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I have a "willfull" 5 year old also. There are many books , good ones, out there on defiant children, willfull children.....etc., etc. Kali turned 5 in February and WOW we turned a corner. We still have our monents, for SURE, but they are getting better and better every month. Hang in there is quite an emotional leap when they turn 5. Try to limit your battles to only the important ones, the little stuff is not worth it. Wait until she can handle it.

You are definitely not alone.  It was like you were describing my 10yr old daughter.  She can fly into what I call rages.  She gets frustrating very easily, and other kids can be so cruel to her.  My daughter has auditory tics, which other children just don't tolerate.

Oh well, surely it can only get better, as they get older

 

Just curious, but what made you think her behavior was a possible result of
ADHD and not just normal childhood behavior that she'll eventually grow out
of? [QUOTE=xhtml232323]Just curious, but what made you think her behavior was a possible result of
ADHD and not just normal childhood behavior that she'll eventually grow out
of?[/QUOTE]

I'm sure some of it is age appropriate. She has been evaluated by 2 neuropsychs and per these professionals, her level of defiance is very high (from what they tell me goes hand in hand w/ ADHD)compared to the many children they see on a daily basis

That is why I thought it may have be due to the ADHD (and the neuropsych agrees)

And to be honest, it is very difficult to describe it through words, it's something that you have to see for yourself (general you)


I have a child with the possible dx of ADHD (the neuropsych is 95% sure she has ADHD but wants to defer the dx until she is in school). Kalynn is 4, will be 5 in August.


I need support from those who have been there. I don't know if it's the age, or what. Everything is a constant struggle with her. I have to fight with her just to even do the simplest task. She is VERY defiant, especially when she doesn't get her way. She resorts to name calling, throwing fits, telling us no, etc. It is SO frustrating. I'm at a loss. My mother doesn't seem to understand, she constantly says she's a perfect angel for her. So, that makes me feel like a crappy parent.

Any thoughts, suggestions?

I dont have any suggestions, but I feel for you.  My dd (8) is the SAME way.  VERY definant, every tiny thing is a battle with her every single day.  She is being worked up currently for ADHD, but they have not started anything as it is possible she may have tics too, so he is evaluating her for that before he starts meds.  My dd too, I am told, is "good" for others generally...others outside the family that is.  She will be good for the most part for the grands, but not always. 

All I can say is I feel for you.  I have a hard time myself keeping my temper in check and I often think if I died today she would only remember me fussing at her   and never the fewer good times we have together.  Anyway, just want to say, you are NOT alone.  Just keep pluggin along best you can.

wow, thank you so much! It is nice to know that I am not alone, because there are days that I sure feel like it.