I am new to this board but not new to ADHD. I have 4 living kids and one big kid I happen to be married to. My oldest, 14, is undiagnosed ADHD and my third, 11, is diagnosed ADHD, OCD and APD. My youngest, 9, is an ADHD wannabe. Today I can't do this anymore. I have had it! All I want is to stop all this and go to bed and never get up. No, I am not suicidal, just tired, tired, tired and there is no end in sight.... I am tired of fighting the schools and dealing with my kids and homework and chores and being eaten alive by everyone's expectations. Is there ever an end to this? I fear this fight will only get worse as my children get older and the school's expectations become higher. UGGGGGGGGGGGG!
Thanks for the rant, Jorgy
Jorgy, some days I am right there along with you! Some days you are just SO tired! It is very draining.Thank you everyone! Today IS better... so far. This week has been nuts with all the kids and their different activities. When Jake was in 1st grade we did pay a tutor to teach him how to read as we were having no success but after that money became an issue. I changed jobs, more money and less time at home, last November and DH changed jobs in Feb. Stess has very much an issue but we are better financially. I am thinking about a tutor for the summer. Jake does have an IEP that includes special homework help in school but that is not enough so a homework coach is a good idea. Thanks. I looked into an advocate but it was too expensive and I was having not many problems with the school system until now. I have a good repore with the teachers and have no problem putting on my witches hat and demanding the help Jake needs. The problem is, with the Auditory Processing Disorder, I didn't KNOW what help he needed until now.
Thanks everyone! Jorgy
I don't really have much to add - I just wanted to say that I know how you feel. We all do! It's so hard to not enjoy your life or time with your children cuz it's always a battle. We've all been there and we've all made it thru. The way I look at it is if it's this bad, it can only get better! Just know that you are doing the best you can!!Jorgy, if you hubby is unable to help with the parenting, then you need to get some outside help just to keep your sanity. I suggest getting a homework coach for the next school year. This coach could be a high school student or a college student. Someone that will sit with your kids and do HW. You need to get out of the loop and have some quality time that is not spent in conflict. Also, you may consider hiring a certified ADHD coach to help with strategies the will allow your house to run smoother. The ADHD coach could also assist you in advocating for your children. Finally, just make sure you take care of YOU when you are so tired you are not much help to anyone.I wish I could reassure you everything will be fine in the morning But....................every day is a struggle. I think many of us have felt very similar. I know I have. I came very close to running away from home. I fantasized in my mind how I could empty out the bank account hop on a plane and disapear. Of course I came around after a while, but every day brings a new struggle and a new joy. Maybe your child hits a home run or gets a B on a spelling test or was able to concentrate long enough to read a chapter in a book. I don't know...............................just look for the hidden blessing in the day. And know you are not alone!
It sounds like you need a day off to re-coup do you have any family that can help? How about since your youngest is 9 rent a hotel room for the weekend for yourself and pamper yourself by shopping and doing what you want to do trust me you will feel great afterwards.