Friend Trouble | ADHD Information

My adhd is older and I do have aa boy of 6.  I think as we might think it isn't normal I really think it is.  I remember myself as a child and had very good friends and good relationships but some people like to have their best friend and only that friend.  I had two best friends and they didn't like each other, but I continued to be their friends.  Some how I don't really think it is an adhd issue, but could be possiblyI am trying to work with ds on one "issue" at a time. This seems to work
well with him. He is open to change. I don't want to throw too many things
at him at once because then he is going to feel like something is really
wrong with him. I just want to help him while he is still young so that as the
years go on, he won't be labeled by other kids. Right now they like him,
except for that one kid that has his own issues.

For some reason, every new friend that I find or he knows is either ADHD or
is undiagnosed ADHD. Does anyone find this to be true with their kids
friends?I don't know. I have faith in my ds. I just have to keep his self esteem up
and his confidence. He is a sweet boy and will be fine I know. He knows
how to be a good friend. He truly cares about others feelings and is
sensitive to others. His "friend" has some issues of his own I guess.Yes, standing by and watching all that is soooo hard. My feeling is that the boys will work it out amongst themselves. If you want, you could do some role-playing with your son to address some of the social issues.my dd has the same problem.  why are friends so hard???My 6 1/2 ds is a very sweet boy and smart. He has ADHD/anxiety and
takes Daytrana. He is in a very small school. In his Kindergarten class,
there are 7 boys and 6 girls. Out of the 7 boys, 3 have ADHD (2 on
meds/1 not). DS has been struggling with his "best friend" that he had
since last year. This friend "Joey" is the medicated ADHD and has
dsylexia. "Joey" was eager to have playdates with ds for the first few
months of the school year. (they played last year and over the summer a
little as well) Since then, he has told ds to leave him alone and go away
during the school day. I have worked with ds to just leave "Joey" alone
during school and play with someone else. This wasn't easy, buy ds has.
He has not bothered him at all. Recently "Joey" has asked ds over for a
playdate. Ds went to his house and they had a great time. This was last
week. Yesterday afterschool, ds asked "Joey" why he doesn't want to be
his friend anymore (he continues to not want to play with ds during the
school day). "Joey" started arguing with him telling him that he is mean
and he doesn't like him. Joey's mom and I are friends and witnessed this
whole event. The teacher told me that ds is not mean at all and that they
just don't interact at school. Joey is the type of kid that is a leader and
also tends to focus on one or two friends at a time.

I don't know what to tell ds. He plays fine with a few other boys at school
and he has friends outside of school that he gets along well with. Ds can
be annoying sometimes and be persistant with questions to us and his
friends at school. He sees a therapist for his anxiety. We lowered his
dosage to help his anxiety. Should I seek social skills training? I am
afraid that not all the boys will continue next year at the school except
"joey" and the other boys Joey plays with. I don't want ds to be alienated
next year.

Am I overreacting? Any advice? DS is a great kid. I want to help him, but
I know that he has to work some of this out himself.



It sounds like the kid has some issues himself with his adhd.  Does your son understand that he has adhd or something going on to make him the way he is?  If so, you can maybe explain to him  that this other boy has the same thing or something similar and is having some personal issues that are affecting how he is around him.   Eventually kids work out like you said these friendship issues it is just hard when they are still trying to understand it.