son with ODD if I didn't agree. That's a label that you don't want. It will not help your child in any way. Certainly don't share that info with the school.here it is: I get a letter about my son that was dictated after his visit in February. Most of you remember that he changed his meds from Foculin to Concerta and now wont go above 36mg and son is in trouble for talking.
In this letter, he wrote that he thinks my son has "atypical ears", that they look crumpled and that his nails look short and his palate is high and he thinks there might be a Genetic problem. I was SHOCKED to say the least. He wants to do testing. Hubby says no, that this is ridiculous, even if there was a genetic problem, there is nothing that can be done and what is the point? He also doesnt see anything wrong with his ears. Frankly, I dont either.
On top of that, he was diagnosed as oppositional defiant. What is that? He is a sweet boy who follows directions as well as any other child his age. He is not argumentative or mean but very sweet, loves animals, etc. Now, I think the dr may be going too far. Hubby wants me to find another group. Any thoughts?
Have you signed authorization for anyone to receive this doctor's medical records? If so, I would rescind it. If your child actually had ODD, you would know it. This is NOT something that you need a doctor to tell you. It's something you need a doctor to confirm. I firmly believe that if the parent does not think the child has ODD, then the child does not have it. Perhaps he had a defiant moment with the doctor. Who cares. Perhaps he is not a good fit with the doctor and does not want to cooperate. Who cares. Only you know best. If the child does not have ODD, this label stinks and sticks. It changes the way the school views the child.You have every right to discuss the report with the dr. Maybe call the secretary and say that you have some questions about the report, and you'd like the dr. to call you? Try to stay calm and neutral. Certainly the dr. will respond better if you aren't confrontational.
When I got my child's report from the neuropsychologist, I asked for clarification on a batch of things and asked the dr.
Definitely question the findings. We had a similar incident with Dore program. The supervising Dr wrote a report and sent it to us after the inintial assessment and interview. It was so different to the things we had said - quite the opposite!
When I rang to discuss this, it was the previous child's report. The name not the facts had been altered.
It would be interesting the question these findings directly with the doctor. If he stands by his diagnosis, then seek a second opinion.
Good luck!!
I was wondering what would happen if I asked the dr to remove that diagnoses from my sons chart. Is that something he would do or would he think I was crazy? Believe me I have NO desire to share that diagnosis with my sons teacher.WHO worte this letter, a Pediatrician, Psychiatrist, Psychologist,?
A Dx of ODD would be for REALLY, severely, defiant behavior. Um, yeah, you would kind of know if he were that bad! Any chance the Doctor got the chart mixed up w/ someone else's?
I do believe I know what they are thinking when talking about physical characteristics & genetic testing. If that were the case, I would want to have it done. There would be nothing you could do to change it as your husband said, BUT plenty you could do to further help your son. BUT FIRST, I would just make sure they were writing about the correct child if you don't see any of what they wrote as being true.
Sorry, I'm not familiar with your previous posts, so I don't have much background info.
Wishing you all the best.
We have an appointment on May 9th. I will ask the dr at that time about the diagnosis and tell him that (1) I am concerned that in all the years we have been going there, noone ever mentioned that diagnosis before, (2) I do not believe my son had odd (3) is he sure he dictated on the right childHere is the diagnostic criteria for ODD: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oppositional_defiant_disorder. Mom doesn't get to redefine ODD, and your doctor needs to follow the DSM criteria also. It is an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. The DSM criteria also have to be met.
Mom seems to be at ground zero in terms of understanding ADHD. Being unable to do anything without constant supervision is not willful defiance. It is an attention issue caused by a neurologicial condition. I suggest that you observe him really carefully. Is he doing it for 10 or 20 seconds and then getting distracted?
Her ideas to improve your morning are ......never going to work. You can fix the morning problem with the marble system. My son picked his rewards. I wrote a list of things that I wanted him to do in the morning. If he got out of bed in 10 min he earned a certain number of marbles, if he brushed his teeth in 5 min he got a certain number of marbles. It worked. IMHO, what your mother proposes is to create a breeding ground for the ODD diagnosis. What better way to move him into oppositional behavior than to "light a fire under him." You need to motivate him in a constructive way and be creative and flexible.
Waking up in a bad mood issue is not ODD. Lots of these kids have a hard time sleeping, for one thing. Is he getting 10 hrs of sleep? I would make sure he is, and give him 1000 mg of high-EPA Omega-3 daily.
ok, here is another take. I was complaining this am to my mother about the fact that my DS who will be 7 in August cannot do ANYTHING without constant supervision. He will not dress himself in the morning, brush his teeth etc... He is almost as bad as my 3 year old. He wakes up in a bad mood no matter what and you cannot make anything right for him. My mother stated that this is the reason he has the diagnosis of ODD. Is that what ODD is? His inability to get himself together in the am?
She suggested I set a timer for him to dress himself in his room and if he doesnt do it, bring him downstairs to eat and reset the timer, do not keep reminding him. If he still doesnt do it, put him in the car and let him dress on the way to school. If he is not done by then, put him out. I told her that I would NEVER put him out of the car 1/2 dressed, the humiliatin factor alone would get me. She said that it is the only way to light a fire under him. Any thoughts or ideas?
You might want to print this out and bring it along:
Excellent idea, think I will do that, thank you