New ADHD Mom

Hi, I'm new to the forum and just wanted to introduce
myself. My son was diagnosed this past week and
we are starting Concerta tomorrow to see if it will
help. Caleb is 11 yrs. old and has been an active
little talker since I can remember. He only gets
physically hyper when he's really excited about
something. We've put off the testing for several
years but he's really having a hard time staying
focused at school and in other areas. He's our little
actor and does community theater - he's even having
trouble staying forcused at the theater now. So, we
thought we'd give meds a try even though we are
apprehensive. I got a little teary when I picked up the
meds tonight. Caleb said, "You don't like who I am
and you're trying to change me!" Talk about guilt!!
He has trouble with peers because he's a little to
"open" about everything - telling them his life story!
LOL It just started bothering him this year that he
doesn't really have any close friends. Then his
teacher (who is very supportive and had both of our
girls) told us that he struggles every morning to
settle himself to work. We tried changing his diet
and putting him to bed earlier, but that didn't seem to
help. So, here we are, trying meds. I wish I felt
better about it. :(Welcome Baaz........the best outcome for children with ADHD who take medication is when it is done in combination with family counseling and special accomodations in school. Medicaton alone is just one of the tools used to manage ADHD symptoms. Feel confident in your decisions and while making the decision to put your child on medication might be scary, the outcome of ADHD untreated down the road is a lot more scary. Good luck and keep us posted.

Baabz,

My son is 13 and without medication, he cannot write, sit in a chair for over 3 minutes, cannot keep his mouth closes and chews on everything in site.

We tried everything from diet to herbal to chiropractic to holistic and he does best on medication.  I have come to the realization that if (God forbid) was another type of disease, I would not hesitate to put him on medication.  We just can't see into their little brains and know what is going on.   But each child is different.

The good thing is that after being on medication for many years, my son now knows when he needs it and when he doesn't.  That doesn't mean that he always takes it, but he knows that he is getting out of control and cannot focus. 

Good luck and keep coming back.

Cindy

Baabz,

I, too, am new here, my 6 year will be starting meds next week probably, his school and now a child psychologist are saying ADHD and I will be making his MD give us any options to help him.   I can't really give any input on ADHD, or meds but I think it's important to remember that no matter what... 11, 12, 13 year olds tend to know EVERYTHING and feel that their parents don't know quite as much as they.  If given the chance, they'll rebel.  Keep in mind that peer pressure at this age is terrible and the less you talk about it in front of others, the less embarrassed he will feel and less he'll think about it. 

Observation is fine, but don't keep bothering him and asking questions, he'll end up having a complex about it.  The smoother the transition, the better... for any situation. 

I am trying to look at the situation in a positive way, the meds my son may be getting is something that his body needs and his body doesn't supply him with, so it's up to him and I to figure out which one's are best for him to be as successful and happy as possible.   Perhaps your son would like a book geared for his age, so he can read it in bed, he may have questions that he doesn't want to ask.... after all he's almost a TEENAGER and knows more than you. 

Well, first day went well. His teacher said that he
stayed on task and never came up to her desk (he
was coming up about a dozen times a day). I would
be super thrilled if he didn't have to up the dose!
That is my prayer, although I know it is unlikely.

He did say that his chest felt "cold and light". It
doesn't seem to bother him, but he just told me. It's
only 5 p.m. so I'm curious to see if he experiances
anything coming down from it. Hopefully not!  Maybe a little family counseling would help??? I feel for you. My 11 yr old s favorite saying is  "yeah give the kid a pill so you dont have to deal with it." and 'its a free country and I have rights..all men are equal"  BUT he knows that he needs the meds and they HELP him. He also knows he is jerking my chain for extra attention as if he doesn't get all my attention now.  Some of it is said with a  wink.  ONE THING  if you have an adhd child you need to toughen up and not let alot of it get too you. I know how hard it is but think of your health (mentally) too and please take care of you. Its not healthy to always be scared and worried. Stay in touch and talk  alot ..it helps.  We are all here for you.Yes - it's a hard decision.  Be patient with the meds as the first one you try, or the dosage you have, may not be exactly right.   Instead of letting him believe that you want to change him, let him know that you want to see the real 'Caleb'.  My son described it this way:  "People are like books.  At first, you only want to read the one with the cool cover, but sometimes what is written on the pages isn't as cool as the cover.  Then, you read the one with the weird cover, and what is written on the pages is really great.  I just have to find a way to let people see what is really on my pages."  Pretty insightful.

Welcome ot the forum and keep on reading.  There is a lot of information that can help you help your boy.

Thanks everyone!  I do love this board!  Yes - I can be a bit wimpy when it comes to my kids.  I probably do need to toughen up a little.  I'm sure Caleb knows how to get to me - brainy, creative kids can be great little manipulators. :)

He took his first dose of Concerta this morning - 18 mg.  So, we'll see how it goes.  I would love to see results and not have to up it, but that doesn't sound likely from what I've read.  He is not terribly hyper - just talks a lot and invades peoples space. 

The Dr. did councel with Caleb for a while, and he understands that if he doesn't like the treatment we will stop.  I think once he's on it a couple of days he won't think much of it anymore.  We'll see.  Thanks for all the support!!

Hang in there, we've all been there. It's a hard thing to do, I know, and it trulyu is a struggle. We are all here for you.

HI this has to be one of the hardest things I think as a mother that I will ever have to face.  My son is 6 years old and just diagnosed with ADHA.  The specialist we met with charged us $197.00 an hours and told me my son was fine then 2 weks later my doctors calles me with a completely different report by the same doctor, talk about being confused.  In a nut shell my doctors is suggesting concerta 18 mg.  I have been on the boards reading and there are alot of scary stories about any medication.  my husband and I have been talking and we have decided to go for it and try it.  Are there any success stories out there that will help ease my concern.  Please advise me if any....Thank You!

 

Hi, I'm also new to the forum tonight and am very glad to have found this sight.  My oldest son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 7 years old.  Since that time, he has been on every stimulant out there and is currently on Strattera, which I'm not too sure about.  It seems to help a little and he does have his personality back but with that comes a lot of his moodiness and emotional meltdowns.  The doctor has sent us to counseling and refused to put him back the the stimulant for now.  However, she only sees him once every 3 months for 30 minutes/session.  My son is now 9 years old and enrolled in a new school.  We live day to day, pray, and research.  I will be anxious to hear from all of you who have been down this road and have any insight.    Maggie
hi all i am also new to this my son is 4 yrs old and he have just found out that he has ADHD.. His Bio frather has it.. but is not in the pic. My little man is very hyper, cant set for more the 5mins it is carzy in a car lol .. But he is a very special child very creative , loves to play video games yes at four he is better at some of them than i am.. we have tryed some meds but no luck as of yet.. would love to talk to more ADHD Moms and Dads

welcome maggie and learock - great to have you aboard

 

There's a lot of us newbies! It's nice to have a place
to go where everyone understands isn't it? I'm also
very thankful for this board!
An update on Caleb - He's been on Concerta since
Wednesday. The Dr. had said that he should have
one pill a day the first week and then two the second,
but I think we are going to keep him on one. Right
now, that is doing it for him. He hasn't been up to
bug his teacher for three days, she said that when
working in groups he uses a normal voice instead of
being so loud, he isn't showing any side effects -
sleeping well and eating well and is an all around
happy guy. Now, this could just be a fluke, but I can't
tell you how much I have prayed over this! If he only
needs one pill a day I will feel much better about this
whole process!
Caleb is only hyper when he is excited, other than
that it's just mainly talking and focusing that he has
trouble with. Oh - he's also aced all of his school
work the past two days! All 100%'s! His teacher
says that he gets right to work and doesn't stop until
he's finished. She has seen a huge improvement.
Pray that it continues!!!

[QUOTE=Baabz]There's a lot of us newbies! It's nice to have a place
to go where everyone understands isn't it? I'm also
very thankful for this board!
An update on Caleb - He's been on Concerta since
Wednesday. The Dr. had said that he should have
one pill a day the first week and then two the second,
but I think we are going to keep him on one. Right
now, that is doing it for him. He hasn't been up to
bug his teacher for three days, she said that when
working in groups he uses a normal voice instead of
being so loud, he isn't showing any side effects -
sleeping well and eating well and is an all around
happy guy. Now, this could just be a fluke, but I can't
tell you how much I have prayed over this! If he only
needs one pill a day I will feel much better about this
whole process!
Caleb is only hyper when he is excited, other than
that it's just mainly talking and focusing that he has
trouble with. Oh - he's also aced all of his school
work the past two days! All 100%'s! His teacher
says that he gets right to work and doesn't stop until
he's finished. She has seen a huge improvement.
Pray that it continues!!![/QUOTE]

I'm so happy for you!  Thanks for sharing your good news. < =text/>

Chiropractors can help children with ADHD - Look for a Chiropractic Neurologist in your area - Treatments to increase/decrease the rate of firing for a specific brain hemisphere is the key for the treatment. Read more...
Chiropractors Offer Hope and Help to Children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
In the past decade, prescriptions for Ritalin, a stimulant medication commonly used for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), increased five-fold, with 90 percent of all prescriptions worldwide consumed in the United States. As many parents grow leery of the traditional medical approach to ADHD, doctors of chiropractic are offering promising results with non-drug treatments that focus on postural muscles, nutrition and lifestyle changes that affect brain activity.

Some children may simply have difficulty learning certain subjects, but the current system—in a sense—prompts school officials to encourage their parents to have the children diagnosed with ADHD, says Dr. Scott Bautch, past president of the American Chiropractic Association (ACA) Council on Occupational Health. "The higher the number of disabled kids in the school, the more funding the school can apply for," says Dr. Bautch.

Some teachers might also have difficulty with students who have a different style of learning, according to Dr. Bautch. If the child is a visual learner—and the teacher is not—perhaps the child is not being taught in a way he or she can learn. Before diagnosing the child with ADHD, Dr. Bautch recommends doctors talk to the child and the parents: "Is the child too active? Bored? Has dyslexia or a different learning pattern? It can be a behavior problem, problems at home, or frustrations with the teacher's style," explains Dr. Bautch. "If we went to a conference where the speakers taught in a way we can't learn, we would be frustrated and would misbehave—we'd get up and leave or chat to the person sitting next to us."

The traditional medical model, however, seems to follow the cookie-cutter principle. The diagnosis of ADHD is based on a questionnaire. But this is not enough, says Dr. Robert Melillo, a chiropractic neurologist. "True ADHD patients have other signs — tics, tremors, balance or postural problems, or unusual sensitivity to touch, movement, sights, or sounds." Unfortunately, although medications can keep ADHD under control, they don't cure it. Eighty percent of patients have ADHD features in adolescence, and up to 65 percent maintain them in adulthood.

Doctors of chiropractic and chiropractic neurologists offer a non-drug and non-invasive treatment alternative for ADHD patients that targets the underlying problems, not just symptoms. "Motor activity—especially development of the postural muscles—is the baseline function of brain activity. Anything affecting postural muscles will influence brain development. Musculoskeletal imbalance will create imbalance of brain activity, and one part of the brain will develop faster than the other, and that's what's happening in ADHD patients," says Dr. Melillo.

Chiropractic neurologists are trained to identify the underfunctioning part of the brain and find treatments to correct the problem, to help that hemisphere grow. "On every patient, we perform a brain function exam," says Dr. Frederick Carrick, president of the ACA Council on Neurology. "We test visual and auditory reflexes through, for example, flashing light in the eye, or asking patients to listen to music in one or the other ear."

When the problem is identified, patients are placed on a treatment program—and most of the therapies can be done at home. "Patients are asked to smell certain things several times a day ... or wear special glasses," says Dr. Mark S. Smith, a chiropractic neurologist. "We also focus on their individual problems. Some children, for example, have difficulty with planning, organization, and coordination—so they benefit from timing therapies. They learn to clap or tap to the metronome, perform spinning and balancing exercises."

Although currently no studies comparing chiropractic neurological and medical treatment for ADHD are available, chiropractic neurologists are compiling the data. "We test children before they start the treatment and then every three months," says Dr. Melillo. "Within the first three months, the children get a two-grade-level increase on average—which is pretty dramatic. With children on medications, the improvement in academic performance is short term and lasts only as long as they take the medication. Our programs change the brain function and the improvement doesn't go away."

While chiropractic neurologists have found success in treating ADHD and learning disabilities by providing the necessary brain stimulation, they also recommend nutrition and lifestyle changes that may help correct or prevent biochemical imbalances that cause ADHD. Parents are encouraged to:
  • Remove as many food dyes, sugar, preservatives, and additives from the diet as possible.
  • Focus on natural, mostly organic foods with as few pesticides or herbicides as possible.
  • Determine if there is an allergy—usually starting with dairy and gluten and try elimination diets.
  • Stop using pesticide sprays in the house.
  • Avoid taking medications, nicotine, alcohol, and other drugs in pregnancy that may harm the fetus.
  • Find ways to relax during pregnancy. Stress on the job may affect the unborn baby's health, as well.
  • Breastfeed. The first months and years of a child's life are critical to physical and psychological development. Breastfeeding mothers' diets are important as well.
Chiropractic Care Can Help...
If you or your loved one is diagnosed with ADHD or has the symptoms, ask your doctor of chiropractic if he or she has experience treating patients with the condition. Doctors of chiropractic are trained to identify neurological problems and find individual non-invasive treatment modalities. They can also assess your nutritional status and help you find the diet that will help you manage your condition.

Chiropractic in Cyberspace...
For information on how to properly diagnose ADHD, the effects of stimulant medications, substance abuse problems related to ADHD, treatment of learning disabilities, ADHD causes and prevention, ADHD and diet, and other health and wellness topics, visit us today at www.acatoday.com or call us at 800/986-4636.
Try not to feel too guilty.  You are just trying to do your best, as are the rest of us.  One thing that helped us was to equate the medication to being like corrective glasses.  Your not trying to "change him"  you trying to give him the tools that will help him be the best that he can be, like wearing glasses to correct his vision.  ( I hope that makes sense). 
 

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