They said he has aggresion | ADHD Information

Well my son and I went to see the doctor on Wed. Again. we are now seeing him every two weeks.

My son after starting to take the clonindine and after two days he was hitting and fighting with the other kids in preschool. I was not happy about this at all. My son normally is not that type of child at all. I mean a long time ago before the meds he was doing that.

So the doctor took this a different way. Now he prescribed him some meds that I completely forgot. It if for aggresion, mood swings. I felt the whole time I talked to the doctor he just ignored what I said. He told me I dont think your child is not pyschotic. This med will help him control the aggression and slow him down.
I wish they would just try a different med instead of the focalin. I did express that but nothing was done. He said the focalin is working he just needs to calm down.

My son has been on meds since last Sept.

 He is going to go into Kindergarten like this which upsets me the most. But this is a trial and error procedure. As a parent not knowing what I need to do to make him all better. I cant make him all better. it upsets me so much. I dont yell anymore. I just do the marbles. I spend lots of time with him. At this point I just feel like a horrible parent. I mean he asks  me a question 50 times. I mean I know kids to that. But when I answer him he keeps going and going like a bunny on hyper drive. I try to tell him only ask once. And then he will repeat that.

At one point the shrink told us he might have psychological problems. i see no problems with my son. But you never know.

So we are trying this new med. I will get the name later.

 

You aren't a "horrible parent" although right now you sound as if you're struggling a great deal.

As you said, they still have to work out the medications that work for your child, unique little hyperactive bunny that he is. *gentle smile*

It sounds as though you're feeling rather helpless over the medical interventions and that's affecting how well you're feeling as a parent, too.

Have you considered starting a "behaviour journal" so you can tell the docs *exactly* what the child is doing? Nothing fancy--just a Word doc with bullets in point form a few quick notes a day.  That way, you can keep track clearly of how the child is responding and it will help point out to them what is happening consistantly.

How are the marbles working?



Some stimulants can cause increased ADHD symptoms. Especially if they are taking not enough or too much of a dose. Has he always taken Focalin? We couldnt do Focalin, too much increased anxiety and made her tics bad.If the Psych thinks he has psych problem then those need to be addressed before the ADHD.

Two days after taking clonindine he began hitting and fighting, and you are connecting the behavior to this medication. And the doctor is prescribing another medication to control this new behavior. Meaning he does not think there is a connection between the clonindine and the new behavior? So stopping the clonindine is not on the list of options?

Preschoolers with ADHD hit, especially boys. Mine did. They have an impulse problem. Especially if they are hungry or tired. And in this case, maybe the meds are causing the problem, not the ADHD. Would adding another med help? It seems odd to me to give a preschooler with ADHD a mood stabilizer medication. It's extreme. I would do some research and ask some hard questions.

NoTellin39213.6583449074If I were you I would get a second opinion from another doctor.  I had my son in thereapy with a sand play therapist for 10 months at 100 per session one day per week.  He got that he hated her and he did not improve at all.  Should kept me on the phone for well over 2 hours when I told her he was not going to be seeing her anymore.  I found out she knew nothing about ADHD and she also was trying to tell me all of his problems were due to the fact that he was adopted.  I just couldn't buy that since he has lived with us since he was 6 months old.  After a full eval. at UCLA they said he had ADHD and he's doing better not perfect on daytrana patch for ADHD.  I would definately seek a second opiinion most insurance will cover for the testing and then a certain number of follow up visits.  Good luck poor little guy my son had problems in preschool too with hitting not terrible but it was an early sign of his poor impulse control and he was not the only boy at that age with that problem.  [QUOTE=Joejoesmom]If I were you I would get a second opinion from another doctor.  I had my son in thereapy with a sand play therapist for 10 months at 100 per session one day per week.  He got that he hated her and he did not improve at all.  Should kept me on the phone for well over 2 hours when I told her he was not going to be seeing her anymore.  I found out she knew nothing about ADHD and she also was trying to tell me all of his problems were due to the fact that he was adopted.  I just couldn't buy that since he has lived with us since he was 6 months old.  After a full eval. at UCLA they said he had ADHD and he's doing better not perfect on daytrana patch for ADHD.  I would definately seek a second opiinion most insurance will cover for the testing and then a certain number of follow up visits.  Good luck poor little guy my son had problems in preschool too with hitting not terrible but it was an early sign of his poor impulse control and he was not the only boy at that age with that problem. [/QUOTE]

As an adoptee [and having worked with many] I can say "adoption" is not the root of every problem. The struggle with adoption tends to revolve around grieving--not distraction. There's also struggles around society's perception of adoption. Even a child adopted as a baby will likely have these struggles. It's not necessarily a bad thing [makes us kinda sensitive to other people, I like to think]

A person CAN love both families which is why I say I am bi-familied not "adopted". I think my a-mom ROCKS!

I've also met all my family [my b-father was dead but I heard the stories] and BOTH our parents had ADHD as far as I can tell. Both were bright but unable to do anything with it. Of the 3 of us adoptees who were by those two parents--ALL of us had it. Of my 6 half sibs--half of THEM in my opinion [from maman] have it and they were NOT adoptees.

And NOBODY in my a-family had any signs of ADHD although several have dyslexia [and none of my b-family have signs of that at all].

Learning disorders genetic anamolies, I believe.

Just my opinion...
how long has he been on the focalin? my son couldnt tak ethis med because of the aggression it caused, he had never been that way untill about a week or so after starting it.  We are now on tenex thanks to me finding this board and i love everyone who posted about it!