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Does anyone ever wonder what in the world is going on in their little kids
minds? Latelly he has been showing signs of ODD, now that I have
learned more about it - but he was tested for ADHD and ODD was never
mentioned. He always blames us for anything we didnt do - like 'pushing
him down' when we maybe barely touched him or was in his way. He does
in on purpose then gets really mad. He has been so defiant latelly - Im so
tired of it. After a time out yesterday and he finally calmed down and was
ready to talk I sat him on my lap and he was able to talk to me okay - still
had some negativity, but better. He was talking camly then out of no-
where he got angry at his words (which weren't bad) and I noticed him
pound hi fist. I asked him why he was mad and he tells me his voice is
saying mean things and making him mad. But didnt remember what his
voice said when I asked. THIS IS NORMAL? He has said these things before
but I assumed it was becasue his voice would crack and it would upset
him. Maybe thats all it is - but I am not noticing. This morning he talked
about his 'voice' again - he does point to his mouth. I asked him how his
'voice' makes him feel and I DID get an answer - he said it makes him feel
'funny' - not 'angry'. Perhaps Im trying to analyze too much. But I sure
wish I understood him more than I do. I really want to help him. He has
been more difficult lately because my husband has not had a job and has
been home with him all day. So I KNOW he has not had much structure or
organization. This probably is contributing to his behavior? But then
again, his behavior has been excalating for a while - beginning at his day
care.

I have read a lot of information about ADHD and other disorders but it
really helps to get feedback form 'real' sources - parents who have been
there. I'd appreciate any feedback. Thanks!

Chase was much more angry and aggressive on Concerta as well.  We switched him to ritalin LA and added guanfacine and it is soooooo much better!

edited to add:  OOPS!!!!  I forgot to change the login.....I am on my daughter's computer....this is chasesmom....not big sis! 

 

chasesbigsis39189.6796180556He isnt on any meds yet - but I had thought of something yesterday. He
had broken his collar bone and has been on (although not very much) a
pain med that has codeine in it. Im wondering if he is having issues with
that med - cause his behavior really regressed since he began taking it.

It does make him sleepy and he is okay for a while after he wakes up. But
its later, when he perhaps gets a little sleepy again (I dont know). He will
get very angry - is very irritable. And perhaps has hallucinations? Cause
my husband said he was talking and then out of no where began
stomping on his own foot - saying he was 'trying to get it off'.

HOWEVER - when I asked him about this - he told me there was
something on the bottom of his foot and he was trying to get it off of his
foot .

He WAS better last night after a time out (that my husband administered
and i finished out). But that was also after him screaming and breaking
one of my ceramic houses by his aggression. I can tell he felt bad about it
afterwards.

But I cant get my son to stop blaming my husband for everything. Even
when he is in time out - he will not acknoledge his own mis-behavior but
will say things like 'daddy hurt my feelings'... and such. Sometimes I dont
know if my son thinks he does anything wrong.

Is he on meds?  Sometimes the wrong med/dosage can make them more irritable and defiant.

When my son was on too much concerta he was very angry and aggressive.  We have him on a different meds combo now and he is doing much better.

 

I agree. Sometimes it is side effects from the meds that are making things worse. Maybe you could try a different med.

i agree with no tellin nd gwen.  My son adhd also broke his collar bone and was never given codiene.  He, like your son will blame everyone when he gets hurt etc.  its all about drama when he isn't on meds.  Is he on meds?  How is he in school?

I'd just switch to Tylenol. Works just as well as Codeine IMHO.

Hi,

It sounds like it could be the codine, it can make an adult feel really spaced out and weired, now add that to a child who has a hard time dealing with their emotions and feeling any way, probably not the best combo...could you try a different type of pain med?

We took im off the codeiene and it helped a lot. He seems back to his
normal self. I also thought of another possible reason - when his arm
hurt him he was kind of 'couped up' and had to be a lot less energetic
than usual. I usually try to keep him quite active as his helps his moods.
When his arm began healing I let him go outside and do more activities.
He is so much better now. I gotta put that energy to good use for him.

He about drove us crazy last night though because I let him eat a couple
cookies before supper - I know; bad mom, hehe. (but what could I do -
he saw me eat them too). Afterward he was SO wound up and annoying!