angry kids what to do | ADHD Information

I have five children, two of which have been diagnosed with ADD. And my oldest is the one that I am most worried about. He is the one who is angry and struggling the most in school. I have been reading a book on ADD and am just curious if anyone else has had to deal with these same types of problems. For me and my son the biggest struggle is homework, and sibling rivalry. Our day starts @ 7:00 a.m. and his conflict starts at that time. He picks fights with his younger brothers all morning. Then he gets home and he has a snack after his snack he has to start his homework. Then our fight starts, what should take him at the most an hour to get done usually takes an average of two hours to get done. And we fight the whole time, things that he used enjoy (math) now he acts like he don't know what to do. I have gotten to the point anymore that I break down in tears at least once a week from mental exaustion. I just want some feed back from other parents that may have some suggestions on what to do to help himself and our family.

Welcome Me and te Kids,

Does your son have an IEP in school and is he on meds? This info would help taylor the answers to your situation.

We were going through this last year (4th grade) with the youngest. As her frustration grew with school failure and the struggles with school and homework, her anger and rage grew. This was because she had developed anxiety and depression. We were going through the diagnostic process at the time.

We had the evaluations for an IEP at school and set that up to reduce the written homework load, got her other accommodations like using a voice to text software for her homework (she also has dysgraphia), and a positive reinforcement behavior plan (similar to ogram's marble system-top thread of this board) for completing work at school and at home.

This helped but she still struggled alot just to get Cs and Ds (better than the Ds and Fs at the beginning of this journey). When we received the ADHD diagnosis, we added meds to the treatment plan (at the end of the school year). She now is making As and Bs and is happy and making friends. She no longer has anxiety (though we watch for this) or depression. She has been able to drop many of the accomodations at school, but still retains others in her IEP.

You will find much help and support here.

vickie39205.4132291667I would say, having gone through that myself, is that destroying your relationship over homework is not worth it. For us, after beginning meds, homework became a non-issue. Before meds, she had no idea how to do her homework because it just didn't sink in during the daytime, I guess. And we had daily meltdowns for both of us over homework. If I had to do it all over again, I would just have her skip the homework because she still wasn't learning the material with me trying to teach her. Your son needs a mom, not another teacher at home. I would even go as far as to say get him a tutor and try to stay out of the teaching business! It's not worth it.

I agree. We had major battles over homework for a long, long time. It is not worth it. We got accomodations in her IEP also, but our school will accept a note from home stating your child spent such and such a time on it. You have to be the Mom and get him to do everything, you cant be battling about homework too.

Medication has helped somewhat with us, but even with that, homework is still a bit of an issue. If we start to get into it, I have her do as much as she can alone, then send a note.