I used to sit right beside my DD (7 - 1st grade) with ADHHHD while she did her homework; at the ready to answer questions hoping to avoid her making mistakes which would then cause a ruckus. Most of the time, there was still a great show of frustration and often tears and yelling (her at me). I then read something that recommended not doing that with ADHDers while they work because it is too distracting. Not to mention her younger sister - 3 yrs old, causing constant interruptions. I thought I would try and am PLEASED to say it works!
AT homework time, she tells me what she thinks the instructions mean, and what she is going to do. When I approve, I send her to her room, she closes the door and doesn't come down until finished. Hoemowkr is now completed much more quickly AND accurately. If there is a mistake, I explain and circle the mistakes. Off she goes back up to her room, then we are done. The only exceptions are practice speilling tests and having her recount detials of a story she has read.
We also rewarded (money) for chaos-free homework time, but have phased that out because it is a habit for her now. We are now working on no hitting - we are less successful with this!
With my daughter... we get a weekly list of things she needs to do.. (2nd grade). Each day she has spelling, math, has to read to me for 15 minutes or longer, a country fact she must find for the country of the week and she has a sharing project every Weds. As well as speech homework twice a week.
Every Monday I set out a chart and we check the things off as they are done. We number the things any way she wants... math 1, spelling 2... then we roll a dice to she what she does first. After 15 minutes or so I check on her to see how it is going. If she is starting to melt... time to roll the dice again. Or when the subject is done... we roll the dice again.
Rolling the dice is a great way to add as well... I found a 6 sided, 8 sided, 10 sided, 12 sided, 20 and 24 sided dice.... she rolls them and adds up and then I roll and she adds up and who every has the most wins. Or we start with the highest sided die then subtract the next then add the nex and so on.
At first with the homework I sent her to her room to do it...with blinds pulled and no noise... now... its where ever she chooses as long as she is doing her homework... that made a huge difference
I am glad that this method works for you....premeds, if I sent Chase to his room to do homework...I would still be waiting for it a year later! I had to sit with him to avoid him pulling his hair out with frustration....head him off at the pass so to speak....
Medication totally cured that and he now does it totally independently unless he has a question.
chasesmom7939184.5592708333Look at ogram's marble system (towards the top of the parent's board) for a positive reinforcment behavior modification plan. We used to use this and reward a marble for each completed assignment each night. Also if homework is done by a certain time there is a bonus. The marbles can be traded in for things they want like extra tv time, or saved for cash.
Since meds, we no longer reward for each complete assignment, we now reward for each A.
for starters, is your son on a med? if so, when is it given, etc.
i know that homework became much easier for my dd once we started with the right med. now, even if the med has worn off and we are attempting the homework late at night she is still doing much better. i truly think that she has a greater self esteem and feels better about herself so it is less of a battle now.
we also started easy child where both of our kids, non adhd also, gets points daily...and they each get points for willingly doing their homework and reading at night. we pay them 10 cents per point and we do take away for arguing with parents and sibling, etc. in the end, it has been a positive thing for our family. check out easychild.com. i print out a weekly calendar every saturday...now, they willingly clean their room every saturday-less work for me to do, the best .00 i've ever spent:)
shelley
How many days does he have to get his homework done? My oldest used to get it all on Monday and it was due on Friday. I would divy it out so he did a little each night to get it all done. Does your son have an iep? You could have them put in it to give him extra time to do his homework. That is an option I am going to probably have done with my 1st grader as he gets older. I also used to use a timer with my oldest. Most of the time I stay with him when he was doing it also. I would encourage him to get it done and help him focus on it. I found some noise in the background would help him for some reason. Like some music or something.