Child says we want to kill her | ADHD Information

Is this anxiety or attention seeking?  This can be her way of crying out for help so to speak, have you talked to her about all of this?  Have you ever tried therapy counseling?  Or am I the one reading this the wrong way?  I would talk to her about this to see where she is coming from.

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go to the doctor immediately do not pass go.

this points to thoughts of death  which can be easily controled by meds or the wrong med bringing these feelings out.

this is a serious matter   , take care of it immediatly at the doctors office dont wait for an appointment   dont stop anything abruptly either

 

opps i re read the post    . 

the reason suicidial people only need to be 0bservered for 72 hrs is because with meds those feelings disappear completely.

 

so still i say this is a meds issue

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It sounds like she has developed anxiety. This can be expressed as anger, fear, frustration or kill talk. My youngest had become so frustrated with school failure and conflict over homework that she wanted to kill herself or us and expressed her disappointment in herself in many ways. When we treated the ADHD and she became successful in school, the anxiety went away and things are great now.

You should look at ogram's marble system for a behavior plan that works with many of these kids and if she is having problems in school, get an IEP in place.

Since you are not in favor of meds, you might want to look at the alternatives board for help in that area. If things get worse, you might reconsider meds to get her ADHD symptoms under control while you persue the alternatives, as they tend to take a while to see if the approach will work (not that meds are always an instant fix).

I agree that anxiety could be making things worse. Does she have anxiety issues? As Vickie says just not having your ADHD under control can cause frustration and increased anxiety. She has good suggestions for helping.  We have to treat my daughter for both. We did make the decision to use medication, but either way it will need to be sorted out. Has she seen her doctor recently. You would want to to know if she were becoming depressed, harder hole to climb out of. Does she go to any kind of counseling to help her learn to manage her anger/frustration which will also increase anxiety symptoms.

Please help.  My 8 year old ADHD daughter has stated in public that everyone hates her and that my wife and I also hate her and want to kill her.  Obviously, that is as far from the truth as possible. 

Any thoughts about a next step (currently not on drugs and we are not in favor of that route) would be appreciated.  Any others have a similar story?