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I am in N.C. and I didn't think they even allowed paddling in school anymore, is he in a private christian school or something? If he's been diagnosed, you need to get some form of IEP going and the school and you get on the same page about getting him what he needs. I'm sorry but this school sounds like the backwoods of N.C. or something.

Do a search for Homeschool Legal Defense. They should have all the legalities, requirements etc. for your state on their site. HTH.

If you still need more information about homeschooling, I am a homeschooling mother of four boys ages 6-15. I would be more than willing to answer any questions that you have. E-mail be directly at latshaw6@yahoo.com.

Michelle

Yeah and they only 2 times he has been into the office is once I requested it because I felt his teacher wasn't working with me and the other is he chocked this girl on the play ground (they were playing football and he was trying to tackle her) so I knew he hurt her so I let them paddle him (I requested it to show I wouldn't put up with him hitting anyone much less a girl)

So you tell me how thats causing trouble? Yes he does have problems turning in work, but heck what kids doesn't? I know I can do the homeschooling. I have helped neighbors kid with his. I just hate him missing out with the "friends" things but the way it looks I'd rather do it than have him to feel as if its pick on Coty day!?!?

Here's an example of something that happened this week that I don't understand...

Coty and his class was in the lunch room= this girl names Jessica stuck her fork in his mashed potatoes and started stirring them and then took a bite=Coty gets mad and starts hitting the table and calling her names===

They make Coty sign the book for calling her names, and all they done to her was "Talk to her over it"

That's not fair in no way! I swear I wanna crawl in a hole. I can't win for loosing...!!

[QUOTE=NoTellin]He is on an interdistrict transfer, and they are not renewing the transfer for next year?[/QUOTE]

out of county ... Whats messed up is I substitute at this school.. And I know first hand there are kids WORSE than Coty=I've had them...!!

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I also have to ask do they have a special education program that you can investigate?

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They say Coty doesn't need special educations because he is so intelligent..

Wait...the school paddled your son?!?! What exactly do you mean? Surely not hit with a paddle? How is he supposed to learn restraint and self-control if the school is hitting him with a paddle?! That just teaches him to crack people who aren't behaving as he wants them to. I don't get it. You may choose to paddle him at home, and every parent makes the decision between spanking or not, but the school setting, where respect for others should be taught, is NOT the place for corporal punishment. Maybe he's better off at a different school.You need to educate yourself on your son's rights. Go to
wrightslaw.com to find out how to get your son the services he is entitled to. He is entitled to a FAPE (free appropriate public education) even if he does have a behavior problem. Don't let them get away with this. Get yourself an advocate.He is on an interdistrict transfer, and they are not renewing the transfer for next year?

Start by calling your state's DPI, that's Department of Public Instruction. The phone prompts should at some point let you either speak to a live person or leave a message for one. Also, do a search online for homeschooling support groups in your area, they are priceless sources of information. Ask around at church, as lots of people who homeschool choose to for religious reasons. Most importantly, use this time before the next school year to educate yourself about what your child's RIGHTS are and how best to go about securing them. Are you school choicing? Is there someone in your current school district who would advocate for your child? How about the school board? Can you approach them about this issue?

Homeschooling can be a great option, but you have to be sure that both you and your child have the temperament for it.

I didnt think it was legal for the schools to spank kids anymore. IF so thats odd because i suggested slight massage to help my son calm down and they told me they couldnt do that even on his arms, and spanking is way diffrent then massage.

[QUOTE=BPQW]Wait...the school paddled your son?!?! What exactly do you mean? Surely not hit with a paddle? How is he supposed to learn restraint and self-control if the school is hitting him with a paddle?! That just teaches him to crack people who aren't behaving as he wants them to. I don't get it. You may choose to paddle him at home, and every parent makes the decision between spanking or not, but the school setting, where respect for others should be taught, is NOT the place for corporal punishment. Maybe he's better off at a different school.[/QUOTE]

Yup paddle him..2 licks with a paddle...

checking into this site...wrightslaw.com like you said..

I have a couple of groups I'm going to check out within the next few weeks to see what all they can tell me...

I seen where that sit ewa stalking about 504 because I requested it after no one telling me about it..

They read the questions to him because this makes him slow down but I don't get when he "bubbles" his sheet he still hurries and that makes him miss it if it isn't bubbled right. Wouldn't they have to look over things like this too...

I feel as if I'm pulled and pushed 50 different ways.. My concern is my son and my daughters. Just wanting to do right by them you know..!

Joining late here, but I am homeschooling my 8-year old DS, ADHD with a big H!

Believe it or not, we love it! I thought it would be a nightmare, but it is so much less stressful than having him in public school.

Email if you want more info ... brwntrsk@sover.net
I'll chime in here and say it doesn't have to be lonely AT ALL!!

There are lots of people homeschooling these days. We live in a very rural area, yet DS has two different weekly groups with around 30 kids in each, does Tae Kwon Do in a large class, takes music and PE at the public school, etc.

Frankly, my social life has never been better!

And as far as "teaching everything" -- I don't. What I do is find the resources to help him learn, and create the structure for him to learn. He takes it from there. And he really does, now that learning can be done while running in circles if he needs to!

And really, we can do in 2 hours at home more than he did in a whole school day at public school.

Yes, I know I sound like a new religious convert,

but this has really been a great year for us, doing homeschooling. We will definitely keep it up as long as it continues to work.
[QUOTE=KarenR]Don't go the home schooling route, your son will be VERY lonely and sad. My son was on that for 2 months and was sooo lonely. It is also very hard to teach everything. [/QUOTE]

If you don't do enough for and with your child, yes, he will be lonely and sad. It all depends on the parents and the support groups that you join. You need to put in the time and effort to to make sure that they get all the socialization they need. It is not easy, it takes a lot of work, but they are soooo worth it!

Again, it does take a lot of effort and hard work to teach everything, but there are so many different curriculums out there to choose from and to help you get through, even the high school years.

Only you can decide what is the best decision for you and your family.

Wishing you the best,
Michelle

Google educational attorneys in NC and call one of them. They tryed to do this to my son in NJ. I wound up spending about 00 on an attorney for letters and meetings but my son is in school and doing better. Don't go the home schooling route, your son will be VERY lonely and sad. My son was on that for 2 months and was sooo lonely. It is also very hard to teach everything. [QUOTE=knccarswell]

Okay can we kind of disect this incident? I hope you don't mind but I'm gobsmacked here.

We have a child, struggling with impulsivity, playing a game that ramps up his adrenaline and is played by "tackling" [body hitting] other people. Did it occur to the school that non-contact sports might be a better idea?

Then, when that child gets frustrated/angry/adrenaline rushed and chokes another kid meaning "I can hit you because I'm stronger" is then hit for hitting someone? Doesn't that make the kid think, "Okay when I'm EVEN BIGGER I can hit people too?

Wouldn't it make more sense to use physical restraint on the acting out child until he regains control?

How much sense does any of this make?

A child needs models. Kids model what they see and experience MORE than they listen to words.

Have you asked Coty what he wants to do? Is he unhappy at school?

Here's an example of something that happened this week that I don't understand...

It sounds as if Coty needs to learn other ways of dealing with others who violate his space--because that's what both these incidents seem to be about.

And yes, the other child should have been asked by an adult, "How would you like it if someone did that to YOU?"

They make Coty sign the book for calling her names, and all they done to her was "Talk to her over it"

It sounds like both of you are struggling. Do you have a child psychologist or counselling team in the area?

That's not fair in no way! I swear I wanna crawl in a hole. I can't win for loosing...!!

It sounds as if you need some support for the two of you to come up with solutions.

Let us know how you manage!

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Hi all! My son Coty has ADHD/ODD been diagnosed for about 5 years now.

We are currently out of county district. I got a phone call today saying he isn't allowed back next yr but my 2girls are. This isn't going to happen. So I have been looking into homeschooling them. He has only been to the office twice this year but they said its because of his behavioral problems and academics(not wanting to do his work)

I live in NC and I don't have a clue about homeschooling them. Any information on this would be great. I don't even know on who to contact or how to get information on getting this started!

Thanks guys!

KIM

knccarswell39203.8122453704

How can they kick him just after two office referals? Don't they have special programs for children that may need some behavioral improvement plans in place in this district? I am in a larger district and we have behavioral specialist.

I also have to ask do they have a special education program that you can investigate?